Last week, I discussed whether ADHD in children is a gift and not a disorder. To follow from this topic, today I’ll be looking at how you can empower your child to use their greatest gifts.

Who Has The Power To Empower?

Teachers and coaches have a powerful influence on the perceptions that children create of themselves. These adults may help children feel empowered – or they can contribute to an overwhelming sense of self-doubt in your child’s life.

Before you try medication or buy my modalert from Nixest, as a first step you should pay attention to anyone who gives your child structures, tries to guide them, or is in a position to teach them. Find out how your child feels about these people and why.

How People Can Squash Your Child’s Strengths

Every child expresses a unique quality of being – an inner energy that they express effortlessly. Some are born with a higher energy while others are naturally more subdued.

As outlined last week, I have found that each child’s unique energy can be described in four general types. Children of all four types can receive negative judgment for the energy they naturally express.

When we negatively label a child’s natural energy, we are telling them that their very being needs to change. For many children, this happens at school, in an environment where they can be expected to comply and conform, rather than celebrated for who they are.

How to Speak Up

If you think your child has been negatively labeled at school, approach the situation by being prepared.

Learn which of the four energy types your child expresses, and you will be able to anticipate which negative judgments your child may have received. You will also know how to clearly explain your child’s greatest strengths to their teacher or coach.

Consider the four types of children below:

The Fun-Loving Type One Child

These children’s greatest strengths are their endless ideas and bright sense of hope.

Because they are so effervescent, they can be judged as hyper or air-headed. In a classroom setting, they may be punished for expressing their high, social energy. They may be mislabeled as irresponsible, flaky, or messy.

What to speak up about:

  • Share your child’s natural facility to learn quickly.
  • Recommend unstructured, hands-on learning, as well as regular outlets for social interaction.

The Sensitive Type Two Child

These children’s greatest strengths are their gentle hearts and peaceful presence.

Because they are naturally tender-hearted, they can be judged as wishy-washy or weak. They may also be overlooked because they tend to blend into the background. They may be mislabeled as shy, timid, or overly sensitive.

What to speak up about:

  • Share your child’s methodical process and sensitive nature.
  • Recommend giving advance notice if your child will be asked to participate in front of the class – either the day before or the morning of.

The Determined Type Three Child

These children’s greatest strengths are their encouraging natures and their drive for results.

Because they are naturally determined, their fiery energy can be misread as defiant. If they feel stifled in a classroom setting, they will naturally push against boundaries – sometimes physically. They may be mislabeled as demanding, aggressive, or pushy.

What to speak up about:

  • Share your child’s hands-on ability to learn.
  • Recommend a challenge! These children love to figure things out quickly and with a deadline.

The More Serious Type Four Child

These children’s greatest strengths are their ability to see the big picture and their sense of respect.

Because their communication style is straightforward and direct, they can be misunderstood as blunt. While they generally excel within the structure of school, they may reach an extreme where they are mislabeled as antisocial, know-it-all, bossy, or OCD.

What to speak up about:

  • Share your child’s ability to see and understand the big picture.
  • Recommend that discipline happens in relative privacy and that it never takes place in front of the entire class.
How We Really Empower Them

No matter what teachers, coaches or mentors say, children always come back to what their parents think.

Every adult grows up with the voice of their parent echoing in their head.

If you’re a parent, you are the most important voice your child will grow up with. Do you judge your sensitive child as shy – or honor him as more sensitive? Do you judge your fun-loving child as flighty – or honor her as spontaneous?

When your child feels squashed at school, your empowering voice may be the one that saves him or her from self-doubt. Speak up. Your child will hear you saying, “You are good enough, just the way you are.”

If you’re a parent or if you work with children, how do you honor their qualities, especially those that may be tainted with the ADHD label?  

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Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, and energy healer. For over 20 years, she has supported tens of thousands worldwide in understanding and living true to their energy. Her current project, The Energy Healer’s Master Course, gives individuals eye-opening tools to heal their lives and become healers themselves.