So, we were going through some of our old posts and thought you ladies might enjoy these pictures this morning (sorry to our lovely male readers!). Alright ladies, brace yourselves. These pictures are hotter than a Dolce and Gabbana photo shoot. And men, perhaps you’ll pick up a few tips on attraction ;-)

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Here’s our question to you: Do you think that this is porn for women? Agree? Disagree? Do you think this is hot, funny, sexist, ridiculous, an affront to feminism, or simply too outdated? Drop a comment. We want your opinion.

P.S Turns out these images are from a book called Porn for Woman.

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412 Comments

  • Claire says:

    I think that was like porn for women. The fact that they were so selfless , kind and understanding to our needs was very sexy!

  • Joni says:

    lol it was great… and funny, true for me! lol

  • oh yes..very hot and is all what we want…..

  • Margaret P says:

    Absolutely brilliant, what more can I say

  • Denny Spitz says:

    This is just so funny!!! And so true! There's nothing more desirable than a man who helps around the house.

  • bryant_nf says:

    Nice to know that the Ladies of Our Life have some good men to count-on!
    I think they could of taken a wee more steam but it's the thought that counts.
    It was an inquisitive & provocative line by using Pornography for Women!!!
    Lame but in good taste! Now ladies don't go runnin to those pornographic
    sights for your measure of spice. Give me a call via E-mail & I just might
    beable to tell you a Bedtime story… Ha Ha Ha!!! Have a super dy. ALL…

    Yours in sharing & caring,
    bryant_nf………………………… Ps: Any sexual topic will bring Most Anyone out of the Woodwork!!!

  • Hmm. Pornography is fantasy, right? Yeah. I've met men like this only in fantasy land. Thanks for the fodder!!!

  • vikki says:

    It's all funny. Keep dreaming

  • Melon Dash says:

    It's not porn, but it is a head-turner.

  • oh yes..very hot and is all what we want… ;)

  • Kat says:

    Not exactly what I'd call porn for women, but it does make me smile.

    Women tend to think of how they can make thier loved ones (a mother, a sister, a friend, and especially our spouses) lives easier on a daily basis. We work from a team mindset. When men do these sort of things it says we appreciate your thoughtful actions, and we are happy to be a part of the team.

    On another note… this does contribute to a womens sexual drive. A women's emotions and sexual drive are closely interwoven, so naturally when we feel loved and appreciated, we are more apt to be turned on. The comedian Monique Marvez says it best …"When a women pouts she pouts with both lips."
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EY9_JkPBS5Y

  • Lisa says:

    Ok….I am officially turned on

  • Macabar says:

    not porn…just wishful thinking

  • cheeky says:

    These are a good start….. but doin all that and sayin it naked would be cute too! :-)

  • christos says:

    C'mon, emasculating men can be sexually arousing for gays and disoriented females, but for the rest of us is just emetic.

    Men are designed to hunt, bring food to the cave, multiply the breed and fight with neighboring tribes. Women (in contrast to disoriented females) are designed to protect the home turf, take care of the family and backup the fighters.

    • AAA says:

      That was then and this is now, everything changes! Times have changed! We have meat packing plants, grocery stores, farmers markets and refrigerators, no need to hunt. Us (disoriented women) have jobs to take care of the family and 45 caliber handguns to back up the fitghters. No cave man could touch me! Get out of the cave and come back to the 20th Century!

    • Mari says:

      Cave men like you always end up alone with nothing but their macho ego's. I have several male friends who think like you and women always end up leaving them for a more caring man. My man is very caring and he is also extra "HOT" in bed. Men, if you want good oral sex, this is your ticket to paradise (let your woman know you care about her by doing nice things for her). She will return the favor!

  • LoisLane says:

    Totally Disagree! While they may represent fantasies that many women have, I feel more alien to the female gender now, because I have wondered many times why there is NOT real porn available that is geared for women. Am I the only one who LOVES great sex and doesn't get enough of it? I doubt it. The porn material produced for men is mostly demeaning to women, and not very attractive to healthy women like me. However, I would very much enjoy romantic, respectful, intimate and sexy pictures (and video) of hot men making love to real women. I find it hard to believe that there is not a huge market for this… Ladies? Am I the only one? Or perhaps the only one who will admit it?

    • AAA says:

      I am with you 100%! I have said this over and over for at least 15 years! The men get all the attention in porn movies and videos! The women DO all the dirty work. I am dying for a film where men do ALLLLLLL the dirty, dirty work (which would be Excellent, Efficient and consistent work) for us (women). Let's go into business and monopolize this market!! AAA

    • shadoseer says:

      While the images and captions are appealing, they are not porn. Female porn focuses on men pleasing women, while this is depicted above it does not represent sexuality, just gender.

      • hot under the collar says:

        "men pleasing women" is just another version of, "here let me do the dishes." I think lovers pleasing each other is the balance we're looking for.

    • Mrs G says:

      You are on the money Lois, and there is porn geared to women its just not of mass market, as women tend to not be so honest as yourself. While men like their porn a certain way, that is what the market gives them, and agreed there is more a market out there for women if they would speak up about it, as a production cost a lot of money. I found this here to be dumb is the word I shall use. So be it. Far from porn, more like a HALLMARK card and or calender. I should know this, I ran a magazine with my husband geared to MEN, we gave them WHAT THEY WANTED. And I am sure in the future with the NET, and since I just read your post, one day soon, there will be porn for Lois Lane… :) Do not think that may NOT make the cover, of an issue. Mrs G

      • gowynne says:

        As I also replied to LoisLane, and totally agree with you both, my ambitous nature took over, I started to wonder where I would start looking for investors………"I am woman, hear me roar"

    • Gowynne says:

      Well said!! I replied also to a comment by Geeg,(and also referencing yours) In which I expressed my feelings that there IS a market out there for "feminine pornography",which has untapped potential. Now to find some investors?

    • marie says:

      i agree louis. the above is what should just be part of everyday life with a well adjusted partner……. but yeah there is not enough porn for women

    • paulina says:

      Reply to LL.

      Totally disgree with you LL. Liking sex and enjoying sex does not equate to pornagraphy. Sex and great sex is a private endeavor and not a voyeur activity such as watching pornagraphy. For you to want equal porn opportunities as men is hard to understand – unless of course you want to market yourself and your partner.

      You said, "am I the only one?" I am sure there are females like who want to watch porn – but may I suggest, that you create your own, in your own bedroom. no two nights the same – your way. Please consider not buying into the group consciousness that creates and fuels the pornagraphy markets. May I suggest that you don't need to watch but . . . . . doing. . . GREAT SEX!

      PP.

    • Donna says:

      Hi LoisLane,

      Have you ever heard of Andrew Blake? I don't know what he has produced recently, but generally speaking, his vidoes are wonderful and beautiful, not demeaning at all. Most women I know love his work. Are they real women? Yes, but they are actresses, of course.

      But this article touches on some very basic but deep issues for women. Personally, I really appreciate the assitance I get from my husband when it comes down to housework and it absolutely lights my fire that he does surprise me with a clean house or dinner or whatever he is up to that day. I think it is the thought of loving me so much that rocks my boat. I think that is what this article is really about.

    • ofthegrid says:

      agreed! and this is so not porn ….

    • Erica says:

      Very much agree with you, LL! It's a cycle, with women avoiding mass market porn because it's geared toward male tastes (and all too often reliant on the humiliation and/or degradation of women for its appeal), and then gender essentialist types step in and proclaim us a bad market. C'mon, guys. Duh. Give us what we *really* want, already!

    • hot under the collar says:

      Actually, as a man, I think I would prefer to view your idea of porn, so much out there is off putting and dehumanizing, agreed.

  • roger says:

    i have found that in life women is not that much difernt from men the fact is even the rich one's will have the youth full man first and keep it as a sex toy regardless of its childish actions women that are not rich want a man with money but dos'nt always include sex if you tryed to give a women all she wanted she would most likely with some exsption hat you and think you was week bottem line women or no defernt than men when it comes to the consept of sex thay just cant exspress it like men can

  • manfredo says:

    well, so I fund out to be a porn actor but, let me say it, I guess there are just a few more details for which the gerls I know might get stimulated sexually speaking!

  • Susan says:

    I would love to comment, but unfortunately I can't see the pictures :(

  • Josephine says:

    Rediculous;;;;

  • Kathy says:

    LOL! I don't know if I would call them porn, but they are funny and cute!

  • Debra Marshall says:

    I could not see all the photos but loved the ones I did get.This is hot stuff, when a man is not threatened by his compassionate giving nurturing aspects of self and still has his masculinity it is a head turner and Heart opener.

  • Ellen says:

    This is funny but it is also stupid. It is not porn… It is what men do for women if they are really trying to make their own life better. LOL Not all of this all the time but some of this a bit more would change the way a woman sees am man, Like OMG is there something wrong with …

    All kidding aside, I know it is not the norm but it is a nice thing to do for your woman. Taken to the extreme here it is just comedy.

  • someone says:

    hahaha… I think you got it right!!

    Men are stimulated visually.. and for women I think these work.

    I am a guy.. so Im not sure..

  • kathern ann says:

    pornography: creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire

  • Absolutely agree!!!

    When women say it's the little things that count, this is what we mean. It's not about being effeminate, it's about doing things that show you care, i.e. make life easier/more pleasant (from a woman's perspective).

    Women have been forced to do things from a man's perspective for centuries. It's time we are met half way. (-:

    Kudos for posting this!!

    • AAA says:

      Here! Here! Wow, we need you on the Political Stage! I Agree! You are my heroine!

    • redphoenix says:

      meeting us halfway,I agree with you and wtf?porn?so it comes down to the "its a mans' world"=meaning are we not allowed to see naked men and everywhere you go there are naked images of women..

    • wyndance says:

      I totally agree! If men just understood that making us feel emotionally safe and honored would bless them in the bedroom and the rest of their lives, maybe they would do it more. Let's get the word out there!

    • shane says:

      Haha only a woman would say that! : ) I agree it should be half way, tho in my experience women want the whole kit and kaboodle! total control, if they dont have that well there is no wrath like……………: )

    • silvabmagirl says:

      You are so right. It is the little things that count. The longer the man is in a relationship, the less he does…and women start finding their man more annoying and less sexually attractive because they have to do more and more around the home…because their man has got lazy!!!

  • qwerty says:

    such behavious is not attractive to women, even if they say so.

  • Carolyn de Haan says:

    Not exactly porn but getting close.

  • Isobel says:

    I suppose this might have been funny in the 70s but it's pretty lame now. It's also pretty demeaning to men and women.

    On a more serious note – if women stopped treating their men like children, perhaps they'd start acting like men again.

    • Kat says:

      Two people create a pattern of relating. So it appears that if any one is being treated like a child, then they signed up for it and agreed to it. Nothing is worse than a man who can't stand up to a partner and act like a man. GROSE!

      • Isobel says:

        I do agree with you Kat, relationships are created by both people. But I do see/hear my friends talking to their intelligent 40+ year old husbands as if they're incapable of doing anything practical without their wives telling them to "be careful!" And I see the guys' faces, they're embarrassed and they try to laugh it off because the wives would just say they're "being caring" and how can you complain about that?

        Example: at Hallowe'en the men were lighting the fireworks and all you could hear were the women shouting out "don't get too close! be careful! is that one pointing the right way? …" on and on while the guys tried their hardest to be the men without saying "will you please stfu and let me get on with it?!"

        So I'm talking about a general trend that seems to have started around the same time as feminism, that men are somehow incapable, stupid, incompetent – unless of course their wives are overseeing the process. But if a man complains, he's "ungrateful" because of course it's only for his own good.

        Sure, maybe men treated their women that way in the past (although my parents were married in the late 1940s and I never heard my father speak to my mother that way – or vice versa. They had true respect for each other) – but that's no excuse for women doing it now.

        Let your guys do it THEIR way! Let them parent THEIR way – fathers are not mothers, they don't need you to tell them how to behave with their own kids. Let them make mistakes and sort it out themselves without you coming in tsk-tsking and putting it right for them. Appreciate them for who they ARE; appreciate the maleness of their energy and don't make it wrong for not being female.

    • vishen says:

      Really? Demeaning. I think it's frickin hilarious.

      But I do agree with your second point.

      • Isobel says:

        Yes, demeaning because it basically says men have to act and think like women in order to be valued. And that all women need to feel sexy is a cute-looking toy boy who does as he's told and is effectively her Best Female Friend in drag. They all kind of remind me of Darren in the original "Bewitched" – and sexy he WASN'T!

  • Vera says:

    Now that's STEAMY Baby!!!!!!!!!

