Enhance Your Child’s Self-EsteemAre you struggling to find a way to boost your child’s self-esteem and motivate them?

If you’re nodding your head to this question, introducing your child to affirmations could really create wonderful changes in their life (and yours) – especially if they’re a teenager.

Affirmations are a popular strategy used for positively programming your child’s subconscious mind, and can be used as a motivational tool to enhance their self-esteem. Affirmations are clear, concise, positive suggestions designed to influence their subconscious to create a specific outcome.

So if your child is struggling with their self-esteem, try arming them with some of the affirmations below. But before you get started, there are four rules you must follow when creating affirmations.

1) Your child’s affirmations must be short, positive and stated in the present tense.

Remember the subconscious is the bottom line; if their affirmations are too long, wordy, or negatively stated, it may create some confusion and forfeit their outcome – so cut to the chase.

2) Be sure your child repeats their affirmations silently with their eyes closed and with strong, sincere emotion.

Their attitude and emotional intensity will subconsciously place their affirmations on a priority status.

3) The ideal time for your child to repeat their affirmations is as they are drifting off to sleep.

Their final thoughts while entering sleep will be filed away at a deep subconscious level creating stronger lasting impressions and speedier results.

4) Avoid affirmations containing the word, “don’t.”

A child’s mind will always overlook a double-negative. If you tell a child, “Don’t slam the door,” the brain does not register the word, “don’t,” and instead hears the command, “slam the door.” As a result they will slam that door hard. The word “don’t” is too abstract for their mind to comprehend. You will get a better result if you say, “Close the door quietly.” In this case they hear the word, “quietly” instead of the word, “slam.”

Here are some awesome self-esteem affirmations to help your children get started. I’ve successfully used all of these with my own children, so I hope these have the same successes with your children.

  • “Everyday, in every way, I am getting better and better!”

  • “I see the good in myself”

  • “I am a worthwhile human being”

  • “I am proud of myself!”

  • “I am proud of my accomplishments”

  • “I enjoy being happy and cheerful”

  • “I know I’m important”

  • “I can do anything I focus my mind on”

  • “I enjoy helping others”

  • “I am a peaceful human being”

It’s important to remember that your child’s self-esteem is their own subconscious résumé describing who they think they are, their limits and a myriad of other beliefs. As parents we can help our children to utilize affirmations for making major shifts in how they see themselves.

This is an important positive step in their psychological and physiological development. From one parent to another, I wish you luck and success!

In addition to the above examples, are there any other affirmations you think we should add to the list? Please do share them below, especially if you have children or if you have regular contact with them, and have successfully been using affirmations to boost their self-esteem.


John Eric is a practicing hypnotherapist, consultant and motivational speaker for almost three decades. His Kids in Trance Program is the only program of its kind effectively teaching parents how to use clinical hypnotherapy and auto-suggestion with their kids.