Until I married my husband, I always dreaded Valentine’s Day.
If I were with someone, it never lived up to my expectations…. Valentine’s Day always seemed to highlight the flaws in the relationship – like the boyfriend who after 3 years still didn’t know that I absolutely hated fruit inside my chocolate.
And if I were alone, I was usually sad and pining away for the last best guy I’d been with. I was too busy being hung up on the one that got away, to be open to the possibility that the juiciest relationship was yet to come.
Sound familiar?
True Confession: I was madly in love with a man – let’s just call him Rhett Butler – who I was sure was ‘the one’. When it ended my heart was totally broken.
I continued to ‘live’ in that relationship for another 2 years. I still wore the earrings he gave me, played our songs and read (and reread) his old letters and love poems (God, did he write the best poetry). Energetically, he was still my man.
Then, in a healing session, an intuitive told me I was carrying his energy and it was time to let it go. I cried and cried. Not wanting to give up my one chance for love – but in the end… I did it.
I cut the cords and cleared his energy out. I took off the earrings and put away the poetry.
Only then did it become clear that all the time I was hung up on Rhett, my husband Craig was right there waiting for me. We’d known each other for years, but I had been too stuck in the ‘sludge’ of lost love to even see him.
It took energetically letting go of my Rhett Butler to make space for my husband to come into my life.
When you hang on to past lovers, either consciously or energetically, you tell the Universe that you’re taken. There’s no room for someone new in your life because you’re still ‘in’ the old relationship.
Even if you’re in a new relationship now, you’re still ‘energetically cheating’ if you’re holding on. You can’t completely surrender to a deep soul connected love if there’s the shadow of an old lover lurking in the corner of your heart.
So do you have an ex, or even a fantasy love, who you still hold a torch for? One who still plays at your heart? If your real, true, feel-it-in-the-pit-of-your-stomach answer is ‘yes’, there’s a good chance you’re blocking the love you really want from coming into your life.
Here’s what I want you to hear, and to know.
That person who broke your heart was really saying: ‘This relationship is too small for you. It’s distracting you from finding your soulmate, and I’m releasing you to find that love’.
Letting go can bring up a lot of resistance. We can get caught up in the memories of old relationships, in the happiness we felt, the great sex we had, the deep connection that was there.
Like me, you may feel you had your one chance for love. That it doesn’t get any better. Like you messed up the one and only chance you had for happiness.
That even if you really let this lover go from your life, and from your heart, that the void will be too big to live with.
The fear is: maybe no one else – no one really wonderful – will ever want you.
But the gift is much bigger: When you drop into the void and trust that there’s someone out there who will meet you at your deepest soul level, you give yourself permission to receive a love that will blow your heart wide open.
It is possible for YOU to have deep and lasting love.
But first you have to let go.
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Sooooo strange.
Just as I finished writing a letting-go e-mail to my ex (he ended our relationship almost 3 years ago but we kept in touch), I stumbled upon this article.
The universe DOES know what we are ready for...
Thank you. There is no question about it now. I will hit the send button.
Sooooo strange.
Just as I finished writing a letting-go e-mail to my ex (he ended our relationship almost 3 years ago but we kept in touch), I stumbled upon this article.
The universe DOES know what we are ready for...
Thank you. There is no question about it now. I will hit the send button.
this is a vey helpful article, thank you.The idea of soulmate is an old addage. You are complete individuals and should be looking for your twin flames THINK ABOUT THIS or not?
but what if the break up was mutual? Unless you have serious feelings for the person which is holding you back from finding the right person, you can still be friends right?
My recent post Lost And Found
but what if the break up was mutual? Unless you have serious feelings for the person which is holding you back from finding the right person, you can still be friends right?
My recent post Lost And Found
I am crying... crying....
This is so kind...
Five years of my life just wasted in hanging up to my 20 years life with my husband, after he betrayed me
Impossible to give up this illusion of togetherness, even when he is with his new girl for all these last 5 years and even I've heard with their new baby...
So hard to let it go....
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for giving me the Hope!!!!
I really want to be free from this hurting past.....
Thank you!!!.....
I will see from now on this beautiful image of the butterfly....
Incredible gift...
Tasha.
I am crying... crying....
This is so kind...
Five years of my life just wasted in hanging up to my 20 years life with my husband, after he betrayed me
Impossible to give up this illusion of togetherness, even when he is with his new girl for all these last 5 years and even I've heard with their new baby...
So hard to let it go....
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for giving me the Hope!!!!
I really want to be free from this hurting past.....
Thank you!!!.....
I will see from now on this beautiful image of the butterfly....
Incredible gift...
Tasha.
I am totally in this space right now, and yesterday i put a message out to the universe for guidance. This morning this article was in my inbox, and i now know what i need to do. Refreshing and inpowering. Thank you Leisel x
Beautiful! Especially the ending...
It is possible for YOU to have deep and lasting love.
But first you have to let go.
I also appreciated hearing that we each have the ability to ask for releasing and can consciously choose to release an old partner with simplicity. Its our intention and awareness that makes it possible, I needed to hear that.
Beautiful! Especially the ending...
It is possible for YOU to have deep and lasting love.
But first you have to let go.
I also appreciated hearing that we each have the ability to ask for releasing and can consciously choose to release an old partner with simplicity. Its our intention and awareness that makes it possible, I needed to hear that.