The good news is there is nothing wrong with you. Most likely you just don’t know how to be happy.
But it doesn’t need to be a struggle as there are many small and easy things you can do each day to lift your mood, which can produce significant results – literally in a few days.
Interested to learn what they are? Check out my favorite happiness tips and apply them to your week.
1) Monday: Overcome the Monday Blues
Do you wake up every Monday morning with the same nasty feeling?
Reverse this by starting your morning by visualizing the day in front of you. Think only about having positive results. For example, visualize that you will get to work on time, that a project you’ve been working on will be approved, and that your boss will praise you.
This will shift your attitude to expect positive things, helping you to feel much better. What’s more, people will feel your new attitude and will start to react in a similar way, since by changing yourself, you will change the people around you.
Task: Visualize positive outcomes of the day in front of you. Do this for at least five minutes in the morning while you’re still in your bed, or as you’re getting ready. Continue this for next 30 days and you’ll feel a noticeable shift in both your internal and external worlds.
When will you know you’ve really succeeded? When you wake up Monday morning and jump out of bed feeling happy and excited about the day!
2) Tuesday: Stop Complaining
Do you complain from time-to-time?
Make a fresh start by giving up this vice. It’s easy to complain about everything and everybody, especially when we have somebody else to blame (i.e., the government, our neighbors, or our spouse).
Once you stop complaining about the world, you’ll start to notice that there are actually plenty of things to be happy about.
Task: Write down on a piece of paper five things you complain about the most. Take the card with you and put it in your wallet so you have it always in your reach. Each time you recall one of those five things and get the urge to complain about it, shift your focus by thinking about something that makes you smile.
How will you know when you’ve succeeded? When you forget why on earth you’re carrying this strange card around with you!
3) Wednesday: Reward Yourself
Do you value your achievements? Or do you take them for granted?
Start rewarding yourself for your achievements by giving yourself rewards that match the level of achievement.
We tend to spend so much time punishing ourselves for the things we do wrong, therefore, make a conscious effort to switch this thought process around by rewarding yourself for all the good that you do.
Task: Every evening, think about something you achieved that day. If you achieved something, plan how you will reward yourself and organize this reward as soon as you can.
How will you know when you’ve succeeded? When you notice that you’re rewarding yourself practically everyday.
4) Thursday: Praise Others
Do you feel better when someone praises you?
Well, we all do.
When someone praises you for your efforts, you immediately feel better and often want to say similar words in return to make them feel appreciated too.
It’s one of our deep-rooted human behaviors, but can also be seen in the animal kingdom too. For example, when continual praise is given to a customs search dog, they start to repeat the same action so they receive praise again.
Task: Everyday for a week, praise at least three other people for what they do well. It can be to the person serving you coffee in the morning, or a colleague. The only condition being is that it must be sincere and come deep from your heart. Otherwise others will feel your insincerity, and you too will receive nothing.
How will you know when you’ve succeeded? When giving and receiving praise becomes part of your day, everyday.
5) Friday: Write Down Your Happiness Goals
“People are happy precisely to the extent to which they want to be happy.” Abraham Lincoln
Task: Take a piece of paper and write down in one sentence precisely how happy you want to be. Do you want to be the person that walks into the room feeling happy and confident? Write it down and start living it.
How will you know when you’ve achieved these goals? When you start living the life of your dreams.
These are my never-fail tips to improve my happiness levels. What are some of yours?