  • Hugh Curley says:

    Pornography is material that is sexually explicit. I do not think this is. You seem to trying too hard to shock people into looking. A more accurate title may be, "Aphrodisiacs for Women."

  • Kaz says:

    I fail to see this as porn for womyn.

    I believe it is a front, as men seem to promise this stuff until they get you where they want you,then, you see them change.

  • Suz Nichols says:

    I lmao at these pics…but you're right, these were just like porn for me.

    Suz

  • CARIELL LUSIGNAN says:

    It made my day pretty darn cute!!!

  • Carol says:

    These are amazingly funny. The funny part is that they are pretty accurate in how a woman thinks.

  • Joe Trevison says:

    I Love to see some pictures

  • karen says:

    I love these… I have seen a book with the same theme. I am not really into shoe shopping but I love a man who cooks! And my husband does! Awesome.

  • michelle says:

    yes this is hot!! i smiled and giggled through all these pics. My husband has figured most of these out (still working on asking for directions).

  • Jack Dow says:

    I loved your porno for women !!! You guys (or gals) have terrific senses of humor—after the 1st photo you had me sucked right in—enjoyed the photos, muchly—-

  • Mike Hunter says:

    HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE!

  • Eva says:

    Is anyone taking notes?

  • Pia says:

    Very funny – had a good laugh. Which is always a good way to get things straight and be happy,

    Love especially the last one!

    Good luck with this.

    Pia,

    The Perpetual Happiness Machine
    http://www.youramazingpower.com/home

  • Francesca says:

    All of these things are certainly things I would love in a man…and I'll add one more: a man who can play beautiful classical music on the piano. A man who cooks and plays the piano is, in my estimation, extremely sexy.

  • Girl says:

    yes to all of the questions. very limited scope, ie,straight, clean cut M.O.R. tho. (where's Kramer????? Jim Carrey????)

    my horsey-girlfriends and I look at the horses for sale ads for porn

    thanks for trying, boys. going to ride my horse now.

  • Mary says:

    Yes, Yes and Yes! Cool stuff and definitely a "turn on"!!!

    TY for this-FUN for sure!

    I truly enjoy your perspective as well as this angle of vision!

    In-JOY! Always,

    Mary

  • Bob says:

    Not for all women. Some women think it's stupid that men take out the garbage. In the 21st century many women think that chores that both people hate should be done together. And when they can afford it hired out. Maintaining a household requires work and it can be shared and it can be like a date.

  • Roy Faubion says:

    If you get men the three things they need most, sex, food, and ego stroking, this might actually become a reality. Otherwise, these are funny, but a turn on for women, probably not.

  • Angela Andreoli says:

    Absolutely "HOT"-

    makes for a fairytale relationship!!!!!!!

    read my book "A Rainbow in December: A Ray of Hope" – a memoir of a love story – (my fairytale) it has a lot of this in it – by Angela Laura – being published now by Author House.

  • Kirsten Hayden says:

    How could good looking guys being thoughtful and in touch with what is important to a women not be totally hot. It is funny because it does not typically happen. But what I found most attractive is a man caring so much about a baby and cooking. To be "chick porn" you need an act of passionate, die for you love. This is why the "Twilight phenomenom" is prevelent across the generations of women.

  • tracy says:

    Not exactly .But nice try.

  • Kalpana says:

    Well, this is nice but is this porn???

    Not by a long shot.

    I am not a feminist nor do I find this 'funny' funny.

    It is just nice!

    Hey, guys do help round the house and a lot of them are considerate.

    Someone still dwells in the Victorian Age!

    Pornographic – HA!

  • nonya b iznez says:

    LOLOLOLOL

  • Russ says:

    It's hilarious! But, I know some women who would really think it's hot! Mind if I forward this to them?

  • Songbabe says:

    I think this is hysterical and accurate.

    Funny, funny, funny.

    Women don't need porn. At least I don't.

  • Charles says:

    What is "porn" for a woman may depend upon her biological age. Some would suggest that the strongest drive for a man is to mate with as many women as possible, and that the strongest drive for a woman is to reproduce and care for the young. To the extent that this is valid, then it may follow that BEFORE pregnancy, "porn" for a woman may be that which helps her to BECOME pregnant, while AFTER pregnancy, "porn" may be that which helps her to care for her children. (Is this true? I dunno, let me ask my wife!)

  • Michel Matil says:

    Oh Boy,

    That's It Hmm?

    Why didn't you tell me before?

    Michel

  • Arti says:

    I am clean bowled. Its amazing how easy it is to please most women. My curiosity is how many men would look and appreciate the message and and even if they do, how many would care to bring some changes in their perceptions and habits?

    Pornography for women by wishful women!

    • Franck says:

      Brilliantly said. We men have to change our mentality on women. They do not need to be dazzled but a few down to earth loving gestures captures their soul. There's nothing on in this Universe that can rival a woman's true love. Once a man has that, he has no need for anything else.

  • Tina says:

    Too funny.

    Tellman u are everywhere!

  • Wildflower says:

    Wonderful! Really hits the spot!

  • Robert says:

    Great stuff. Im sure all the ladies will love that one.

  • kattzyze says:

    notice how a lot of men make denigrating comments on these pics? and use ancient, antiquated, out-of-date excuses for their opinions– which shows you just how behind the times most men really are? like to touch a broom would emasculate you! kaz is so right–men pretend to be something they arent, then after you are in love with them, they turn back into their real selves. and their real selves just want someone thats a magazine perfect housewife that they can treat as crappy as they want to, then they expect you to be willing to make love to them at night without protest. men want a woman with no brain–if she has one they rip it out of her and stomp on it– over and over and over and over and over and over til shes just a walking, obedient shell of what she once was.

  • Priya Nair says:

    I agree… this is dream come true… and thank god my dream has come true… Thanks universe that i am enjoying all this… :D

  • Ken Coscia says:

    Of course theses are enlightened men who also happen to be Silva Method graduates.

  • Linda says:

    I think this funny. Not Real! that is for sure.

  • D says:

    Dear Vishen, when you ask me about this pictures I think there very lovely, I wish everybody was this thoughtfull for eachother!!!!

    Love & Peace,forever !!! Daisy

  • Cathie O says:

    Amusing, delightful fantasy! Would never happen. Especially from guys that look that

    good.

  • Roy Faubion says:

    Now that's funny. Ask directions? What's that mean? I know where I'm going, don't you? And I just took out the garbage, still have legs! These are great and totally unbelieveable.

    • Finlandia says:

      Some men acting like they know. keep driving around instead of ask for direction. At least the picture showed a humble person. Saving time and energy to use on positive manner.

  • Liam Sweeney says:

    That is the best rediction of pornography that I have ever seen since I was a teenager.

  • Gary Stark says:

    While I find this very amusing, I also see a whole spectrum of stereotypes, women seem to have about men. Many men are happy to get up with their children, in the night.

    As for asking for directions, if you can find another man to ask, and if he knows, you will be able to follow his directions, and arrive at your destination. However if you ask a woman you will get something like "just go down 3 red lights, and turn at the corner with the convenience store. If the light at hwy 7 is green, count it anyway, but not the green light at Columbus Rd, cause it is always green.

    If/when you come to the corner with the convenience store, turn past it, and go until you are about two miles before the end of the road,

    then turn down the narrow lane, and you will be there.

    If you do find the corner with the convenience store, you may find two or three of them, on opposite sides of the road. Anjd how in hell are you supposed to know when you are two miles before the road ends. You are sure to find narrow lanes on both sides of the highway, about every 100 yards. Lots of luck!

    As for putting the seat on the toilet back down, why don't men demand that women raise the seat, after they use it. It makes just as much sense as telling men to put it down. If they raise the seat, they will know that it is up, so they need to lower it if they get up in the night.

    If a man shows up with flowers for no reason, the woman is more apt to accuse him of having done something wrong, probably with another woman, than she is to thank him, and welcome him home, with love and affection.

    I believe that women would probably be more apt to have their man shop for shoes with them, if they would go along with him to the hardware store, and follow him around happily while he looks at every tool and new gadget on the market. Also, is it really asking too much for a woman to limit the number or her shoes to only 3 or 4 times the number of her man's shoes, lol. Just look at the closet space they would have then!

    • sirsmilesalot says:

      Haha! You got in one go Gaz !!! Thats about what it amounts to!
      Thats my toilet seat response every time! : )

    • ruth markovic says:

      I agree with the toilet seat thing if us women demand that you put it down then i agree with you men demanding us to put it up..as for directions…forget that we as women cant give good directions and you as men cant either cuz one of us always see's that our way is easier.Now for the whole walking thru the store together for shoes or tools or what ever,i am not like any other woman out there,i agree alot with the men,its a 50/50 thing if women want men to go get shoes with them then come on women respect the man enough to go shopping for tools with them,but thats what seperates me from the rest of women im just a plain redneck tomboy that agree's with men about women, we as women start alot of stuff and won't take but 30% of the blame most of the time….Gary Stark guess who…(wink wink nudge nudge) (duffer is my name…you ready to play the game) lmao

  • Karen says:

    I have this book and I love it! It is hilarious and gives a sense of perspective to some of the things that people get wound up about.

  • Susan says:

    I think it's delightful! What an intriguing idea. :-)

  • Marney says:

    As an employee of MindValley I know that The purpose of MindValley is to spread enlightened ideas, and what this represents to me is far from it. Yes while its cute, lighthearted fun, the underlying tones and message is not. Correct me if I'm wrong, but from what I understand the idea that a man (very good looking ones yes) doing household chores is so absurd, that a woman would find it so shocking as in porn. This isnt the reality I want to live in or one I want to perpetuate. And unfortunately its the reality for women these days. Here's some stats:

    According to the Bureau of Labour Statistic?s Time Use Survey for 2007, on an average day 83% of women and 66% of men in America spent some time doing household activities, such as housework, cooking, lawn care, or financial and other household management.

    On an average day, 20% of men did housework, such as cleaning or doing laundry, compared with 52% of women. Thirty-seven percent of men did food preparation or cleanup compared with 64% of women.

    Women still make .70 cents to the dollar of a man in Canada. I don't even want to know what typical Malaysian company statistics look like.

    We're better than this. We live in a country where women are treated like second class citizens by law, yet MindValley rises above all that. We are all treated as equals, regardless of race, age, sex etc. Why don't we communicate this enlightened idea? Instead of propagating old stereotypes? From your practice, I know you don't believe in these stereotypes, but this is not what this blog post is communicating to me.

    We are all about spreading enlightened ideas, here's mine: Being a Feminist is not a bad thing. All a feminist is is someone who believes men and women should be treated equally.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm not out to abolish gender roles, I loooove being a woman. Like I said, the word Feminist needs some serious rebranding. I'm just really disappointed in this. I hope you'll take this into consideration for future content.

    • vishen says:

      FYI Everyone. Marney works for me at MindValley (the parent company behind FinerMinds) and sent me this as a private email. I felt she had some valid points and so asked her to publish this publicly for everyone to see. Would love to know your thoughts as you are our readers.

      Our company MindValley is 70% female and the majority of our managers are women. So this is of course a relevant subject to us.

      • Linda says:

        I think that Marney is young and not yet forgiving of foibles. I think the point of the pictures was that respect begetss not only respect but loving caring gestures from women. Porn may be a little exaggerated but you sometimes need to exaggerate to make a point.

        A friends husband was overheard telling his son who commented on his Dad doing the dishes all week…Yes, I am doing menial work but the reward far outweighs the effort. If you marry a great woman you will understand what I mean"

    • @cactusheart says:

      Brava Marney! I thought I was the only one who felt this way…The fact that you are an EMPLOYEE speaking out your disagreement is something I find especially awesome! I too thought it disappointing to find such a primitive, baser-instinct joke being passed around on a place that's SUPPOSED to "rise above" that kind of thinking and spread "enlightenment" and the kind of behavior that comes with that. No, it's nothing to get OFFENDED over or file a lawsuit *lol* it's just not the best joke that comes from not the most ideal manner of thought.Uncharacteristic, and disappointing.

      • vishen says:

        well the thing is…on FinerMinds, we seek to introduced enlightened concepts to people. Astral projection, meditation, new ways of learning etc…but every now and then, we like to share some humor (even if it may be crass) to put a smile on people's faces and keep our newsletter interesting. I dont think there's any intent to demean women by this post. 30 out of 40 MindValley employees ARE women. And 75% of the FinerMinds team are women (I'm the only guy on the team). :-)

    • peggy says:

      lighten up

    • shane says:

      Personally i think feminism has turned a lot of women into what arrogant men are like. : )

  • Caroline says:

    I think it's fun and probably wishfull thinking.

