Have you ever had a strong longing or desire to “throw caution to the wind” and just *do* something you’ve always wanted to do? It could be a desire to start your own business, ask your boss for a pay rise, go skydiving, to say hello to that person you really like…or just to get started at the gym.

Then suddenly, without any warning, you receive that terrible phone call. You know how it goes: “Hi, this is your unconscious calling. I just wanted to let you know, you “can’t” do that, its too dangerous / you can’t afford it /  you don’t have the time / you’ll embarrass yourself / it’s too risky – or any other number of reasons you can think of.

You know that feeling, don’t you? The one where you really wanted to chase that goal or desire, and you didn’t do it! The opportunity passed you by and now you just wish you’d gone and done it.

Our Thoughts Dictate Our Actions

It’s self-evident: how we feel about ourselves and what we think of our own abilities and skills, in many ways determines what we do and what we don’t do! And in some cases that can leave us with regrets and missed opportunities.

The ironic side of this is, we all have enormous potential and it’s just our belief – or rather our “lack” of belief in ourselves (that’s programmed into our unconscious) that holds us back in life.

Telling Your Subconscious To Shut Up

So … what can you do when “I Can’t” calls *your* name?

Changing your entire mindset with one question

Well the answer is not all that complicated, and, I first stumbled upon it by observing my eldest son, Josh
Some years ago I was teaching him how to kick a football (not a soccer ball, a football!). After about four or five attempts he was convinced he couldn’t do it. I asked him if he remembered when he first started learning to ride a pushbike, and just how convinced he was he couldn’t do it. Then I reminded him of how well he can ride a bike now.

So I asked him, “How did you learn to ride the pushbike?”

He replied with, “I really wanted to learn how to ride, and I just kept trying ‘till I got it!”.
Well then, I said, “do you really want to learn how to kick a football?” That simple question changed his entire mindset.

You Have Done So Many Amazing Things – Why Stop Now?

Each and everyone one of us has already done so many amazing things – like learning to ride a bike, learning to drive a car, learning to walk, leaving home and living on our own for the first time, learning how to talk to the opposite sex without making a fool of yourself (some of us are still learning to do that).  If you were to go back to any one of those times now, I’m sure there were a few “I can’t” moments in there, but you did it anyway.

We’ve just forgotten how to hang up on that “I can’t” call.

To get that skill back, we need to change the beliefs that we have about ourselves. We need to create new neural pathways, and destroy old limiting ones.

A good place to start is to remind yourself of all the times in the past when you received the “I can’t” call – and then just went out and did it anyway.

I like to think of it as the time when you hung up on “I can’t” and gave “I can” a call. I’m sure you can picture yourself doing this…can you not?

Then, start with small stuff – those little things that are just outside of your comfort zone. The reason this is so important is because, each time you challenge yourself, no matter how small it might seem, you create a new neural pathway, a new belief that “you can do it” and you rebuild your confidence and belief in yourself. Over time, your comfort zone will be expanding and you’ll be surprising yourself, everyday.

How To Expand Your Comfort Zone – Talking to your subconscious

If you wanted to speed up the process, you can also take advantage of some of the latest tools and developments in mind sciences and unconscious re-programming…and start rapidly turning your dreams into realities and results.

Examples of such tools of accelerated personal change are Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, and Subliminal Video Messaging. These kinds of technologies greatly enhance any self work that you do and significantly speed up the results.

By far the easiest of these methods (especially when you’re starting out), would have to be Subliminal Video Messaging – mainly because you can watch these videos on your own without any sort of learning curve, and it only takes a few minutes each day.  In a nutshell, subliminal videos “by-pass” your conscious mind and work directly with your unconscious (where all of your beliefs are stored), making them incredibly effective to create rapid positive change in the areas you most desire.

 

Oh! – one final thought, do you remember that little train that puffed away saying “I think I can, I think I can…”? Well if you have children then it’s a great story to tell them every so often. It’s called “The little Engine That Could” by Watty Piper.

P.S. Do you have limiting beliefs that are holding you back from becoming your best self?

The way we think about the world affects our experience in it — for good or for bad. Vishen Lakhiani’s transformational course, Consciousness Engineering, allows you to challenge any limiting beliefs you may hold. Try it out and live without limits today!

richard

richard

Richard is a Master Practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), Hypnosis, and Neurological Re-patterning™. He is also the co-founder of New You Life Coaching.

