One of the biggest fears that holds us back is fear of failure.

We have been conditioned to be afraid of failure, and a lot of people see it as something to be ashamed of. The truth is that you can only be successful if you do things in a different way, if you take different risks — basically, if you choose to step out of your comfort zone.

There are so many lessons to be learned from failure, but you will not give yourself the chance to grow if you keep yourself safe in what’s known and secure. Here are 5 ways in which you can overcome your fear of failure and become a master at embracing success:

1. Adopt a growth mindset 

See failure as part of success. Know that every experience is a learning experience that will make you stronger, wiser and will make you grow. Always ask yourself these powerful questions when you feel that you have failed:

What worked?

What didn’t work?

What can I improve next time?

What is at least one gift out of this situation?


2. Become aware of your personal story

When we get very upset and beat ourselves up for failing at something, we need to be mindful that there might be a core belief underneath that needs to be brought to the surface. One that is very common is “I am not enough” or “I am not good enough”.

Always explore from a place of curiosity and being gentle with yourself. Once you discover what the story is, just decide to change it for a more positive and supportive one.

3. Be brave and say “yes” — even if you’re afraid 

Everybody feels fear, but it’s what we choose to do with it that will make all the difference. If we let fear paralyze us, we will be stuck, feel stagnant and miss great opportunities.

Just know that you’re always making choices in life. Are you choosing expansion or contraction in your life? Are you choosing love and trust… or fear?

4. Don’t see yourself as a victim 

We are the creators of our own reality, we’re always creating in life. There’s a powerful force that lies within you — your inner power!

Don’t give it away by blaming other people or circumstances. Make choices, not excuses. You’ll always learn something new, if you’re open to see it.


5. Honor who you are 

We all have unique gifts and talents. Value and appreciate your uniqueness, all the greatness that you can bring to the world and how BIG of a difference you can make. Use this as your driving force. Your gifts are needed, don’t hide behind your fears!

One of the keys to overcome your fear of failure is to have a positive and optimistic attitude. Thinking positive not only will help you feel more confident, but it will also help you see the gifts in every situation. 

Also, when you feel fear, revisit what you want to do, what your vision is and then go back to your “why.” This will give you the kick on the butt you need to take action!

At the end of the day, the biggest fear should not be failure, it should be staying stuck and living a small life, filled with self-imposed limitations.  I love this quote from Anais Nin, it sums it up so beautifully:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anais Nin

Happy Blossoming!