Sometimes no matter how strongly we feel about another person, our relationship always seems like a battle we will never win. Sometimes relationships struggle because the energy of the different people in the relationship just doesn’t mesh, and their energy pushes against each other rather than intermingling to create something sublime.
A person’s astrological chart can tell you a lot about their energy. Looking at someone’s sun sign alone can only give you a broad-brush picture of their natural energy – a full birth chart is needed for a more refined and personal picture. Nevertheless, if a relationship is struggling, knowing the signs of the two different parties and how they interact can be useful.
Some signs are generally incompatible, and the relationships between these signs will always be difficult. This doesn’t always mean that you should give up if you love the person. But knowing why your energy is pushing against each other can be useful in deciding whether to continue and when to try to make it work.
So which star signs are the least compatible when it comes to relationships?
Aries (March 21-April 19)
Aries have the drive to excel and be the best. This gives them a charisma that can be extremely attractive, but their focus on themselves can quickly drive people away. Aries tends to be so focused on their feelings and desires that they can miss important signals about how the other person in the relationship is feeling.
This makes Aries pretty incompatible with Cancer, whose deep empathy and awareness of others leaves Aries seeming shallow and selfish.
Aries should practice learning to put themselves in their partner’s shoes to have better relationships.
Taurus (April 20-May 20)
Taurus is highly in tune with the needs of others, making them a sensitive and empathetic partner. They can tend to put their partner’s needs above their own, to such an extent that they end up making themselves unhappy. They then blame their partner, even though they never asked Taurus to make the sacrifices that they chose to make.
Taurus and Leo don’t make a good match, as Leo will feed on Taurus’ tendency to worship them, quickly draining Taurus of their spirit.
Taurus should work on knowing what is important to them personally and putting this first to improve relationships. Partners will respect them for it.
Gemini (May 21-June 20)
Gemini is always the life of the party and can get on with anyone. They jump into new relationships quickly, but their changeable nature means that they are often short-lived as they look for the next adventure. Partners may find Gemini’s lack of focus frustrating and interpret it as insecurity.
Gemini can struggle in relationships with Virgo and Pisces. Both signs want to form a deep and exclusive connection and can find it difficult to live with Gemini’s flighty nature.
To have better relationships, Gemini should focus on looking for the newness and adventure in what they already have, rather than always looking outwards for the next thing.
Cancer (June 21-July 22)
Cancer is extremely intuitive and empathetic and can form deep connections with others quickly. They have an instinctive aversion to conflict and will do almost anything to avoid it. This is useful when it comes to working through the rough patches that all relationships suffer, but they can tend to flex too far and then suffer in silence, leading to resentment.
Cancer is least compatible with Aries and Libra. Aries focus on themselves will take advantage of Cancer’s tendency to flex, and quickly spoil the relationship. Libra is a pleaser like Cancer, and when together they can both compromise so much that neither gets what they need.
To improve relationships Cancer needs to work on knowing when to flex and when to stand firm.
Leo (July 23-August 22)
Leo is self-confidence and dominant, and always need attention and to feel like a superstar. While they are always loving and generous in relationships, they are also focused on their own needs, and can often unwittingly trample on the needs of others to get what they want. They are also very controlling and struggle when things aren’t their way.
Leo and Taurus don’t make a good match, as Taurus’ flexibility means that they are easily trampled by Leo. A Leo will also struggle with Scorpio, who is also dominant and controlling, as they will struggle to compromise.
The Leo person needs to learn to share both the limelight and control. They need to realize that just as they thrive off these things, so will their partner.
Virgo (August 23-September 22)
Virgo knows who they are, and they stay true to that person at all times. Despite this self-awareness, or perhaps because of it, they are generally overly critical of themselves. They worry that others see the same flaws that they fixate on. This can lead to insecurity in relationships.
Virgo is least compatible with Gemini and Sagittarius as neither tends to reinforce Virgo’s ego in the way that they need, and their independent tendencies can feed Virgo’s insecurities.
Virgo needs to work on accepting themselves for who they are and accepting that others can love them as they are, flaws and all.
Libra (September 23-October 22)
Libra is naturally social and feeds off the energy of others. This can make them very focussed on finding a romantic partner, which can sometimes come across as a bit needy. Libra will bend over backward to make a relationship work. However, this can often see them sacrificing their happiness in the process.
Libra and Cancer make a difficult pair as both tend to compromise too much, meaning that no one in the relationship gets what they want.
To improve relationships, Libra needs to work on knowing what they need in life and a relationship and speaking up about those needs.
Scorpio (October 23-November 21)
Scorpio is ambition and focused and tend always to get what they want. They are secretive about their feelings, though never dishonest, and they can’t stand dishonesty in others. Scorpios have a tendency to be jealous and suspicious, and this often manifests in unhealthy ways.
Scorpio doesn’t mesh well with Leo or Aquarius. Scorpio and Leo are both dominant and controlling and will struggle to make the necessary compromises to make a relationship work. Aquarius is too secretive for Scorpio, pushing many of their suspicion buttons.
Scorpio needs to work on their jealous streak, and understanding when their partner’s actions justify their suspicions, and when their jealousy is more about their own insecurities.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
Always ready for an adventure and with an infectious sense of humor, Sagittarius never stays in the same spot for long. They treasure their freedom above all things. A Sagittarius struggles against anything that threatens to hold them down, including relationships. They also tend to be a little tactless and superficial.
They do not make a good pair with Virgo or Pisces. Sagittarius will feel tied down by both signs, and Virgo and Pisces will be particularly unaccepting of Sagittarius’ flippant tendencies.
Sagittarius needs to remember that words can be weapons and to wield them wisely. They also need to remember that not every new adventure requires abandoning all that came before.
Capricorn (December 22-January 19)
Ambitious and hard-working, Capricorn focuses on building safety and security in life. They are fiercely independent and are always loving in relationships. However, they are reluctant to make serious sacrifices of any of their own needs and desires for their partner.
Capricorn struggles with Aries and Leo, as all these signs find it difficult to make the required compromises to accommodate the needs of others. Capricorn also doesn’t make a good match with Libra; their inability to give will quickly sap Libra of their joy in the relationship.
Capricorn needs to work on their generosity. They must accept that if they expect other people to make compromises for them, they will need to do the same.
Aquarius (January 20-February 18)
Aquarius may seem shy and quiet, but they are just playing it close to the chest. They are eccentric, energetic, and adapt easily to new situations. Their biggest challenge is the feeling of being limited or constrained, including in relationships.
Aquarius are least compatible with Taurus and Scorpio as both tend to be controlling, and Aquarius finds this stifling.
Aquarius needs to make sure that their sense of independence isn’t interpreted as neglect by their partners.
Pisces (February 19-March 20)
Friendly and selfless, Pisces thrive in the company of others. Never judgmental, Pisces are always accepting and forgiving, though in relationships they can tend to forgive when they shouldn’t. Pisces has a desire to be liked by everyone they meet. They can sometimes go a bit far to achieve this.
Pisces is least compatible with Gemini and Sagittarius. A Pisces may think that both are a bit superficial and can’t give them the deep connection that they seek.
The Pisces person needs to remember that it is not important that everyone they meet likes them, and that showing their true selves is more important than being liked.