    In any partnership thoughfullness is key!

    It is a two way street, men and women should share the responsibility of making life happy!

  • Rami says:

    why all this, … there are more enough women that any one can take

    • Franck says:

      Please Rami,
      you have to update your mentality and knowledge on women. If you have a mother and you do have one, sisters and probably daughters, you have to show much more respect for the lack of consideration you have on other women, your immediate feminin family if you love them, will pay the consequences. And they're not there for the taking.
      Anyway it looks like you are subscribed to this site. Your outlook will chgange. But man as a fellow-man, be extremely careful of what you say for the love of your well-being.

  • MarieFrance says:

    Do they come by the dozen?

  • liza says:

    Very cute and funny…for example, with 'one' like this, I would not be afraid to be 'falling in' in the middle of the night. LOL
    I love that kind of man who does have all those little attentions for their beloved one and I am
    lucky because it happens that I have one of my own.

  • inas says:

    awwww so cute ,you cann't find these men around

  • lata says:

    its interesting i like it

  • Betty says:

    Yes and Yes! Hilarious also. Thanks for the belly laugh.

  • A says:

    I don't think this is porn for women. I think this is a Woman's "Hope," a Woman's "Dream," A Woman's "Secret Requirement."

    I would love this type of porn to be a "Prerequisite" but we all know the majority of us would either not have relationships with men if it was required or if we had a relationship with a man who has all these qualities, our relationships wouldn't last because we'd have to beat the women off of them!

  • Kishore says:

    Isn't this what the men already do in the western countries. I have found them doing more domestic work around the house and especially taking care of the baby, changing the diapers, feeding them when they are hungry, giving them a bath etc then us asians.

  • Gladys says:

    This is great! My husband of 32 years fits in almost every picture. He has done and would do everything depicted without complaint or hesitation, but I think there's room for compromise. He's a loving, considerate, gentle man, but I wouldn't expect him to miss the NFL playoffs to go to a craft's fair! I'm a big girl, I can do that by myself!

  • Don says:

    Well I am a gay man and my lover does all these things and I do the same for him . Blissful , , , YES , !

  • Leila says:

    So is it pornography for women? No. I believe there are men who would do these things for me

  • Don says:

    I did all of these things for my wife and it meant nothing to her. She said those were the things she did not want. She wanted a nice house, car money, vacations,expensive jewelry and time alone. I could not give her those thingf and she left me. Although I tried very hard,but after seventeen years, she said she was moving on.

    • Andrew says:

      Dude count your blessings, I had the same now I confused as to what women actually want.

      • laura says:

        guys, i think you had bad wives!!! first i love and respect my husband so after 18 years together it is kinda like porno when he makes me breakfast on sunday!!! sorry you met some bad girls but there are really good girls who value men like you ! good luck!!:)

      • Gina says:

        It's not what "women" want, anymore than what "men" want. I understand there are perhaps some general gender differences, but when it comes down to it, each individual is different. I doubt even you TWO men want exactly the same thing from a partner, so how can we expect to understand ALL men and all women, as if we lived in a world with only two types of people–Men and Women. If you find a woman you are attracted to, work on understanding that ONE, and make sure she understands YOU. And always respect your own selves, or no-one else will respect you either.

    • peggy says:

      goodriddance to her to bad she did'nt leave sooner now go find a real women

  • Vivian says:

    Great ideas, but to bother with all this and everything else that I have to deal with, life is simply too short.

    I'm also tempted to add my list of gripes about women but it would simply take too long.

    Viviano

  • Mike Wvans says:

    Believe it or not, there are some men out there like that! I don't think I'm Don Juan, but I consider myself pretty good looking, and I am all about making life easier on my fiance! I cook, clean, take out the trash, and go with her to things that interest her! For me, its because i love her more than humanly possible for most people, she is my everything..so when she has worked all day, I don't want her to have to come home and cook or clean! Don't let some men give us all a bad name! …oh and I always ask for directions if I don't know where I'm at, or going!

  • Mayra says:

    I'd really love this to happen, but I also would enjoy going to the ball game, cooking his favorite dish and meeting "the guys". That's what partners are for, eh?

  • Rudolph says:

    I did all that… Like to think I know a thing or two (or more) about great oral sex too, and back and foot massage. Didn't stint on any of it. Not because I wanted anything back, just because I truly loved her.

    Strangely, I also liked her an awful lot too. Appreciated her bright and quirky mind…. It was heaven while it lasted.

    She dumped me for a selfish dude who doesn't even even think much of her.

    I guess women are bored by tame, thoughtful men. I think they want to ride a wild stallion.

    They want to be the only one to tame him… but not 100% He's still got to be wild and a little dangerous.

    Ladies?

    • Bryan says:

      Rudolph,

      There is a huge difference between what women say they want, and what they respond to. That doesn't mean women don't want the things they say they do. It just means the things women say they want aren't usually the things that cause them to want to get a man out of his clothes, and take a ride on the wild bologna pony.

      If a man does the things in these pictures simply to appease a woman, it basically says,

      "I am a cute fluffy puppy with no fangs. Here's my leash, my collar, and my food bowl. Please Pleeeeeease rub my…. tummy.

      If anyone messes with my girl, I'll smack him down with my feather duster…. after I'm done painting my toenails."

      This is the same kind of guy who, when a mouse skitters across the kitchen floor, will jump up on a chair point his finger, and shriek, "Kill it! Kill it!"

      In that context, the man may as well put a tattoo on his forehead that says…. "I have genital warts," because it'll repel a woman just as fast. Of course, she might invite you over during the day to do housework so her house will be clean when the guy she really wants to be with pays her a visit.

      As I say this, keep in mind that I don't mean that a man has to be a total jack hole to get and keep a woman attracted to him.

      When a man does the kinds of things in those pictures….

      here and there…

      in a way that's hard for her to predict….

      because he wants to make the woman he is with feel good ( not because he wants to make her "want" him ), or even just because…

      It creates a different response entirely.

      ( Yeah, I know the grammar's bad, so there's no need for the grammar nazis to get their pantyhose in a bunch… On second thought, feel free to bunch up your pantyhose. Just don't tell me about it. )

      Once that concept makes more sense, more women will naturally want to…. rub your shiny nose.

      There are plenty of tips and tricks that I could list, but none of it works if you're coming from the wrong place, and none of it is really needed when you're coming from the right place.

      Here's the best thing I can tell you in the space I have here. Go out and make friends with a few ( at least 3 ) women who are like someone you would want to be with…. romantically.

      Be just friends with them, meaning no rides on the bologna pony. No romance… just friends. Learn to be comfortable and have fun just being around them. This will have an effect on several levels, and other women will notice.

    • Jezzy says:

      Rudolph,

      Move on and when or if you see them together, be the bigger man and thank him for taking one for the team!

  • Thomas says:

    Yesterday when I was young and kind of arrogant I would not do any of those things. Today I am wiser and all these acts and many more are as rigrt as rain. PEACE.

  • J.R. Freeman says:

    Slow down women these types of men do exist and believe it or not they are not GAY. They are many of us out there still single and do these chores without questioning. Sadly most of those men had terrible relationships with previous marriages, but some of them are still around.

    Take your time to look…

  • Valerie says:

    I've had this emailed to me several times and it never gets old for me. I love it and appreciate the very thought of having such thoughtfulness. I don't need the "traditional sense" of porn and I think many of my friends who have gone from their 20's, 30's and now 40's agree.

    It shows just how different the needs/desires are for male and female. Of course relationship is "shared responsibility", and most women would go out of their way even more if this "fantasy-type" porn were even close to reality.

  • Andrea says:

    Dear Vishen,

    I am a faithfull reader and wiever of yours.

    You do great things.

    However, I must tell you the throuth: this is the best you have ever published. I am still in tears from laughing.

    And of cours, it is all in jest. I love your newsletters, and follow up on many of them.

    Thanks a lot for the great work, you are a great addition to my life, and to those whom I translate it into German, I happen to live in Austria.

    Love to you and to all the lovely, funny crew

    Andrea Forras

  • camilla says:

    I don't think I would want my partner to be just the way I am, all the things a woman appreciate, I want them to be a man with all the good things and the flaws. That's called a human.

  • Skye King says:

    LOL! Luv it…

    Hmmm…Missed out on the Private Jet to NY City for a Friday night dinner, or the Horse Drawn Carriage to take you to the Symphony:)

    Hand Gliding to your next meeting or Horse Back Riding along the Beach to your secluded

    Candle Lite Dinner nestled amongst the Ocean Breeze and the Milky Way.

    Am I thinking out loud?

    Thanks for the post, will warm the hearts of most women, and give a slight chuckle to those who vent.:)

  • Audrey says:

    Nice Vishen … I'll tell you what, if my guy isn't afraid of what other guys think and realizes that the way to my bed is through taking care of my heart and placing value upon me, I promise I'll repay him back in spades in the bedroom. Great, steamy sex is the reward for a loving, deeply intimate, connected relationship … the icing on the cake.

    • Lakeisha says:

      Audrey I definitely agree with you. Fantastic quote for all women.

    • vishen says:

      Definitely a valid exchange.

    • peggy says:

      Amen Amen Amen

    • Morpheus says:

      totally disagree with the reward punishment scenario!! so many women use their sexuality as bait reward and other things its the equivalent of a men bringing you shopping to you because you gave him what he wanted in the relationship .its not real if it does not come from him its a lie .its like cause and effect but without the cause being love !!

  • dawn says:

    I love it!! the title is mislading though.I almost didn't look as I thought It would be naughty of me.

  • Tyrone says:

    I have recently gotten involved in a relationship and previously she had been with a man that wouldn't lift a finger to help her out. I didn't really think I was doing anything special by cooking dinner for her and her kids or cleaning the house and washing clothes or alot of the things that are in these photos. But, she can't seem to keep her hands off me . If I am working around the house it is as though I am working in the nude. She gets really excited and touches me and watches me and even follows me around the house sometimes. So, I would have to say that seeing a man do the things in these is more arousing to a woman than the pictures.

  • annelise says:

    I love this! The point, at least in my opinion, is that these "small things" count to make room for the really hot, steamy stuff. This is not hot and steamy (and then again, it is, especially the guy getting up for the baby), but it turns my imagination on for what might happen afterwards. If you are in a long-term relationship; married with children like I am, these things definitely count.

  • Kathrynne says:

    Turn ons are such personal things…
    I agree that when a person, man or woman, is considerate and helpful, they will inevitably create a harmonious space.
    HOWEVER, unless men or women were taught to behave in these ways, the behaviors will often NOT manifest. (If you are a mother or father, remember this!)
    Also, COMMUNICATION is another big key. I've learned that when I ask, from a kind space within ME, my man will do what he can to follow through on my request. And THAT is always a turn on. BTW, he loves shopping for shoes for me. I didn't ask for that, he just came with that programming already installed…. :)

  • Ron says:

    I could be personally be all those things and if the guy does not include it in his Creative Visualization it does not mean any thing. I can make a women melt every way and what is mentioned, but when the plan is not comtiplated it goes to a empty vessel and is wasted, except your history is noticed. And it gets tired. If I got half of what I gave it would be heaven on earth for both. Now lets cut the crap and lets look at the real world.

    How lazy are most people and how often do ya find two people on the same heart beat. I think this blog owner wants to create traffic and got my fingers tapping. Do dating services add these things in today's info. forms? I dont think so, because its not real. After a few years of "why did you make a wrong turn" turns into

    " that was a stupid move" and then comes the reply of course something nasty. Well if the real world were like dream boy's idea, the girl or guy would have very very close friends to keep it new. And thats the general public and the divorce rate statistics. Sorry Bucko! The perfect couple might be and there are couple's who are friends on top of marriage but thats another story.

    • @cactusheart says:

      Jeez, Ron…Bitter much?

    • @cactusheart says:

      No, but seriously…I understand some of what you mean. What if a man DOES follow these "suggestions" and takes them seriously as the key to a woman's heart (and "other stuff" *hah*), only for the woman to take all of that effort for granted and act like it's nothing special? That was pretty much 2/3rds of my marriage. I went in the marriage fully committed, faithful and thought of nothing but ways to make him happy. And years went by without even acknowledgement LET ALONE reciprocation!I never felt so lonely in my life, even when he would be sitting right next to me. By the time he finally noticed, I was too numb to care. And it didn't seem fair that NOW HE was the only one trying. Now you seem to have wound up the same way as me, you stuck around too long trying in vain to make the best out of something that just wasn't working for you….

