Are you manifesting the life you want? Are your health, wealth, relationship and career exactly how you’ve been visioning them? If not, there’s a good chance you’ve got some old beliefs that are doin’ you wrong. Changing negative beliefs is one of the biggest challenges many of us in the personal growth world are facing right now. Why? Because we know now that we can manifest what we want, but old, ingrained beliefs (still totally common and accepted among ‘mainstream’ thinkers) are holding us back from fully and completely stepping into our manifestation power.
You see, most of us were taught from very early on that life is controlled by external forces. This belief posits that your life success is determined by a formula that looks something like this:
Hard Work + Luck = Success
“Luck” could mean anything from good genetics to a friendly boss, supportive parents to a ‘lucky break’. But what this formula never includes is your beliefs and your vibration. The power to manifest the life YOU want, in this still-too-common belief system, is almost completely outside of you.
This belief that YOU don’t have control over YOUR life has even been glorified in rock-n-roll lyrics. Remember that Rolling Stones tune: “You can’t Always Get What you Want”? I used to love that song for it’s message! …Now I think it’s a load of B.S.
The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way anymore! You DO have the power within you to create what you want in every area of your life. But it will require some work on your part – because you’re going to have to change your limiting beliefs. Because as long as you’ve got limiting beliefs about any aspect of your life, you’re going to have limited manifesting power. Because what you believe about anything (consciously or unconsciously) is what you’re going to create for yourself.
Where to begin? Here are the 1st 3 Steps to create change …
Changing Limiting Beliefs 101
1. Discover your Unconscious Beliefs. Unconscious beliefs can really undermine your success. Why? Because if you’re not aware of what you believe, you can’t change the beliefs that don’t serve you. And how do you become aware of what’s unconscious? You start by paying attention. So for example, if you’re unhappy at work, what kinds of things are you telling yourself specifically about work, money, career and success that you ‘take for granted’? Here’s a few examples that might ring true:
-“The economy is bad right now and decent work is hard to find. I’d better stick with what I’ve got.”
-“Work sucks, but I gotta pay the bills, right?”
-“This is better than the last crappy job I had.”
-“Hey, I got it better than so-and-so, what am I complaining about?”
-“Thank god it’s almost Friday!”
When you bring awareness to these false beliefs, you’ve made the first step toward changing them.
2. Take an Inventory. The second thing you want to do is take a kind of inventory of the different unconscious beliefs and assumptions you have about how the world – and your life – work. I recommend either writing down or recording the most come self-talk statements you make about each area of your life that’s not working the way you want it to.
3. Rewrite the Script. Now that you’ve got a very clear list of those negative beliefs, you want to rewrite each negative statement into a positive. Once the new ‘script’ is written, it’s time to start habitually saying them to yourself every time your current circumstance starts to trigger the old, negative beliefs and self-talk.
Finally – these 3 steps apply to what you speak out loud to others, too. Even more so! So make sure you use your new script when you talk to friends, family and colleagues, too.
What are of your life are you ready to start changing limiting beliefs for? Let me know in the comments below.