35 Comments

  • Avatar Hevio says:

    As a scientific applications programmer I had tough assignments in the past, of the kind people usually say "I`d never do that.It´s madness" but my attitud was such "It can't be so hard" and I always got the job done!

  • Avatar Hevio says:

    As a scientific applications programmer I had tough assignments in the past, of the kind people usually say “I`d never do that.It

  • Avatar Frank says:

    Why can't you provide this information in a hard copy

    format. My only access to a computor is at work. I would be happy to purchase a cd or DVD.

    I look forward to you news letters.

    Frank,

  • Avatar Frank says:

    Why can't you provide this information in a hard copy
    format. My only access to a computor is at work. I would be happy to purchase a cd or DVD.
    I look forward to you news letters.

    Frank,

  • I was a reserved left-brained engineer who was told my mission was to write books on wisdom and life purpose. (I had no idea at the time what that would be–most of the amazing events and synchronicities that occurred happened AFTER I committed my time and life to the writing of that book.)

    My book ended up being a memoir of my reconnecting and awakening process. A few years before, before I had my third and fourth drafts, my mind was often saying "Your writing sucks," "You have nothing to say," and other such things. (And it was right!) But I kept going because I was reconnecting to my higher self (my subconscious) and it was giving me insights and experiences that was giving my book much value and depth. With each draft I was also consciously learning to write better, and my book was later recognized as a finalist in a national award in the memoir category in 2008.

    I'm not sure any "subconscious programming" videos would have worked on me. I was not one to be fooled like that. I knew myself and I knew I would need to progress through my reconnecting (right-brained) and my conscious learning (left-brained.) Besides, I am clear that we cannot program our subconscious (our higher self.) The interesting thing is that our higher self has us programmed for certain learnings and experiences.

    For me, there is no such thing as an "unconscious mind." The unconscious is simply something you're not conscious about, what you don't know that you don't know.

    I am now working on a practical manual for 2012 and the "Great Awakening" and I no longer have those thoughts in my head that I don't have much to offer of value. I am clear that I do. But it was those "negative" thoughts that kept me going and learning and progressing that helped me offer my best. As you can probably guess, I am now grateful for those negative thoughts.

    Christine Hoeflich

    What Everyone Believed: A Memoir of Intuition and Awakening

  • I was a reserved left-brained engineer who was told my mission was to write books on wisdom and life purpose. (I had no idea at the time what that would be–most of the amazing events and synchronicities that occurred happened AFTER I committed my time and life to the writing of that book.)

    My book ended up being a memoir of my reconnecting and awakening process. A few years before, before I had my third and fourth drafts, my mind was often saying “Your writing sucks,” “You have nothing to say,” and other such things. (And it was right!) But I kept going because I was reconnecting to my higher self (my subconscious) and it was giving me insights and experiences that was giving my book much value and depth. With each draft I was also consciously learning to write better, and my book was later recognized as a finalist in a national award in the memoir category in 2008.

    I'm not sure any “subconscious programming” videos would have worked on me. I was not one to be fooled like that. I knew myself and I knew I would need to progress through my reconnecting (right-brained) and my conscious learning (left-brained.) Besides, I am clear that we cannot program our subconscious (our higher self.) The interesting thing is that our higher self has us programmed for certain learnings and experiences.

    For me, there is no such thing as an “unconscious mind.” The unconscious is simply something you're not conscious about, what you don't know that you don't know.

    I am now working on a practical manual for 2012 and the “Great Awakening” and I no longer have those thoughts in my head that I don't have much to offer of value. I am clear that I do. But it was those “negative” thoughts that kept me going and learning and progressing that helped me offer my best. As you can probably guess, I am now grateful for those negative thoughts.

    Christine Hoeflich
    What Everyone Believed: A Memoir of Intuition and Awakening

  • Avatar sheni says:

    I really reading your article, The things I have tried to change, especially my personal life. Whenever I have failed, I have gotten up & start again. But I belong to a family, who always had/have always criticized me in whatever I do or want to do. Always putting me down. Now I am always scared of whole situation or starting again, or to try again.- & my life seems to go darker & darker. I feel useless.