    • @cactusheart says:

      But that's where the similarities between our situations seems to end. I didn't let it poison my heart with the idea that all relationships from now on are going to be like the one I left. Or that every couple has the same problem as yours. You're just setting yourself up to attract more of the same brand of pain in the future. I didn't end my marriage from a place of hate. Sure, it hurt a helluva lot, ESPECIALLY having to end it. But I don't have that "all women are like/all men are like" mentality. You need to release that pain. I used this failed marriage as a gigantic learning experience. I know what to do(and what not to do) with my next relationship…relationship, NOT marriage…I DO NOT EVER want to go through marriage again! *lol* But I'm still in the process of ending this marriage, I have too long of a way to go in healing to even think about getting into another relationship OF ANY KIND right now

    • @cactusheart says:

      …And it also proves the point of something I've always said…when it comes to relationships it's NEVER "treat the person the way YOU want to be treated", if you live that way, you're setting yourself up for disappointment EACH AND EVERY TIME!!! I'd explain, but I don't think I have the room *lol*

  • Abigail says:

    Yeah, the kind of man that gets me hooked for life is made up of deep stuff like this. Just another naked good looking man doesn't make the cut anymore. A guy's got to have some substance to be priceless. Your idea of presenting us this "mental porn" is brilliant!!!

  • Abigail says:

    Yeah, the kind of man that gets me hooked for life is made up of deep stuff like this. Just another naked good looking man doesn't make the cut anymore. A guy's got to have some substance to be priceless. Your idea of presenting us this “mental porn” is brilliant!!!

  • Klikzer says:

    too sentimental sounds too gayish.

  • Amy says:

    hmmm….. I would call it "shock therapy" instead of "porn for women". A "fairy Tale" even. To imply that a woman would be satisfied visually or stimulated mentally just because the man in her life chooses to make a bit of an effort around the house doen't sit well with me, personally. It would definately make me raise an eye brow or two or even get a tad suspicious but "turned on" or some other equivelant that requires "porn" as its title? I have to disagree.

  • bryant_nf says:

    Nice to know that the Ladies of Our Life have some good men to count-on!
    I think they could of taken a wee more steam but it's the thought that counts.
    It was an inquisitive & provocative line by using Pornography for Women!!!
    Lame but in good taste! Now ladies don't go runnin to those pornographic
    sights for your measure of spice. Give me a call via E-mail & I just might
    beable to tell you a Bedtime story… Ha Ha Ha!!! Have a super dy. ALL…

    Yours in sharing & caring,
    bryant_nf………………………… Ps: Any sexual topic will bring Most Anyone out of the Woodwork!!!

  • rainbowkati says:

    I've seen these before……porno?….. I like mine on the more Erotic style….
    It is wonderful to be able to fantasize that men overall would be this side of caring and nurturing….yet today as our social patterns exist, most men wouldn't be caught doing or saying any of these senarios. My husbands mother reminded him that he was born from a woman and at all times was to respect and honor women…..hence he does help with the housekeeping and porn eroctica style is on our menu. :-)

  • Dawid says:

    A Rose is a Rose is a Rose,

    and to call it anything else,

    causes Confusion.

  • Matt Haw says:

    Made for feminists.

    I've done these things for pretty women, they'll like you for it, but they won't love you more than guys who do otherwise.

    Most anyway, unless the woman is one in a few.

  • Matt Haw says:

    Made for feminists.

    I've done these things for pretty women, they'll like you for it, but they won't love you more than guys who do otherwise.

    Most anyway, unless the woman is one in a few.

  • vikki says:

    It's all funny. Keep dreaming

  • rbhall says:

    These guys look gay…In the "real" world women appreciate the "real" men…don't take my word for it…who do you think will stop the terrorist?

    • jacytator says:

      You have a point, but then again that's what makes his sweet gestures such a turn on. Yeah, manly confidence is appreciated because women like to feel safe and protected, but there's nothing like a manly man who is willing to tame himself to please his lady with tender affection and considerate acts. It shows that he's willing to go beyond his mere basic instincts out of consideration for the woman he loves. If he's too "manly" all the time then his woman stops feeling safe with him because he fails to demonstrate that he can handle her with care.

      • toy says:

        That was perfectly put.It would be nice for men to display both sides I think it would be a better world if more women had that kind of mental safety from there partners

      • Denise says:

        WOW! I love what you wrote. It is so true everything you mention here. Lucky the woman that gets to be loved by you. Thank you for really understanding a woman!

      • Debi says:

        Wow…. you said it all! Bravo

    • gabriellelim says:

      I'll take a guy who can cook versus a guy who wants to wage war any day. Besides, who's to say women can't fight terrorists anyway?

    • Edel says:

      LOL…funny comment

  • Sav says:

    You know, apart from a few things on the list (asking for directions, buying flowers, shoe shopping – which is not something I like to shop for anyway), my husband does help with most of the other stuff (and more, like grocery shopping)… but then he ruins it by uttering profanity when he's in one of his foul moods, and sadly that happens quite often. Totally spoils whatever romantic feelings I had building up for him! I wish he wouldn't do that. On the other hand… I would get suspicious if he would suddenly start buying me flowers out of the blue. I appreciate it on special days, but not randomly, what a waste of money. Good thing he's not like that. I honestly think that's a bit desperate, and it would make me feel like I'm under pressure; he did something nice, he must be wanting something from me. For me it should be a balance: treat me nicely, show respect, but don't go overboard! I want a man, not a lapdog.

  • oh yes..very hot and is all what we want… ;)

  • Anne W PowellRiverBC says:

    Some people in these posts have really gotten their knickers tied in a knot over the pics. I think the pics are meant to be humorous, and they are, in my opinion. Yes, they depict some things that women like in a man, but I don't think all of them are meant to be totally realistic – just spoofs – and that's OK, isn't it? Where is people's sense of humour – sheesh, don't take it so personally! Is somebody feeling secretly guilty? Is that why the seeming resentment is spewing out? Anyway, my husband helps a lot around the house partly because we both work. It doesn't make me have "hot" feelings, but I definitely really appreciate him for being thoughtful, caring and considerate. I think it takes a real man to find that balance between humility and ego. :)

  • Kat says:

    Not exactly what I'd call porn for women, but it does make me smile.

    Women tend to think of how they can make thier loved ones (a mother, a sister, a friend, and especially our spouses) lives easier on a daily basis. We work from a team mindset. When men do these sort of things it says we appreciate your thoughtful actions, and we are happy to be a part of the team.

    On another note… this does contribute to a womens sexual drive. A women's emotions and sexual drive are closely interwoven, so naturally when we feel loved and appreciated, we are more apt to be turned on. The comedian Monique Marvez says it best …”When a women pouts she pouts with both lips.”
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EY9_JkPBS5Y

  • christos says:

    C'mon, emasculating men can be sexually arousing for gays and disoriented females, but for the rest of us is just emetic.

    Men are designed to hunt, bring food to the cave, multiply the breed and fight with neighboring tribes. Women (in contrast to disoriented females) are designed to protect the home turf, take care of the family and backup the fighters.

    • Mari says:

      Cave men like you always end up alone with nothing but their macho ego's. I have several male friends who think like you and women always end up leaving them for a more caring man. My man is very caring and he is also extra “HOT” in bed. Men, if you want good oral sex, this is your ticket to paradise (let your woman know you care about her by doing nice things for her). She will return the favor!

  • Phoenix says:

    Pornography!? This is just how people should take care of each other, men and women, when they share a life together. It assumes that women don't actually like sex and are just sweet little things who want a man to be nice to them. Yes, selfishness is a turn off and we'd be happier with a loving, considerate man, so these pictures are heartwarming, but certainly not sexy….most women like hot and steamy sex as much as any man, so get over it…..

    • Mary says:

      I used to tell my husband (now departed) – make love to me all night and I'll f(*&() you all night long.

  • I'm going to work (right now) on an iPhone app that will search out articles like these and hide them from my wife.

  • Magda says:

    Stupid or not i think some of it will do the trick to make sure women dont complain about a headache

  • Aurelia Clark says:

    Yes, very funny. It does play with your mind. I was at the library and …
    Well, the lirary would not allow those kinds of pictures, so I took my chanches.
    Ofcourse nothing like what my mind anticipated.

  • @cactusheart says:

    OMG…I'm dismayed to see you women think THIS is "hot" or even PLEASING to LOOK AT!

    Emasculating men and fantasizing about them being your chore monkey. Oh yeah, that's so hot I need to change my panties…oh wait, that's right, I don't wear panties *lol*

    That's the same stereotypical fantasy that males have of women staying home running the house while catering to their every need.Where the woman transforms every single aspect of their lives into something about the man's life or about something that has to do with pleasing the man, leaving behind no identity of her own.

    It's a fantasy that's ridiculously unbalanced and SADLY outdated and it's a fantasy most women RESENT their men having, but many of them have it. So how is THIS any more acceptable? Since when did 2 wrongs make a right? I personally don't find the idea of a male version of a "Stepford Wife" hot by ANY stretch of the imagination.

  • @cactusheart says:

    This is reinforcing outdated gender roles (these pictures are a demonstration that they still exist), it can give a woman a sense of entitlement over their man and the justification that they "deserve" to be catered to that way, which can leave the man feel taken for granted. How far have we departed from the desperate housewife era of the 50's? We've come such a long way from that kind of inhibiting thankless life that we actually feel ok depicting men that way. Almost as if there is some sort of subconscious need for payback, perhaps? And for something like THIS to be on a website that's SUPPOSED to encourage and PROMOTE "enlightened" thinking? Wow. What a disappointment. Tsk, tsk, Vishen. You should've kept this joke just among your buddies at the office. NOT that it's THAT offensive…but it IS NOT EXACTLY a joke in "good taste", nor is it appropriate to the ways of thinking you're (SUPPOSEDLY) trying to create in a place like this.

    • eatcake says:

      there are men that actually do this and never think twice about it.. that's what makes them desirable and not just when they come home, sit on the couch, and watch TV or go online. This site encourages big thinking and thinking out of the box, indeed. And not just the small thinking rhetoric that just sound more like this: NO, I'm a man and, therefore, prefer to be enlightened by Coor's light commercials. lol.

  • @cactusheart says:

    Vishen, IMO, to put this in words you might say: the joke behind these pictures comes from some really "low-vibration" thinking and it's a very "low-vibration" way to express unmet needs. I'd think YOU of ALL PEOPLE would've realized THAT. Yeah, IT IS posed as a joke, but I also realize that jokes are a great way to bring up thoughts and feelings a person may otherwise feel inhibited to express, be it fear of how it will be received or fear that it will contintue to go on ignored or the fact that it would be just plain unpleasant to discuss in a plain direct honest way

    • vishen says:

      oh please Cactusheart. If we over examines every joke this way, what would we be left to laugh out. This joke's funny because it IS MILDY TRUE. Men are turned on by physical attractiveness and visual porn way more than women. Women are turned on by character and a sense of caring way more than men. This is not to say that some men or women might feel different. Or that some women might prefer these pictures more if they included a little guy on girl action. But overall…you have to admit. This was pretty funny.

  • @cactusheart says:

    You know what this "porn" reminds me of??? That episode of South Park, where the "metrosexual" craze was at it's peak and the men were totally going for it? The women were THRILLED at the transformation and were HAPPY that FINALLY they have a mate that UNDERSTANDS them and LIKES to do the things THEY LIKE TO DO and NOW they FINALLY have someone to RELATE TO AND IDENTIFY with… But then things got so far out of hand, the men, out-femmed the women, becoming more of an annoying, materialistic, high-maintenance lady-friend than a spouse, and before long, the wives were SORRY and ALL THEY WANTED were their messy, hairy, crude, sweaty MEN BACK. Careful what you wish for *lol*

    You women only THINK this is what you want because you women are only feeling tired of what society expects of you and think that men should help more, but you're going about it the wrong way by taking it out on the men themselves instead of the society putting unrealistic impractical expectations on your shoulders in the first place… Chew on that one for a minute :.P

    • eatcake says:

      wow, here is big pain body if i've ever seen one :p

    • Cathrin says:

      With a pseudonym like cactusheart, doesn't that tell us all something about you? Your bitterness is strong, you must taste it in your mouth every day. This humorous display has so clearly hit a nerve with you. It's not hard to figure out why. But, this was just a joke, not some hot political debate. Lighten up and remove some of those thorns you have protecting your true heart. I'm willing to bet you'd be a lot happier.

  • Dan Hicks says:

    Pornography is about disrespect and degredation, the exacty opposite of the respect and esteem you have men showing here. So it seems to me what you've done in order to be eye catching, is perversion itself.

