The thing is, when you read a little about any of them, you’ll find that they, like everyone else, had to overcome a number of challenges and personal growth barriers to attain success.
Some of the biggest luminaries in the personal development field–folks like Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols, Tony Robbins, and many more–began on their road to happiness, health, success, and abundance by first overcoming lots of obstacles.
This is probably the single most significant barrier to personal development for the majority of people.
We’ve been so inundated from such an early age to focus on what’s not working in our lives or the world, that shifting our thoughts demands vigilance and commitment.
If negative self-talk plagues you, here are two simple things you can do to get past this barrier.
Listen to it every night before sleep. Do this for 90 days, and you’ll see a major shift both in your thought patterns and your ability to catch yourself when you fall back into negative thoughts.
Choose to look at every annoyance, challenge, or difficulty as a chance to get a better idea of what you really want. Instead of complaining about what is, speak an affirmation of its opposite.
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If there’s no one around you who even understands or supports your desire for personal growth, it can be pretty discouraging.
If a lack of support from family and friends is one of your personal growth barriers, you can:
Comment on posts you like, offer feedback and encouragement to others who comment here, join our Facebook page and ask us questions.
We’re here because we want to help you overcome barriers to personal growth, and to offer a community for anyone interested in personal development.
Check library bulletin boards, community events calendars, or meetup.com to find groups that share your common interests near you.
Until you know what you want, you can’t make a map of how to get there.
Clarify your goals in the key areas of your life: Health, Relationships, Spirituality, Career, Money, and Creativity (at least). By doing this, you will quickly overcome one of the significant personal growth barriers.
If you haven’t done this yet, here are some tips:
Make sure that several pages dedicated to each area of your life. Take the time to meditate on goals you want to achieve in each area and write them down.
Set key steps you want to take in the next 3, 6, and 12 months to achieve each of the goals.
Every time you’ve done something to move a goal forward, write it down in your book, and then honor your achievement with an affirmation or small reward.
Until you take full and total responsibility for every aspect of your life, your chances for personal growth success will be limited at best.
Blaming anyone or anything (life barriers examples being: parents, kids, spouse, boss, circumstances, even health) might give you a little temporary relief; however, in the long run, it’s disempowering because everyone else has the power to control or limit your dreams.
Here’s what you can do: Umm… stop. ‘Nuf said?
This belief that we are our thoughts, that our ego needs always to be right, better-than, more successful than, more beautiful than, less afraid of, etc. etc. has caused more trouble in the world than probably anything else.
What do you do to move beyond your ego? Try these things:
Just observe with some compassion and neutrality the non-stop, nonsense chatter of the ego, but don’t ‘own’ or identify with the thoughts.
Go here some great tips on how to put your ego in its place (and learn about the lies your ego tells you).
Have we missed anything? What are the biggest barriers to personal growth for you? What, if anything, are you doing to overcome them? Leave a comment and let us know.
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Great post. I would also add that you have to value truth over happiness. These two are often at odds with one another. Seeking and representing truth is not always easy and sometimes requires sacrifice. For example, turning down a lucrative business deal because it violates your sense of personal responsibility and sense of fair play. Situations like these arise all the time and I have found that the more personal growth and self-awareness I experience the less inconsistency I can tolerate in my own life.
I wouldn't have it any other way, however. There is tremendous peace in knowing what you stand for, where you are going and why.
Ryan Williams
GrowthNotes.com
Great post. I would also add that you have to value truth over happiness. These two are often at odds with one another. Seeking and representing truth is not always easy and sometimes requires sacrifice. For example, turning down a lucrative business deal because it violates your sense of personal responsibility and sense of fair play. Situations like these arise all the time and I have found that the more personal growth and self-awareness I experience the less inconsistency I can tolerate in my own life.
I wouldn't have it any other way, however. There is tremendous peace in knowing what you stand for, where you are going and why.
Ryan Williams
GrowthNotes.com
6. Taking the physical goals/deeds as being more important than feeling good.
Taking the disappointment for not-achieving-yet-what-s-so-much-wanted, to be more important than enjoying the life right now.
Looking more at not acting on some goal (for example, not writing the book), than being grateful for HAVING the book within.
Here're some tips from Abraham-Hicks on that (I so love this video!):
[youtube mT1qpm9KbAs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mT1qpm9KbAs youtube]
My recent post “To attract the love you want…Be the love you are”
6. Taking the physical goals/deeds as being more important than feeling good.
Taking the disappointment for not-achieving-yet-what-s-so-much-wanted, to be more important than enjoying the life right now.
Looking more at not acting on some goal (for example, not writing the book), than being grateful for HAVING the book within.
Here're some tips from Abraham-Hicks on that (I so love this video!):
[youtube mT1qpm9KbAs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mT1qpm9KbAs youtube]
My recent post “To attract the love you want…Be the love you are”
Thank you for this. I recognize my old self with each of these obstacles. I am happy to say that within the last few years, I've become aware of these and worked towards changing it. I am now creating more than ever and started a blog to share my positive thoughts :)
I have appreciated the entire content of the message which for me I, think it's theory but not practically true, why that? because I have tried all my best to improve my habits, life and my home and so far, I did not notice any change at all. kindly guide me how to grow financially.
I really like the point you made here about moving beyond your ego. Sometimes you get a feeling that you should do something, and then the ego chimes in and gives you 100 reasons why you shouldn't. But the original thought you had would be the one that would bring you the most personal growth or the greatest success if you would only listen to it.
The battle between intuition and ego is one that stops so many people from succeeding in life. I think trusting in yourself is one of the first steps to really making your life the way you want it.
My recent post Secrets For Sensitive People To Find Relationships That Work
I really like the point you made here about moving beyond your ego. Sometimes you get a feeling that you should do something, and then the ego chimes in and gives you 100 reasons why you shouldn't. But the original thought you had would be the one that would bring you the most personal growth or the greatest success if you would only listen to it.
The battle between intuition and ego is one that stops so many people from succeeding in life. I think trusting in yourself is one of the first steps to really making your life the way you want it.
My recent post Secrets For Sensitive People To Find Relationships That Work
Thank you for this post I have been looking for a way to meet people in the real world to talk to that are wPeking on the same things as I am and meetup.com will really help.