    • Avatar CarpeDiem says:

      Hi Sheni
      If you have grown up in this negative household then just make the change and move on to a new life. If you live/associate with the wrong kind you will end up the same…..ie how can you not become a criminal if the main people you associate are into that scene.

    • Avatar dee says:

      Sheni, stand on green grass, bare foot or on ground lookup with hands open towards the sky and say confindently, o universe give me joy peace and happiness i deserve, i am doing better every day. shower my family with your healing light and love. the darkness and negativety is gone. say this 3 times every day. blessings

  • Avatar sheni says:

    I really reading your article, The things I have tried to change, especially my personal life. Whenever I have failed, I have gotten up & start again. But I belong to a family, who always had/have always criticized me in whatever I do or want to do. Always putting me down. Now I am always scared of whole situation or starting again, or to try again.- & my life seems to go darker & darker. I feel useless.

    • Avatar CarpeDiem says:

      Hi Sheni
      If you have grown up in this negative household then just make the change and move on to a new life. If you live/associate with the wrong kind you will end up the same…..ie how can you not become a criminal if the main people you associate are into that scene.

  • Avatar Ina Bliss says:

    Once you have found your perfect partner and you both really L O V E one another, you will have everything you want!

    Everything else is idle talk.

    All the best of success,

    Ina

  • Avatar Ina Bliss says:

    Once you have found your perfect partner and you both really L O V E one another, you will have everything you want!

    Everything else is idle talk.

    All the best of success,

    Ina

  • Avatar mani says:

    well I thought the article was a very honest one without any bragging from the author. In fact many of us go through this all the time, the difference is only a few can create an opposing flow of thought to create a breakthrough pattern of new evolving set of thoughts. Lets all consciously repattern the self limiting, bigotted, prejudiced, fear filled lower mind and restructure it into a universally conscious mind. I am advocating a new consciousness – universal consciousness, lets all transcend all barriers that make us feel separate from each other. I thank this wonderful man for being part of this new wave of universal consciousness.

    Regards,

    Mani – Founder -Malaysian Yoga Society

  • Avatar mani says:

    well I thought the article was a very honest one without any bragging from the author. In fact many of us go through this all the time, the difference is only a few can create an opposing flow of thought to create a breakthrough pattern of new evolving set of thoughts. Lets all consciously repattern the self limiting, bigotted, prejudiced, fear filled lower mind and restructure it into a universally conscious mind. I am advocating a new consciousness – universal consciousness, lets all transcend all barriers that make us feel separate from each other. I thank this wonderful man for being part of this new wave of universal consciousness.

    Regards,

    Mani – Founder -Malaysian Yoga Society

  • Great article! I watched the video and read the article too. very good. Yes, we are so programmed from childhood with things we can´t do and I read somewhere that by the time we are 15 we have heard "you can´t" 150.000 times while we have heard "you can" only 5000 times. So we have a lot of reprogramming to do. I have read a lot about affirmations and subliminal messages since I am doing research all the time for my website on The Secret of Life. I have been practicing subliminal messages for 7 months – it is working, but I never had a video- I only used the audio. Great that you have provided a video we can watch. I will certainly watch this one twice a day. Thanks a lot. Best regards, Camillo

  • Great article! I watched the video and read the article too. very good. Yes, we are so programmed from childhood with things we can

  • Avatar Yana says:

    I am learning how to swim right now and as I'm 26 it is "a bit" difficult. I can swim a bit but I still can't jump in the pool and every time I try to I say to myself "no way! I can't do it!". I was saying the same when I was supposed to go from the shallow to the deep pool – "no way! Too deep! I can't do it!" but I did it :).

    Thank you for this post! It was very inspiring :)! Next time I say to myself that there's no way I'll jump in that pool, I'll remember all the things I thought I can't and I did :).

  • Avatar Yana says:

    I am learning how to swim right now and as I'm 26 it is “a bit” difficult. I can swim a bit but I still can't jump in the pool and every time I try to I say to myself “no way! I can't do it!”. I was saying the same when I was supposed to go from the shallow to the deep pool – “no way! Too deep! I can't do it!” but I did it :).

    Thank you for this post! It was very inspiring :)! Next time I say to myself that there's no way I'll jump in that pool, I'll remember all the things I thought I can't and I did :).