  • Kathy says:

    LOL! I don’t know if I would call them porn, but they are funny and cute!

  • Kat says:

    I taught my son this saying, "If momma aint happy, aint NO body happy!" If men would focus on making their woman happy, then she would make him feel like a KING in all areas of the relationship!

  • Ellen says:

    This is funny but it is also stupid. It is not porn… It is what men do for women if they are really trying to make their own life better. LOL Not all of this all the time but some of this a bit more would change the way a woman sees am man, Like OMG is there something wrong with …
    All kidding aside, I know it is not the norm but it is a nice thing to do for your woman. Taken to the extreme here it is just comedy.

  • someone says:

    hahaha… I think you got it right!!

    Men are stimulated visually.. and for women I think these work.

    I am a guy.. so Im not sure..

  • Isobel says:

    I suppose this might have been funny in the 70s but it’s pretty lame now. It’s also pretty demeaning to men and women.

    On a more serious note – if women stopped treating their men like children, perhaps they’d start acting like men again.

    • vishen says:

      Really? Demeaning. I think it's frickin hilarious.

      But I do agree with your second point.

      • Isobel says:

        Yes, demeaning because it basically says men have to act and think like women in order to be valued. And that all women need to feel sexy is a cute-looking toy boy who does as he's told and is effectively her Best Female Friend in drag. They all kind of remind me of Darren in the original “Bewitched” – and sexy he WASN'T!

  • Victoria says:

    It's true, it's true, damn true!!!!

  • Vera says:

    Now that’s STEAMY Baby!!!!!!!!!

  • Hugh Curley says:

    Pornography is material that is sexually explicit. I do not think this is. You seem to trying too hard to shock people into looking. A more accurate title may be, “Aphrodisiacs for Women.”

  • Kaz says:

    I fail to see this as porn for womyn.
    I believe it is a front, as men seem to promise this stuff until they get you where they want you,then, you see them change.

  • Suz Nichols says:

    I lmao at these pics…but you’re right, these were just like porn for me.
    Suz

  • Absolutely agree!!!

    When women say it’s the little things that count, this is what we mean. It’s not about being effeminate, it’s about doing things that show you care, i.e. make life easier/more pleasant (from a woman’s perspective).

    Women have been forced to do things from a man’s perspective for centuries. It’s time we are met half way. (-:

    Kudos for posting this!!

    • redphoenix says:

      meeting us halfway,I agree with you and wtf?porn?so it comes down to the “its a mans' world”=meaning are we not allowed to see naked men and everywhere you go there are naked images of women..

    • shane says:

      Haha only a woman would say that! : ) I agree it should be half way, tho in my experience women want the whole kit and kaboodle! total control, if they dont have that well there is no wrath like……………: )

  • Pia says:

    Very funny – had a good laugh. Which is always a good way to get things straight and be happy,
    Love especially the last one!
    Good luck with this.
    Pia,
    The Perpetual Happiness Machine
    http://www.youramazingpower.com/home

  • Francesca says:

    All of these things are certainly things I would love in a man…and I’ll add one more: a man who can play beautiful classical music on the piano. A man who cooks and plays the piano is, in my estimation, extremely sexy.

  • Girl says:

    yes to all of the questions. very limited scope, ie,straight, clean cut M.O.R. tho. (where’s Kramer????? Jim Carrey????)

    my horsey-girlfriends and I look at the horses for sale ads for porn
    thanks for trying, boys. going to ride my horse now.

  • Mary says:

    Yes, Yes and Yes! Cool stuff and definitely a “turn on”!!!
    TY for this-FUN for sure!

    I truly enjoy your perspective as well as this angle of vision!

    In-JOY! Always,
    Mary

  • Bob says:

    Not for all women. Some women think it’s stupid that men take out the garbage. In the 21st century many women think that chores that both people hate should be done together. And when they can afford it hired out. Maintaining a household requires work and it can be shared and it can be like a date.

  • Angela Andreoli says:

    Absolutely “HOT”-
    makes for a fairytale relationship!!!!!!!
    read my book “A Rainbow in December: A Ray of Hope” – a memoir of a love story – (my fairytale) it has a lot of this in it – by Angela Laura – being published now by Author House.

  • Kirsten Hayden says:

    How could good looking guys being thoughtful and in touch with what is important to a women not be totally hot. It is funny because it does not typically happen. But what I found most attractive is a man caring so much about a baby and cooking. To be “chick porn” you need an act of passionate, die for you love. This is why the “Twilight phenomenom” is prevelent across the generations of women.

  • tracy says:

    Not exactly .But nice try.

  • Kalpana says:

    Well, this is nice but is this porn???
    Not by a long shot.
    I am not a feminist nor do I find this ‘funny’ funny.
    It is just nice!
    Hey, guys do help round the house and a lot of them are considerate.
    Someone still dwells in the Victorian Age!
    Pornographic – HA!

  • Russ says:

    It’s hilarious! But, I know some women who would really think it’s hot! Mind if I forward this to them?

  • Songbabe says:

    I think this is hysterical and accurate.
    Funny, funny, funny.
    Women don’t need porn. At least I don’t.

  • Charles says:

    What is “porn” for a woman may depend upon her biological age. Some would suggest that the strongest drive for a man is to mate with as many women as possible, and that the strongest drive for a woman is to reproduce and care for the young. To the extent that this is valid, then it may follow that BEFORE pregnancy, “porn” for a woman may be that which helps her to BECOME pregnant, while AFTER pregnancy, “porn” may be that which helps her to care for her children. (Is this true? I dunno, let me ask my wife!)

  • Michel Matil says:

    Oh Boy,
    That’s It Hmm?
    Why didn’t you tell me before?
    Michel

  • Arti says:

    I am clean bowled. Its amazing how easy it is to please most women. My curiosity is how many men would look and appreciate the message and and even if they do, how many would care to bring some changes in their perceptions and habits?
    Pornography for women by wishful women!

  • Tina says:

    Too funny.
    Tellman u are everywhere!

  • Désirée Winkler says:

    Dear Vishen, when you ask me about this pictures I think there very lovely, I wish everybody was this thoughtfull for eachother!!!!
    Love & Peace,forever !!! Daisy

  • Cathie O says:

    Amusing, delightful fantasy! Would never happen. Especially from guys that look that
    good.

  • Roy Faubion says:

    Now that’s funny. Ask directions? What’s that mean? I know where I’m going, don’t you? And I just took out the garbage, still have legs! These are great and totally unbelieveable.

  • Geeg says:

    WELL . . . I find it eXtremely appealing! No, not as a direct sexual turn on, but as “acts of Consideration . . .” that definitely DO lead to expressing my joy for being VALUED!!!!! By the posts I have read . .I’ll bet the answers reveal the “generation” one hails from. I grew up with that . . . “a man’s castle”; and “woman was created to help (they really meant serve and Service) a man”; and “a real man never has to explain his actions/choices to a woman . . .” beliefs . . .ad nauseum, ad infinitum!!!!!!!!!!!! So, there is my 2 cents. I was definitely born in the Wrong generation. I have found the 20 something’s are kinder and gentler all around than my grandfather, father, and guys of my age at the time. But NO . . . cougar after ‘children’ I’m not!
    I agree with the stance that PORN has always put women in a place of being a subservient slave and elevates the already egoistic (at least men 30+) male living in an equally “fairy tale land” that they often have accused women of living in. However, I don’t see porn going away any time in the near future. Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk!

    • Gowynne says:

      I just wanted to comment on
      "Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk! ";
      by saying that I believe there ia a huge untapped market there. Which is saying alot considering porn is a grossly saturated venue.And if may refer to another post from LoisLane, women do love great sex, as i totally agree wth her comment, and it also refers to the untapped potential this type market. So i say,we find investors and make some waves!

    • redphoenix says:

      Yeah man!!!

    • shane says:

      Not trying to be a smart alec but most women in porn choose to be in it! : )

  • Gary Stark says:

    While I find this very amusing, I also see a whole spectrum of stereotypes, women seem to have about men. Many men are happy to get up with their children, in the night.

    As for asking for directions, if you can find another man to ask, and if he knows, you will be able to follow his directions, and arrive at your destination. However if you ask a woman you will get something like “just go down 3 red lights, and turn at the corner with the convenience store. If the light at hwy 7 is green, count it anyway, but not the green light at Columbus Rd, cause it is always green.

    If/when you come to the corner with the convenience store, turn past it, and go until you are about two miles before the end of the road,
    then turn down the narrow lane, and you will be there.

    If you do find the corner with the convenience store, you may find two or three of them, on opposite sides of the road. Anjd how in hell are you supposed to know when you are two miles before the road ends. You are sure to find narrow lanes on both sides of the highway, about every 100 yards. Lots of luck!

    As for putting the seat on the toilet back down, why don’t men demand that women raise the seat, after they use it. It makes just as much sense as telling men to put it down. If they raise the seat, they will know that it is up, so they need to lower it if they get up in the night.

    If a man shows up with flowers for no reason, the woman is more apt to accuse him of having done something wrong, probably with another woman, than she is to thank him, and welcome him home, with love and affection.

    I believe that women would probably be more apt to have their man shop for shoes with them, if they would go along with him to the hardware store, and follow him around happily while he looks at every tool and new gadget on the market. Also, is it really asking too much for a woman to limit the number or her shoes to only 3 or 4 times the number of her man’s shoes, lol. Just look at the closet space they would have then!

    • sirsmilesalot says:

      Haha! You got in one go Gaz !!! Thats about what it amounts to!
      Thats my toilet seat response every time! : )

  • Susan says:

    I think it’s delightful! What an intriguing idea. :-)

  • Marney says:

    As an employee of MindValley I know that The purpose of MindValley is to spread enlightened ideas, and what this represents to me is far from it. Yes while its cute, lighthearted fun, the underlying tones and message is not. Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I understand the idea that a man (very good looking ones yes) doing household chores is so absurd, that a woman would find it so shocking as in porn. This isnt the reality I want to live in or one I want to perpetuate. And unfortunately its the reality for women these days. Here’s some stats:

    According to the Bureau of Labour Statistic’s Time Use Survey for 2007, on an average day 83% of women and 66% of men in America spent some time doing household activities, such as housework, cooking, lawn care, or financial and other household management.
    On an average day, 20% of men did housework, such as cleaning or doing laundry, compared with 52% of women. Thirty-seven percent of men did food preparation or cleanup compared with 64% of women.

    Women still make .70 cents to the dollar of a man in Canada. I don’t even want to know what typical Malaysian company statistics look like.

    We’re better than this. We live in a country where women are treated like second class citizens by law, yet MindValley rises above all that. We are all treated as equals, regardless of race, age, sex etc. Why don’t we communicate this enlightened idea? Instead of propagating old stereotypes? From your practice, I know you don’t believe in these stereotypes, but this is not what this blog post is communicating to me.

    We are all about spreading enlightened ideas, here’s mine: Being a Feminist is not a bad thing. All a feminist is is someone who believes men and women should be treated equally.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m not out to abolish gender roles, I loooove being a woman. Like I said, the word Feminist needs some serious rebranding. I’m just really disappointed in this. I hope you’ll take this into consideration for future content.

    • vishen says:

      FYI Everyone. Marney works for me at MindValley (the parent company behind FinerMinds) and sent me this as a private email. I felt she had some valid points and so asked her to publish this publicly for everyone to see. Would love to know your thoughts as you are our readers.

      Our company MindValley is 70% female and the majority of our managers are women. So this is of course a relevant subject to us.

      • Linda says:

        I think that Marney is young and not yet forgiving of foibles. I think the point of the pictures was that respect begetss not only respect but loving caring gestures from women. Porn may be a little exaggerated but you sometimes need to exaggerate to make a point.

        A friends husband was overheard telling his son who commented on his Dad doing the dishes all week…Yes, I am doing menial work but the reward far outweighs the effort. If you marry a great woman you will understand what I mean”

    • @cactusheart says:

      Brava Marney! I thought I was the only one who felt this way…The fact that you are an EMPLOYEE speaking out your disagreement is something I find especially awesome! I too thought it disappointing to find such a primitive, baser-instinct joke being passed around on a place that's SUPPOSED to “rise above” that kind of thinking and spread “enlightenment” and the kind of behavior that comes with that. No, it's nothing to get OFFENDED over or file a lawsuit *lol* it's just not the best joke that comes from not the most ideal manner of thought.Uncharacteristic, and disappointing.

    • shane says:

      Personally i think feminism has turned a lot of women into what arrogant men are like. : )

  • Caroline says:

    I think it’s fun and probably wishfull thinking.
    In any partnership thoughfullness is key!
    It is a two way street, men and women should share the responsibility of making life happy!

