Self-care doesn’t always come naturally to us. We’re so used to being busy and putting everyone else before ourselves, that the idea of even taking time designed specifically to relax feels selfish.

Shouldn’t we be doing something else? Finishing a chore, making plans, going somewhere?

Being alone with our thoughts feels almost alien, and it takes a special sort of self-awareness to realize how unhealthy it is. We need a pause, we need a break, and we need to let go of the idea that self-care is selfish and simply do it.

We also need to be mindful of how we approach it, and that’s exactly why we’re here.

1. Start a Compassion Journal

The thing that most often gets in the way of self-care is our own negativity and guilt. We can be surprisingly mean to ourselves even when we’re not mean to anyone else. But you’re a lovely person, and this negativity will grind you down if you let it, so the best way to deal with it is to practice the opposite – be kind, compassionate, and caring to yourself.

Start a journal and write down compliments for yourself, write down all the good things you’ve seen and done. Write about other people too, about what you like about them, what you admire.

You can meditate on what you’ve written down and train your mind to cut down negativity at the root, to focus on the good things instead.


2. Do Something Nice Each Day

If you’re short on time, then vow to do one small thing for yourself each day. It can be putting on your makeup just the way you like, or treating yourself to your favorite sweet, or taking at least half an hour to read a delightful novel. Something small that will remind you to love yourself.

3. Create an Everyday Skincare Ritual

We need to feel luxurious and pampered, and little skincare rituals can help you remember to put effort into yourself, not just blindly rush after others. Besides, soft, nourished skin will make you feel gorgeous, so make sure to follow the proper steps.

Cleanse your face in the evening with something like Clinique’s Take The Day Off cleanser, and then tone it with simple rose water, or witch hazel based tonic if your skin is oily. Use a vitamin C serum right after that to bring back the brightness, then apply a quality moisturizer that’s appropriate for your skin type.

Skincare is your little personal “me time,” it’s when you get to something to soothe you right before bed, make you feel all nice and pretty.


4. Indulge in a Spa Day

Occasionally you’ve really got to step it up and take a whole evening off for yourself. You can indulge in a full-on spa day, and you don’t even have to go to a salon for it!

Draw a hot, luxurious bath that’s filled with salts and essential oils, and sink into the warm water for a bit. Let your worries melt away as you relax. Put on a Dr. Jart sheet mask, do a full-body scrub, and light a scented candle if you like.

When you’re done, grab some Mor Correspondence Pepperberry Cardamom Body Cream and rub it in all over to make your skin pampered and silky smooth.

You can also put on a hair pack, and maybe listen to some music; you can sit down and paint your toenails, you can put on a paraffin pack for your hands and feet.

Take time to get in touch with your beauty and don’t let anyone interrupt you. You need to get your mojo back, so enjoy it.

5. Do Something Creative

Maybe you’ve been procrastinating and stagnating, and you know you have to do something active to shake yourself awake from the stupor.

Engaging in creative activities can also be a form of self-care, particularly if you crave an outlet to express yourself. It can take any form – from painting, to designing clothes, websites, or something else entirely. If you have a hobby, take your time to practice it and build your skill.


6. Spend Some Time in Nature

Feeling all cooped up and irritated? Going out to nature can have many calming benefits on our psyche, so why not go for a hike? Even if you just go for a walk in the park or do yoga in your backyard, reconnecting with nature and feeling fresh air can soothe you.

Remember, self-care is important for your wellbeing. You can’t help anyone if you’re stressed and tired all the time, so take a break and find ways to relax through these handy tips.