Do you find it easy to forgive people who hurt or abused you in some way? Forgiving a person who mistreated you does not make what they did ok. Nor does it mean that one has to spend time with them.

However, choosing to love, rather than resent, takes you to a higher vibrational level so you can attract good things. It’s a win-win situation for you.

“Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of self-giving love.”
– Mahatma Gandhi

The trouble is, forgiveness is often easier said than done, especially when someone’s actions have hurt you.

So how do you forgive people and find compassion in your heart when you’re feeling the opposite?

4 Ways to Forgive People Who Have Wronged You

1. Mind Your Vibration

Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.Your business is to mind your vibrational level and keep it high with love, happiness, and joy. This takes focus, energy, and attention and reaps rich rewards.

When you take the focus off the other person and keep it on yourself, you don’t get sucked into the vibration-lowering energy of blame, resentment, and anger. Being unforgiving keeps you at the lower vibrational level of your abuser.

When you forgive people, you’re making a choice that raises your vibrational level as high as you want. You move from victim to master of your life. How wonderful is that?

2. Watch the Ego

Here we have to be vigilant because the ego likes to be right. It wants to take revenge and get even.Silhouette of a angry woman and man on each other.Relationship difficulties

The reason you have to be careful is that it’s highly likely that you are right and that the person should not have hurt you. However, getting revenge does not serve you.

Know that the abuser is creating their negative vibration and activating Newton’s 3rd Law of Motion, which states that every action creates an equal and opposite reaction (sometimes known as the Law of Cause and Effect or karma).

We must choose, therefore, between being right and being happy. And being happy is always the best choice!

3. Feel Love Expanding

As you continue to put your energy, attention, and focus on being happy, a miracle occurs. Love grows and expands, filling up your inner well and then overflowing for others to share and enjoy.

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4. Experience Gratitude Arising

Being thankful for all of our experiences magnifies our happiness. Gratitude lifts us into a realm of possibility where dreams really can come true. It helps us access a place where trust, creativity, and imagination reside.

As you live joyfully and contentedly, regardless of your situation, you discover that joy is not dependent on anything or anyone. It arises from within you. It is already there as you already have what you seek.

Vintage style photo of two hearts shape draw on the sand of a beach in morning timeWhen you choose love over an adverse reaction, you bring yourself to a higher vibrational level of joy, peace, and happiness. You, therefore, attract more love. Your life becomes easier, more fulfilling, and purposeful.

Love is truth. Whenever you speak your truth, love is there. While the other person might not agree with or like what you say, love has a depth and a resonance that will keep you in alignment with your true self and serve you. You might not understand how right away, but in time, all things become clear.

Always choose love. Choosing to forgive people brings love to the situation, even if you are the only one doing so.


Pragito Dove is a master trainer, international speaker, and meditation expert who teaches people how to transform pain and fear into joy and inner peace in order to achieve real world success. A best-selling author and thought leader on visionary thinking, she is dedicated to re-igniting passion and vision in people's lives, and making abundance accessible to all. As a featured columnist on The Huffington Post, Pragito urges her readers to step into the greatest creative expression of who they are.