  • liza says:

    Very cute and funny…for example, with 'one' like this, I would not be afraid to be 'falling in' in the middle of the night. LOL
    I love that kind of man who does have all those little attentions for their beloved one and I am
    lucky because it happens that I have one of my own.

  • inas says:

    awwww so cute ,you cann’t find these men around

  • A says:

    I don’t think this is porn for women. I think this is a Woman’s “Hope,” a Woman’s “Dream,” A Woman’s “Secret Requirement.”

    I would love this type of porn to be a “Prerequisite” but we all know the majority of us would either not have relationships with men if it was required or if we had a relationship with a man who has all these qualities, our relationships wouldn’t last because we’d have to beat the women off of them!

  • Dave says:

    The "Sex & The City" feminist's wet dream come true!

  • Kishore says:

    Isn’t this what the men already do in the western countries. I have found them doing more domestic work around the house and especially taking care of the baby, changing the diapers, feeding them when they are hungry, giving them a bath etc then us asians.

  • Lil says:

    These are hilarious but I have to say, I would rather have my man say that he wants fuck me senseless…just kidding…but not really.

    • prancer says:

      Amen! If they would just title it differently – what would be great for women to get from their men in terms of respect and attention.

      Porn and passionate sex are normal and good. Frankly, more women would want a good storyline, good camera work, and couples who are clearly together.

      I don'[ enjoy when they go for the "Oh, my goodness" trying to be shock value. I clicked on this because I had seen this before on an email, and it annoyed me then.

      Peace out!

  • Gladys says:

    This is great! My husband of 32 years fits in almost every picture. He has done and would do everything depicted without complaint or hesitation, but I think there’s room for compromise. He’s a loving, considerate, gentle man, but I wouldn’t expect him to miss the NFL playoffs to go to a craft’s fair! I’m a big girl, I can do that by myself!

  • Vivian says:

    Great ideas, but to bother with all this and everything else that I have to deal with, life is simply too short.
    I’m also tempted to add my list of gripes about women but it would simply take too long.
    Viviano

  • Mike Wvans says:

    Believe it or not, there are some men out there like that! I don’t think I’m Don Juan, but I consider myself pretty good looking, and I am all about making life easier on my fiance! I cook, clean, take out the trash, and go with her to things that interest her! For me, its because i love her more than humanly possible for most people, she is my everything..so when she has worked all day, I don’t want her to have to come home and cook or clean! Don’t let some men give us all a bad name! …oh and I always ask for directions if I don’t know where I’m at, or going!

  • Mayra says:

    I’d really love this to happen, but I also would enjoy going to the ball game, cooking his favorite dish and meeting “the guys”. That’s what partners are for, eh?

  • Rudolph says:

    I did all that… Like to think I know a thing or two (or more) about great oral sex too, and back and foot massage. Didn’t stint on any of it. Not because I wanted anything back, just because I truly loved her.

    Strangely, I also liked her an awful lot too. Appreciated her bright and quirky mind…. It was heaven while it lasted.

    She dumped me for a selfish dude who doesn’t even even think much of her.

    I guess women are bored by tame, thoughtful men. I think they want to ride a wild stallion.

    They want to be the only one to tame him… but not 100% He’s still got to be wild and a little dangerous.

    Ladies?

    • Bryan says:

      Rudolph,

      There is a huge difference between what women say they want, and what they respond to. That doesn't mean women don't want the things they say they do. It just means the things women say they want aren't usually the things that cause them to want to get a man out of his clothes, and take a ride on the wild bologna pony.

      If a man does the things in these pictures simply to appease a woman, it basically says,

      “I am a cute fluffy puppy with no fangs. Here's my leash, my collar, and my food bowl. Please Pleeeeeease rub my…. tummy.

      If anyone messes with my girl, I'll smack him down with my feather duster…. after I'm done painting my toenails.”

      This is the same kind of guy who, when a mouse skitters across the kitchen floor, will jump up on a chair point his finger, and shriek, “Kill it! Kill it!”

      In that context, the man may as well put a tattoo on his forehead that says…. “I have genital warts,” because it'll repel a woman just as fast. Of course, she might invite you over during the day to do housework so her house will be clean when the guy she really wants to be with pays her a visit.

      As I say this, keep in mind that I don't mean that a man has to be a total jack hole to get and keep a woman attracted to him.

      When a man does the kinds of things in those pictures….

      here and there…

      in a way that's hard for her to predict….

      because he wants to make the woman he is with feel good ( not because he wants to make her “want” him ), or even just because…

      It creates a different response entirely.

      ( Yeah, I know the grammar's bad, so there's no need for the grammar nazis to get their pantyhose in a bunch… On second thought, feel free to bunch up your pantyhose. Just don't tell me about it. )

      Once that concept makes more sense, more women will naturally want to…. rub your shiny nose.

      There are plenty of tips and tricks that I could list, but none of it works if you're coming from the wrong place, and none of it is really needed when you're coming from the right place.

      Here's the best thing I can tell you in the space I have here. Go out and make friends with a few ( at least 3 ) women who are like someone you would want to be with…. romantically.

      Be just friends with them, meaning no rides on the bologna pony. No romance… just friends. Learn to be comfortable and have fun just being around them. This will have an effect on several levels, and other women will notice.

    • Jezzy says:

      Rudolph,

      Move on and when or if you see them together, be the bigger man and thank him for taking one for the team!

  • J.R. Freeman says:

    Slow down women these types of men do exist and believe it or not they are not GAY. They are many of us out there still single and do these chores without questioning. Sadly most of those men had terrible relationships with previous marriages, but some of them are still around.

    Take your time to look…

  • Valerie says:

    I’ve had this emailed to me several times and it never gets old for me. I love it and appreciate the very thought of having such thoughtfulness. I don’t need the “traditional sense” of porn and I think many of my friends who have gone from their 20’s, 30’s and now 40’s agree.

    It shows just how different the needs/desires are for male and female. Of course relationship is “shared responsibility”, and most women would go out of their way even more if this “fantasy-type” porn were even close to reality.

  • Andrea says:

    Dear Vishen,
    I am a faithfull reader and wiever of yours.
    You do great things.
    However, I must tell you the throuth: this is the best you have ever published. I am still in tears from laughing.
    And of cours, it is all in jest. I love your newsletters, and follow up on many of them.
    Thanks a lot for the great work, you are a great addition to my life, and to those whom I translate it into German, I happen to live in Austria.
    Love to you and to all the lovely, funny crew

    Andrea Forras

  • camilla says:

    I don’t think I would want my partner to be just the way I am, all the things a woman appreciate, I want them to be a man with all the good things and the flaws. That’s called a human.

  • johnh g says:

    Probably wouldn't make a bit of difference, they would still find something to complain about….. You don't make enough money, dinner is cold, these flowers aren't my favorite, you missed a spot…..

    Best joke of the year

    Two women were sitting quietly together, minding their own business….

  • Alain says:

    I don't know if porn is the right word. I think its appreciation and consideration. These little things do make women respond in a fantastic way. From cooking supper, to back rubs, to washing her hair, the loving response that's given in return is 10 fold the effort to do these things.

  • Skye King says:

    LOL! Luv it…

    Hmmm…Missed out on the Private Jet to NY City for a Friday night dinner, or the Horse Drawn Carriage to take you to the Symphony:)

    Hand Gliding to your next meeting or Horse Back Riding along the Beach to your secluded
    Candle Lite Dinner nestled amongst the Ocean Breeze and the Milky Way.

    Am I thinking out loud?

    Thanks for the post, will warm the hearts of most women, and give a slight chuckle to those who vent.:)

  • sune says:

    WOW..!
    That's a great start..!!
    Caring, nurturing and supporting attitude is like porn for women..! Thank you!!

  • annelise says:

    I love this! The point, at least in my opinion, is that these “small things” count to make room for the really hot, steamy stuff. This is not hot and steamy (and then again, it is, especially the guy getting up for the baby), but it turns my imagination on for what might happen afterwards. If you are in a long-term relationship; married with children like I am, these things definitely count.

  • Brenda says:

    This was exceptionally cute! I especially liked the guy who needed her to hold the thought so he could pull over to ask for directions! lol Anyway, I really enjoyed it & the captions.. Thanxz 4 sharing, I got a real laugh @ these pics. :)

  • Kathrynne says:

    Turn ons are such personal things…
    I agree that when a person, man or woman, is considerate and helpful, they will inevitably create a harmonious space.
    HOWEVER, unless men or women were taught to behave in these ways, the behaviors will often NOT manifest. (If you are a mother or father, remember this!)
    Also, COMMUNICATION is another big key. I've learned that when I ask, from a kind space within ME, my man will do what he can to follow through on my request. And THAT is always a turn on. BTW, he loves shopping for shoes for me. I didn't ask for that, he just came with that programming already installed…. :)

  • Ron says:

    I could be personally be all those things and if the guy does not include it in his Creative Visualization it does not mean any thing. I can make a women melt every way and what is mentioned, but when the plan is not comtiplated it goes to a empty vessel and is wasted, except your history is noticed. And it gets tired. If I got half of what I gave it would be heaven on earth for both. Now lets cut the crap and lets look at the real world.
    How lazy are most people and how often do ya find two people on the same heart beat. I think this blog owner wants to create traffic and got my fingers tapping. Do dating services add these things in today’s info. forms? I dont think so, because its not real. After a few years of “why did you make a wrong turn” turns into
    ” that was a stupid move” and then comes the reply of course something nasty. Well if the real world were like dream boy’s idea, the girl or guy would have very very close friends to keep it new. And thats the general public and the divorce rate statistics. Sorry Bucko! The perfect couple might be and there are couple’s who are friends on top of marriage but thats another story.

    • @cactusheart says:

      Jeez, Ron…Bitter much?

    • @cactusheart says:

      No, but seriously…I understand some of what you mean. What if a man DOES follow these “suggestions” and takes them seriously as the key to a woman's heart (and “other stuff” *hah*), only for the woman to take all of that effort for granted and act like it's nothing special? That was pretty much 2/3rds of my marriage. I went in the marriage fully committed, faithful and thought of nothing but ways to make him happy. And years went by without even acknowledgement LET ALONE reciprocation!I never felt so lonely in my life, even when he would be sitting right next to me. By the time he finally noticed, I was too numb to care. And it didn't seem fair that NOW HE was the only one trying. Now you seem to have wound up the same way as me, you stuck around too long trying in vain to make the best out of something that just wasn't working for you….

    • @cactusheart says:

      But that's where the similarities between our situations seems to end. I didn't let it poison my heart with the idea that all relationships from now on are going to be like the one I left. Or that every couple has the same problem as yours. You're just setting yourself up to attract more of the same brand of pain in the future. I didn't end my marriage from a place of hate. Sure, it hurt a helluva lot, ESPECIALLY having to end it. But I don't have that “all women are like/all men are like” mentality. You need to release that pain. I used this failed marriage as a gigantic learning experience. I know what to do(and what not to do) with my next relationship…relationship, NOT marriage…I DO NOT EVER want to go through marriage again! *lol* But I'm still in the process of ending this marriage, I have too long of a way to go in healing to even think about getting into another relationship OF ANY KIND right now

    • @cactusheart says:

      …And it also proves the point of something I've always said…when it comes to relationships it's NEVER “treat the person the way YOU want to be treated”, if you live that way, you're setting yourself up for disappointment EACH AND EVERY TIME!!! I'd explain, but I don't think I have the room *lol*

  • Gaby says:

    Oh my! I will be envy, but I have a very porn man, he does all that all those guys do in these pic, Am I lucky??? yes I am.

  • Charli says:

    Well one thing is sure. All the fellas that fall for this will definately alienate themselves from getting to what really turns awoman on. ( I am assuming that "Porn" is translated as something that women find attractive and gets thier primal carnal juices flowing.) which leaves women even more dumfounded as to why most men in western society just don't get it. doing what a woman does, is easy, is nice, and rewarding and ha ha hah cute. However it does not turn em on. Being a man does.

  • Amy says:

    hmmm….. I would call it “shock therapy” instead of “porn for women”. A “fairy Tale” even. To imply that a woman would be satisfied visually or stimulated mentally just because the man in her life chooses to make a bit of an effort around the house doen't sit well with me, personally. It would definately make me raise an eye brow or two or even get a tad suspicious but “turned on” or some other equivelant that requires “porn” as its title? I have to disagree.

