The words your kids hear from you today will influence the beliefs they hold about themselves as adults. Give them a head start on loving and trusting themselves by consciously choosing the words you say.
Children naturally express one of four general patterns of energy. Each child needs specific supportive messages that honor their natural movement.
Use these phrases in words (or consider how you could express them in action) to help your child feel loved and empowered for who they really are.
These children are light, bouncy, and social. They may struggle with being judged as hyper or flighty. Empower Type 1 children with the message that fun is okay, and they’ll grow up into adults who naturally bring hope and new ideas to others:
You’re so fun
It’s okay for you to make noise and laugh and play
You’re so creative and imaginative
It’s okay for you to change your mind
You have great ideas; thank you for sharing them
You learn so quickly
Trust your ideas; they’re brilliant
You’re not in charge of making me happy – I am
You can have as many friends as you want
I love to spend time having fun with you
These children are subtle, gentle, and emotional. They can struggle with feeling invisible or weak. Empower this type of child to see their emotions as strengths, and they’ll grow up to bring peace and comfort to others.
You’re so sweet
It’s okay for you to take your time and think things through
You’re so thoughtful and mindful of others
It’s okay for you to take your time
You have great questions; thank you for asking
You learn so intuitively
Trust your emotional intuition
You’re not responsible for my feelings – I am.
You can connect with friends however it feels most comfortable to you
I love to spend quiet time together with you
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These children are dynamic, active, and physical. They can struggle when always told to calm down.
You’re so strong
It’s okay to move, to touch, to explore, and get your hands into things
You’re so determined and good at encouraging others
It’s okay for you to move as fast as you want to
You do great things; thank you for letting me share them with you
You’re so good at learning with your hands
Trust your gut
It’s not your job to push me to do good things – that’s my job
You can engage your friends however feels best for you
You did it!
These children are reflective, consistent, and intellectual. They can struggle with being seen as critical.
You’re so observant
It’s okay for you to observe and think first, before jumping in
You’re so loyal and caring
You can have as much structure and routine in your life as you want
You understand things clearly; thank you for sharing your thoughts
You learn so thoroughly
Trust your thoughts; they are brilliant
It’s not your job to make sure others are following the rules
You don’t have to talk to other people if you don’t want to
I respect your boundaries
No matter what type of energy your child expresses, he or she needs to hear positive and empowering messages from you too:
Welcome to the world: we have a special place prepared for you
You can be you and I will always love you
It’s okay for you to be different from me – we will work out our differences
You can try new things and find your own way of doing things
You’re just the way you need to be in order to succeed
It’s okay to make mistakes
You can take all the time you need to grow up
I love you just the way you are
It’s okay. You can still be empowered now, even if you weren’t as a child. Choose a few messages here that resonate with you the most, write them down, and put them somewhere you will see them all.
Give love and support to yourself as freely as you do to your children.
Empower your children. Empower yourself. As you do, you naturally create a better world.