  • Avatar Sha says:

    I was born with the belife that I am unlimited, and able to perform anything I have in my mind, and so far ,never was disapointed. yes it’s all about mindset (and some tallent).

    keep up the good work, and DO allways your best, thats how you achive the mastery.

    May GOD bless you all.

    Sha

  • Avatar Sha says:

    I was born with the belife that I am unlimited, and able to perform anything I have in my mind, and so far ,never was disapointed. yes it's all about mindset (and some tallent).
    keep up the good work, and DO allways your best, thats how you achive the mastery.
    May GOD bless you all.
    Sha

  • Avatar sukanya says:

    true. its all abt thnking. two months my frnd recommended me to a college , to join for d post of a lecturer. i ws diffident. i thought d place ws far nd i cnt teach degree students. i didnt go. but today i regret it.

  • Avatar Timothy says:

    I was told to watch the "sublim" program 2 x's a day. When I get on this site I can search for over 25 minutes and still can not find it.n How do you Find the darn thing so that I can USE IT!!

  • Avatar Timothy says:

    I was told to watch the “sublim” program 2 x's a day. When I get on this site I can search for over 25 minutes and still can not find it.n How do you Find the darn thing so that I can USE IT!!

  • Avatar John Fisher says:

    I AM , SHE IS , AND WE CAN!

    I CAN is what I know will have to be.

    I am so energizied with being able to be open

    in this age of enlightenment.

    The 25 million year star cycle is upon us and

    the spectrum of new light can be radiant.

    I was is ill health so although I knew the light it took me a moment to adjust. But new light She gives me each day. And love I desire to return and to have grow. Keep in touch ladies, I need you. Yours in the devine light. John

  • Avatar John Fisher says:

    I AM , SHE IS , AND WE CAN!
    I CAN is what I know will have to be.
    I am so energizied with being able to be open
    in this age of enlightenment.
    The 25 million year star cycle is upon us and
    the spectrum of new light can be radiant.
    I was is ill health so although I knew the light it took me a moment to adjust. But new light She gives me each day. And love I desire to return and to have grow. Keep in touch ladies, I need you. Yours in the devine light. John

  • Avatar tasha says:

    Even when life betrayed you (and your beloved husband of 20 years) and you are let's put it – mature, not 20 years old anymore, and when to say 'I can' is hard, even then you have to find a moment, just quick one to start this beginning of change. Just a second in between the negative and depressing ways of seeing yourself, talking to yourself, just to feel this heavy silence in between with short 'I can' could work wonders.
    Warmest Hugs,
    Tasha.

  • Avatar tasha says:

    Even when life betrayed you (and your beloved husband of 20 years) and you are let's put it – mature, not 20 years old anymore, and when to say 'I can' is hard, even then you have to find a moment, just quick one to start this beginning of change. Just a second in between the negative and depressing ways of seeing yourself, talking to yourself, just to feel this heavy silence in between with short 'I can' could work wonders.
    Warmest Hugs,
    Tasha.

  • Programming the subconscious / unconscious is nothing new. The video angle may be interesting. I remember years ago the fallout from the movie theatres caught flashing subliminal junk food adverts during the movie. What's old is new again. In the 1920's Emile Coue helped heal thousands using "auto suggestion" – the precurser to what would later be called self hypnosis. Everyone always tries to put a new twist on simple things that worked in the past in order to make a buck. Emile used repeated verbal suggestions and a string with 20 knots. And he did not charge anything for the string!

  • Programming the subconscious / unconscious is nothing new. The video angle may be interesting. I remember years ago the fallout from the movie theatres caught flashing subliminal junk food adverts during the movie. What's old is new again. In the 1920's Emile Coue helped heal thousands using “auto suggestion” – the precurser to what would later be called self hypnosis. Everyone always tries to put a new twist on simple things that worked in the past in order to make a buck. Emile used repeated verbal suggestions and a string with 20 knots. And he did not charge anything for the string!

  • Avatar Sunam Suwim ( Kind T says:

    There's another saying, the power of the mind (be it negative and/or positive) is so much powerful than the muscle. The mental focus of what we wanted to be in 5, 10 , 20 years down the line.

  • Avatar ser says:

    It sounds familiar, and Ouch !! Now I know it !

  • Avatar Joey says:

    So true! Its nice to be reminded of our potential when you caught up in the days activities. We really are powerful beyond measure… if we believe it. Settle for nothing less. Thank you.

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