  • rainbowkati says:

    I've seen these before……porno?….. I like mine on the more Erotic style….
    It is wonderful to be able to fantasize that men overall would be this side of caring and nurturing….yet today as our social patterns exist, most men wouldn't be caught doing or saying any of these senarios. My husbands mother reminded him that he was born from a woman and at all times was to respect and honor women…..hence he does help with the housekeeping and porn eroctica style is on our menu. :-)

  • Dawid says:

    A Rose is a Rose is a Rose,
    and to call it anything else,
    causes Confusion.

  • rbhall says:

    These guys look gay…In the “real” world women appreciate the “real” men…don't take my word for it…who do you think will stop the terrorist?

    • jacytator says:

      You have a point, but then again that's what makes his sweet gestures such a turn on. Yeah, manly confidence is appreciated because women like to feel safe and protected, but there's nothing like a manly man who is willing to tame himself to please his lady with tender affection and considerate acts. It shows that he's willing to go beyond his mere basic instincts out of consideration for the woman he loves. If he's too “manly” all the time then his woman stops feeling safe with him because he fails to demonstrate that he can handle her with care.

  • Anne W PowellRiverBC says:

    Some people in these posts have really gotten their knickers tied in a knot over the pics. I think the pics are meant to be humorous, and they are, in my opinion. Yes, they depict some things that women like in a man, but I don't think all of them are meant to be totally realistic – just spoofs – and that's OK, isn't it? Where is people's sense of humour – sheesh, don't take it so personally! Is somebody feeling secretly guilty? Is that why the seeming resentment is spewing out? Anyway, my husband helps a lot around the house partly because we both work. It doesn't make me have “hot” feelings, but I definitely really appreciate him for being thoughtful, caring and considerate. I think it takes a real man to find that balance between humility and ego. :)

  • Aurelia Clark says:

    Yes, very funny. It does play with your mind. I was at the library and …
    Well, the lirary would not allow those kinds of pictures, so I took my chanches.
    Ofcourse nothing like what my mind anticipated.

  • […] sometimes what comes of thinking that’s what we ladies want gets pretty comical. Like this post I came across at my friend Vishen Lakhiani’s FinerMinds […]

  • Gina says:

    I am a mental health therapist and work with couples frequently, and would say, there is merely SOME truth to this, but many women want it all…just as today…many women want it all…What I mean is the entire package…The considerate husband, who is also tough, a protector, provider and romantic. Many women today are working and have as much earning power as men and also do many of the same things men traditionally used to do. I definitely would not call this PORNOGRAPHY, but PARTNERING!

  • @cactusheart says:

    OMG…I'm dismayed to see you women think THIS is “hot” or even PLEASING to LOOK AT!

    Emasculating men and fantasizing about them being your chore monkey. Oh yeah, that's so hot I need to change my panties…oh wait, that's right, I don't wear panties *lol*

    That's the same stereotypical fantasy that males have of women staying home running the house while catering to their every need.Where the woman transforms every single aspect of their lives into something about the man's life or about something that has to do with pleasing the man, leaving behind no identity of her own.

    It's a fantasy that's ridiculously unbalanced and SADLY outdated and it's a fantasy most women RESENT their men having, but many of them have it. So how is THIS any more acceptable? Since when did 2 wrongs make a right? I personally don't find the idea of a male version of a “Stepford Wife” hot by ANY stretch of the imagination.

  • @cactusheart says:

    This is reinforcing outdated gender roles (these pictures are a demonstration that they still exist), it can give a woman a sense of entitlement over their man and the justification that they “deserve” to be catered to that way, which can leave the man feel taken for granted. How far have we departed from the desperate housewife era of the 50's? We've come such a long way from that kind of inhibiting thankless life that we actually feel ok depicting men that way. Almost as if there is some sort of subconscious need for payback, perhaps? And for something like THIS to be on a website that's SUPPOSED to encourage and PROMOTE “enlightened” thinking? Wow. What a disappointment. Tsk, tsk, Vishen. You should've kept this joke just among your buddies at the office. NOT that it's THAT offensive…but it IS NOT EXACTLY a joke in “good taste”, nor is it appropriate to the ways of thinking you're (SUPPOSEDLY) trying to create in a place like this.

  • Judy says:

    I think it's hilarious. Women don't neen specail porn (except this kind) cause porn is porn. If it's men & women or women & women or men & men unless your getting into something a little more weird.
    It's all the same. How many ways & combinations do you want to watch, it's there.

  • @cactusheart says:

    Vishen, IMO, to put this in words you might say: the joke behind these pictures comes from some really “low-vibration” thinking and it's a very “low-vibration” way to express unmet needs. I'd think YOU of ALL PEOPLE would've realized THAT. Yeah, IT IS posed as a joke, but I also realize that jokes are a great way to bring up thoughts and feelings a person may otherwise feel inhibited to express, be it fear of how it will be received or fear that it will contintue to go on ignored or the fact that it would be just plain unpleasant to discuss in a plain direct honest way

  • @cactusheart says:

    You know what this “porn” reminds me of??? That episode of South Park, where the “metrosexual” craze was at it's peak and the men were totally going for it? The women were THRILLED at the transformation and were HAPPY that FINALLY they have a mate that UNDERSTANDS them and LIKES to do the things THEY LIKE TO DO and NOW they FINALLY have someone to RELATE TO AND IDENTIFY with… But then things got so far out of hand, the men, out-femmed the women, becoming more of an annoying, materialistic, high-maintenance lady-friend than a spouse, and before long, the wives were SORRY and ALL THEY WANTED were their messy, hairy, crude, sweaty MEN BACK. Careful what you wish for *lol*

    You women only THINK this is what you want because you women are only feeling tired of what society expects of you and think that men should help more, but you're going about it the wrong way by taking it out on the men themselves instead of the society putting unrealistic impractical expectations on your shoulders in the first place… Chew on that one for a minute :.P

    • Cathrin says:

      With a pseudonym like cactusheart, doesn’t that tell us all something about you? Your bitterness is strong, you must taste it in your mouth every day. This humorous display has so clearly hit a nerve with you. It’s not hard to figure out why. But, this was just a joke, not some hot political debate. Lighten up and remove some of those thorns you have protecting your true heart. I’m willing to bet you’d be a lot happier.

  • Stephen says:

    For general info, Vishen didn't name the book. I've made a point to show my copy to a lot of the young men I come into contact with (I'm a dad of four grown kids, but the world never seems to run out of kids). The reason is almost too simple: this stuff never ocurred to most of us (men and women). The trick is not subservience, but to see through the partner's eyes, the basis of compassion, one of the fundemental building blocks of a loving relationship. Most of us weren't taught that, so this is a wake-up for some who can drop their defensiveness long enough to let another point of view in. Bravo!

  • Kat says:

    I taught my son this saying, “If momma aint happy, aint NO body happy!” If men would focus on making their woman happy, then she would make him feel like a KING in all areas of the relationship!

  • Victoria says:

    It's true, it's true, damn true!!!!

  • Gigi says:

    WELL . . . I find it eXtremely appealing! No, not as a direct sexual turn on, but as “acts of Consideration . . .” that definitely DO lead to expressing my joy for being VALUED!!!!! By the posts I have read . .I’ll bet the answers reveal the “generation” one hails from. I grew up with that . . . “a man’s castle”; and “woman was created to help (they really meant serve and Service) a man”; and “a real man never has to explain his actions/choices to a woman . . .” beliefs . . .ad nauseum, ad infinitum!!!!!!!!!!!! So, there is my 2 cents. I was definitely born in the Wrong generation. I find the 20 something’s are kinder and gentler all around than my grandfather, father, and guys of my age at the time. But NO . . . cougar after ‘children’ I’m not!
    I agree with the stance that PORN has always put women in a place of being a subservient slave and elevates the already egoistic (at least men 30+) male living in an equally “fairy tale land” that they often have accused women of living in. However, I don’t see porn going away any time in the near future. Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk!

  • Geeg says:

    WELL . . . I find it eXtremely appealing! No, not as a direct sexual turn on, but as “acts of Consideration . . .” that definitely DO lead to expressing my joy for being VALUED!!!!! By the posts I have read . .I’ll bet the answers reveal the “generation” one hails from. I grew up with that . . . “a man’s castle”; and “woman was created to help (they really meant serve and Service) a man”; and “a real man never has to explain his actions/choices to a woman . . .” beliefs . . .ad nauseum, ad infinitum!!!!!!!!!!!! So, there is my 2 cents. I was definitely born in the Wrong generation. I have found the 20 something’s are kinder and gentler all around than my grandfather, father, and guys of my age at the time. But NO . . . cougar after ‘children’ I’m not!
    I agree with the stance that PORN has always put women in a place of being a subservient slave and elevates the already egoistic (at least men 30+) male living in an equally “fairy tale land” that they often have accused women of living in. However, I don’t see porn going away any time in the near future. Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk!

    • Gowynne says:

      I just wanted to comment on
      “Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk! “;
      by saying that I believe there ia a huge untapped market there. Which is saying alot considering porn is a grossly saturated venue.And if may refer to another post from LoisLane, women do love great sex, as i totally agree wth her comment, and it also refers to the untapped potential this type market. So i say,we find investors and make some waves!

    • shane says:

      Not trying to be a smart alec but most women in porn choose to be in it! : )

  • Dave says:

    The “Sex & The City” feminist's wet dream come true!

  • Dru says:

    ….that is really stupid, Really, really, really stupid and offensive. If I'm looking at porn I want sex, naked men or women doing kink stuff, not lame "Oh let me clean that dear" crap.

  • Annab says:

    Whats the big deal…. arn't all men like this? ;~)

  • johnh g says:

    Probably wouldn't make a bit of difference, they would still find something to complain about….. You don't make enough money, dinner is cold, these flowers aren't my favorite, you missed a spot…..

    Best joke of the year

    Two women were sitting quietly together, minding their own business….

  • Alain says:

    I don't know if porn is the right word. I think its appreciation and consideration. These little things do make women respond in a fantastic way. From cooking supper, to back rubs, to washing her hair, the loving response that's given in return is 10 fold the effort to do these things.

  • sune says:

    WOW..!
    That's a great start..!!
    Caring, nurturing and supporting attitude is like porn for women..! Thank you!!

  • Kay says:

    I am a woman and when I see something like this it upsets me and I usually don’t acknowledge it.

    The definition of pornography from dictionary.com – obscene writings, drawings, photographs, or the like, esp. those having little or no artistic merit. From that definition I feel it is pornography. It is portraying men in an obscene way, stereotyping, and putting men down. I think it is as bad as the male bashing jokes. I saw this quite a while ago and refused to acknowledge it just as I do the male bashing jokes.

    I feel that in a relationship people are together to complement each other and work together to live and grow. If a women view their relationship and their partner in such a negative way, why are they with that person in the first place?

  • Brenda says:

    This was exceptionally cute! I especially liked the guy who needed her to hold the thought so he could pull over to ask for directions! lol Anyway, I really enjoyed it & the captions.. Thanxz 4 sharing, I got a real laugh @ these pics. :)

  • Gaby says:

    Oh my! I will be envy, but I have a very porn man, he does all that all those guys do in these pic, Am I lucky??? yes I am.

  • Charli says:

    Well one thing is sure. All the fellas that fall for this will definately alienate themselves from getting to what really turns awoman on. ( I am assuming that “Porn” is translated as something that women find attractive and gets thier primal carnal juices flowing.) which leaves women even more dumfounded as to why most men in western society just don't get it. doing what a woman does, is easy, is nice, and rewarding and ha ha hah cute. However it does not turn em on. Being a man does.

  • Judy says:

    I think it's hilarious. Women don't neen specail porn (except this kind) cause porn is porn. If it's men & women or women & women or men & men unless your getting into something a little more weird.
    It's all the same. How many ways & combinations do you want to watch, it's there.

  • Stephen says:

    For general info, Vishen didn’t name the book. I’ve made a point to show my copy to a lot of the young men I come into contact with (I’m a dad of four grown kids, but the world never seems to run out of kids). The reason is almost too simple: this stuff never ocurred to most of us (men and women). The trick is not subservience, but to see through the partner’s eyes, the basis of compassion, one of the fundemental building blocks of a loving relationship. Most of us weren’t taught that, so this is a wake-up for some who can drop their defensiveness long enough to let another point of view in. Bravo!

