When you meet someone for the first time, your hormones are jumping with joy, and you feel like you are on top of the world. The initial spark does not last for too long, being replaced by deeper feelings (but not that passionate).
The longer a couple is in a relationship, the more it will seem like you have lost that excitement. Before you enter into a state of desperation, you should know that it is possible to rekindle your love and bring back passionate sex in your relationship.
#1 Go for excitement
A long-term couple might want to do more romantic things together, as a comeback to the first time they got together. However, romance is not what you actually need, especially if you want to rekindle the flame of passion. You need excitement, so it is important to seek out thrilling experiences together.
When you do exciting things together, you will also find it easier to become aroused. You can use that excitement to have some fun in the bedroom; once you will feel aroused, you will definitely have a more satisfying sexual experience. Keep in mind that there are natural remedies that can be used to increase fertility in men – if you are interested in having children as well.
It is also important to find experiences that you both find thrilling. This is because women and men experience things at a different level, including sexually. According to a study on sexual satisfaction and relationship happiness, men are more satisfied in long-term relationships. Women, on the other, reported lower satisfaction rates.
#2 Open relationships
Humans are among the few creatures that roam this planet who are monogamous, experiencing intense emotional bonds with their partners but also a more monotonous sexual intercourse with the passing of time. An open relationship might be just the thing you needed to spice things up.
Open relationships are not for everyone, but they can provide you with that rush of adrenaline, helping you feel aroused once more and increase your overall sexual satisfaction. This is one of the things you can do to improve your sex life; you can also consider the effect of exercise on sperm motility.
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Returning to the open relationship idea, it is important to talk about things with your partner. It is important that you both agree to such changes, especially since it will represent a big turn in your relationship. You can also try out for a short period of time and see how it goes; if you both feel alright, you can pursue it for a longer time frame.
What happens if you find that open relationships are not for you? There are still some ways you can bring arousal back into the picture. You can go to a bar and flirt with other people; you can go dancing and try different partners. Or, if you want, you can watch erotica or porn movies together. The choice is yours.
#3 New experiences
When you have been together for a long period of time, you have come to know everything about one another. While familiarity is great, it can also be a downer, eliminating the thrill in a relationship. For this reason, you need to challenge yourselves and try out new experiences together.
The moment you and your partner do something for the first time, you will see him/her from a completely new perspective. And, no matter how silly this might sound, this will also make you feel more attracted to him/her. It is that simple – you are discovering a new side of your partner, one that is definitely appealing.
A new experience can be represented by anything but, in general, you might want to go for something that gets your blood pumping. The moment a couple goes through a challenging experience; they feel closer together and, definitely, more attracted to one another.
You can go bungee jumping, try out the new rollercoaster or take part in different competitions. If you want to obtain even greater results, you can compete against one another. This will stimulate your central nervous system, making you feel even more aroused.
#4 Take a break from one another
Long-term couples spend every second together, doing everything in common and, thus, they end up feeling like there is nothing to be surprised about anymore. Taking a break from one another can be difficult at first but, as soon as you will give it a try, you will understand why it is so beneficial.
Couples love routine but, in reality, it is routine that is actually killing their spark. Routine affects sexual satisfaction, and it leads to frustration, so everyone should consider taking a break from time to time. After some time spent apart, you will find your partner more attractive, your feelings becoming more intense.
A break does not necessarily have to mean spending weeks apart. It can be taken in the form of a day spent at the spa. Or, if you want, you can spend some time with your friends, while your partner does the same thing. At the end of the day, you can reconnect, feeling more drawn to one another.
#5 More sex
While this might sound like a strange thing to say, you need to have more sex. Even when you are in a long-term relationship, sex remains one of the best ways to connect with your partner and feel satisfied. The brain releases happiness hormones with sexual intercourse, hence a major benefit to consider.
For long-term couples, sex becomes a routine, and this is one of the main reasons that they are not as interested in such experiences. What you need to do is take routine out of the bedroom, bringing back what was once thrilling. Try to have spontaneous sex, without too much planning or discussions.
You can also consider spicing things up in the bedroom; you can use sex toys, watch dirty movies together or try some role-playing. What matters is that you take your time to have fun with one another, rekindling the flame of passion. You might also want to send some time aside for this naked fun so that you do not come with the excuse of not having time.
Relationships are difficult, especially when they have extended over decades. Sometimes, it can be challenging to maintain the same feelings you had at the beginning of the relationship; however, the thing you want to remember is that it is possible to rekindle love and bring back sexual satisfaction.
Do not seek out for things to be the way they were at the beginning; the start of a relationship is defined by hormones and thrills. Instead, seek out for ways to discover new sides of you and your partner. Have more sex, go out and try new things together. Be together, without transforming everything into a routine.