  • Gigi says:

    WELL . . . I find it eXtremely appealing! No, not as a direct sexual turn on, but as “acts of Consideration . . .” that definitely DO lead to expressing my joy for being VALUED!!!!! By the posts I have read . .I’ll bet the answers reveal the “generation” one hails from. I grew up with that . . . “a man’s castle”; and “woman was created to help (they really meant serve and Service) a man”; and “a real man never has to explain his actions/choices to a woman . . .” beliefs . . .ad nauseum, ad infinitum!!!!!!!!!!!! So, there is my 2 cents. I was definitely born in the Wrong generation. I find the 20 something’s are kinder and gentler all around than my grandfather, father, and guys of my age at the time. But NO . . . cougar after ‘children’ I’m not!
    I agree with the stance that PORN has always put women in a place of being a subservient slave and elevates the already egoistic (at least men 30+) male living in an equally “fairy tale land” that they often have accused women of living in. However, I don’t see porn going away any time in the near future. Maybe we women should “get ours” by buying stock in the bigger companies that create the junk!

  • rss says:

    These pictures are a lot more of a turn on than the anonymous explicit picture message I recently received that scared me instead.

  • essence7591 says:

    This porn was beautiful. Yes, women we also have to stroke a mans ego and give him good sex. It's definitely a two way street. If both sexes do these things for each other there will be more people actually staying together.

  • Rich says:

    When a so called man acts this way we have a word for him. That word is Pu**Y Whipped. When a MAN just jumps in and does his share of all things with his lady, that is called romantic. You want man number one, go hire a housekeeper. If you want a man to love you, make love to you and make your heart content, then stop reading Cosmoo and stop watching Sacks in the City. Just love him. If he is the right one, he will be helping with all those things without being asked.

  • El says:

    hm! That was tricky… You tricked us to read this email! I thought it was to signed up for Gerald O?Donnell?s One Universal Mind ponography! That was the reason I read this section! He is the only thing that can turn me on. Only him. His eyes! :)

  • Blessid says:

    Amazing to see the amount of people who are caught up in gender bias and stereotyping… What each person has said is merely a reflection of themselves and their model of the world – not how the world really is. Notice, a person with issues around "men" will denegrate men, a person with issues around "women" will denegrate women – its not that its "out there happening", but inside your own internal belief system – the outside world being a reflection of your inner world… Your own comments tell the world about who *you* are, not how the world is!

    Grouping "men" compared to "women" makes about as much sense as grouping people with "innies" compared to "outies" (bellybuttons, for the uninitiated!)…

    Whilst you may find *some* commonalities (as you will in *anything* if you look hard enough) ultimately we, as a human race, will still have difficulties relating until we let go of our personal issues, stop projecting onto others (be it individuals/partners, genders or groups) and see one another as individuals, not "all men" or "all women"…

    I just love to read the positive responses – they're a reflection of positive people, with healthy behaviour who are probably happy in their lives, or at least in their relationships…

    As to the original question – is this pornography (for women) – with the definition being: "Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal", then no, it is not – none of the images are "sexually explicit"… however it is clear that many individuals are "aroused" in some way – perhaps not sexually, but maybe an interesting aspect to consider would be tantra, when the energetic circuit between two people (a man and a woman) involves energy leaving the man's heart, entering the woman's heart, leaving the woman's sexual chakra and entering the man's sexual chakra – hence creating a sexual-energy circuit… Potenent-male sexual energy – "manliness", expressed as love, tenderness, kindness could well be the "opening of" a woman's arousal…

    Enjoy your individuality!

  • Dru says:

    ….that is really stupid, Really, really, really stupid and offensive. If I'm looking at porn I want sex, naked men or women doing kink stuff, not lame “Oh let me clean that dear” crap.

  • Razia says:

    well its true women like these things but they don't fall under the category of "pornography". It doesn't turn me on, it just makes me love the person more…. Am i being real or what? But these are really cute gestures that mean a whole lot more than gifts….. In fact most real women prefer their men to be loving and caring than to be bought all those expensive things…

  • Kay says:

    I am a woman and when I see something like this it upsets me and I usually don’t acknowledge it.

    The definition of pornography from dictionary.com – obscene writings, drawings, photographs, or the like, esp. those having little or no artistic merit. From that definition I feel it is pornography. It is portraying men in an obscene way, stereotyping, and putting men down. I think it is as bad as the male bashing jokes. I saw this quite a while ago and refused to acknowledge it just as I do the male bashing jokes.

    I feel that in a relationship people are together to complement each other and work together to live and grow. If a women view their relationship and their partner in such a negative way, why are they with that person in the first place?

  • […] our Evolution Ezine Community who has become a friend (Hi Ron) asking me if I had seen the “Porn for Woman” post on Finer Minds.

  • Susan says:

    I raised three sons to know how to cook. One of them watches football because his wife is crazy about it. It doesn't make them feel like they are not men if they clean. My youngest son would go to a craft fair if his wife and or daughters wanted him to do so. None of them find the super bowl that interesting so it wouldn't figure in the equation. You think maybe he come across as less than a man's man? I was at a ball game with him and his wife. The people behind us were getting more and more upset. My son got up to go take a picture of the band for me. Once he left the upset people told me if I'd just tell that cowboy about the problem, he'd go fix it. He's a bio-chemist who looks like a cowboy and knows he has a good deal in a wife who was willing to work him through school. He also knows he's a "real" man.

  • El says:

    hm! That was tricky… You tricked us to read this email! I thought it was to signed up for Gerald O’Donnell’s One Universal Mind ponography! That was the reason I read this section! He is the only thing that can turn me on. Only him. His eyes! :)

  • Blessid says:

    Amazing to see the amount of people who are caught up in gender bias and stereotyping… What each person has said is merely a reflection of themselves and their model of the world – not how the world really is. Notice, a person with issues around “men” will denegrate men, a person with issues around “women” will denegrate women – its not that its “out there happening”, but inside your own internal belief system – the outside world being a reflection of your inner world… Your own comments tell the world about who *you* are, not how the world is!

    Grouping “men” compared to “women” makes about as much sense as grouping people with “innies” compared to “outies” (bellybuttons, for the uninitiated!)…

    Whilst you may find *some* commonalities (as you will in *anything* if you look hard enough) ultimately we, as a human race, will still have difficulties relating until we let go of our personal issues, stop projecting onto others (be it individuals/partners, genders or groups) and see one another as individuals, not “all men” or “all women”…

    I just love to read the positive responses – they're a reflection of positive people, with healthy behaviour who are probably happy in their lives, or at least in their relationships…

    As to the original question – is this pornography (for women) – with the definition being: “Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal”, then no, it is not – none of the images are “sexually explicit”… however it is clear that many individuals are “aroused” in some way – perhaps not sexually, but maybe an interesting aspect to consider would be tantra, when the energetic circuit between two people (a man and a woman) involves energy leaving the man's heart, entering the woman's heart, leaving the woman's sexual chakra and entering the man's sexual chakra – hence creating a sexual-energy circuit… Potenent-male sexual energy – “manliness”, expressed as love, tenderness, kindness could well be the “opening of” a woman's arousal…

    Enjoy your individuality!

  • Razia says:

    well its true women like these things but they don't fall under the category of “pornography”. It doesn't turn me on, it just makes me love the person more…. Am i being real or what? But these are really cute gestures that mean a whole lot more than gifts….. In fact most real women prefer their men to be loving and caring than to be bought all those expensive things…

  • Susan says:

    I raised three sons to know how to cook. One of them watches football because his wife is crazy about it. It doesn't make them feel like they are not men if they clean. My youngest son would go to a craft fair if his wife and or daughters wanted him to do so. None of them find the super bowl that interesting so it wouldn't figure in the equation. You think maybe he come across as less than a man's man? I was at a ball game with him and his wife. The people behind us were getting more and more upset. My son got up to go take a picture of the band for me. Once he left the upset people told me if I'd just tell that cowboy about the problem, he'd go fix it. He's a bio-chemist who looks like a cowboy and knows he has a good deal in a wife who was willing to work him through school. He also knows he's a “real” man.

  • Nitehowl says:

    She, who ever she is, has to want to be happy if she is ever going to be. With or with out a man.

    A man in her life is not responsible for her happiness-she is. The same holds true for the man. When your happiness depends on someone else for you to be happy, prepare to be disappointed.

    Neither man nor woman is capable of being someones happiness. It starts from within. Then it can be shared with others. It does not start with others. Bottom line- Happiness is a decision. Either you will or you won't. Think about it.
    You decide.

    • peggy says:

      marriage is team work that means liffting each other up being there when you don't want to be love is not selfish

  • Judith says:

    Don't look for pornography for woman. Listen and you will see.

  • Nitehowl says:

    She, who ever she is, has to want to be happy if she is ever going to be. With or with out a man.

    A man in her life is not responsible for her happiness-she is. The same holds true for the man. When your happiness depends on someone else for you to be happy, prepare to be disappointed.

    Neither man nor woman is capable of being someones happiness. It starts from within. Then it can be shared with others. It does not start with others. Bottom line- Happiness is a decision. Either you will or you won't. Think about it.
    You decide.

  • Roger says:

    What a con! after 20 years of "happy marriage" washing the dishes hanging the washing going shopping, looking after the kids, being nice to her friends etc etc etc, Still got me the headaches and other aches not to forget the simple im not up to it or dont feel like it, that made me feel inadequate, Or better hurry up and get over it. Now! i found a lover i am now able to do things with her that i never imagined possible non stop. I dont do any of her washing etc. So its not in the mans mind but in the womans mind as to just how much she is prepared to give of herself to her man. Each case is its own there cannot be generalisation. I still do the shopping and all the rest with my wife she still has her aches.

  • djn says:

    OMG I can't believe how many people didn't get this. It's *FUNNY* ok? JFC.

  • Debora says:

    These men may be cute, but this isn't porn! These guys don't really turn me on at all. Maybe if they were topless or were wearing only boxers, that might be a different story. Haha!

    I was a little disappointed that it wasn't porn(title is misleading to some), but I understand. I was also disappointed that this was more of a stereotype of what some women feel a man should do for them. I didn't find it that funny. We(as a society) need to learn how to move past the stereotypes and appreciate the partner(whether man or woman) for who they actually are and for what they actually do do, not what you (or society) thinks they should do or be!

    I think that the more we evolve and become enlightened, the more this sort of thing fades away and is replaced by acceptance, understanding, and love.

  • WindyD says:

    It's a shame more men are not kind and respectful in this way. And to the guy above who said, "Who will take care of the terrorists?"

    Well, there are a lot of women in the services now taking care of terrorists.

    Also, if all men in the world were kind and respectful to their mates–there would be no terrorists–a new society would be in charge on earth.

  • Roger says:

    What a con! after 20 years of “happy marriage” washing the dishes hanging the washing going shopping, looking after the kids, being nice to her friends etc etc etc, Still got me the headaches and other aches not to forget the simple im not up to it or dont feel like it, that made me feel inadequate, Or better hurry up and get over it. Now! i found a lover i am now able to do things with her that i never imagined possible non stop. I dont do any of her washing etc. So its not in the mans mind but in the womans mind as to just how much she is prepared to give of herself to her man. Each case is its own there cannot be generalisation. I still do the shopping and all the rest with my wife she still has her aches.

  • djn says:

    OMG I can't believe how many people didn't get this. It's *FUNNY* ok? JFC.

  • Diane queen Toronto says:

    IMHO this isn't porn or sex to me… well perhaps the first one because he's wearing light-blue jeans and bare feet… one of my favourite things. Actually it's not what he's doing, it's his deep 'look' into my eyes he gives me while he's doing it. But sometimes he's only role-playing and expects me to fawn all over him with appreciation. What the pics do for me is make me more enthusiastic for sex with him because he's doing something as an equal to help out. My x-husband was a neatnik and did things around the house but it never turned me on. I never needed material things from him or to go shopping. If he watched porn & I was with him in bed, I got the benefit of it! And hey, I might like her too! Sometimes my emotions run my effectiveness in bed, but not how I feel about these mundane chores. I've never read a romance novel (because I wanted to live one!). Are some of the above pics in them? I'll pass. They say that women can't get enough romance and men can't get enough sex. I'd like to see a blog on 'mature sex'. I'm searching on the internet. What pictures would be put up then :? Or are we ew prejudiced against that. I'd love to make love to a man where we're both blindfolded and have never seen each other before. That sounds like wishful thinking for a 62-year-old like me but I have to be realistic… I know I'm not a turn on anymore. But my feelings towards sex/lust haven't changed since I was 18ish. When I fantasize, the images of a loving foursome with some juicy music and toys do it for me! I tend to listen for the pics of my Higher Self; and unincarnated dimensional Twin Soul whom I encountered with help from friends of mine. Yup I want a Tantric man… the eye-gazing, transmutational sex, and feelings of energetic kundalini energy running up and down and between is exquisite and fun, and you don't see pics like the above running across your mind, unless these are the ones that turn you on. Personally I can't see it hee hee.

  • Debora says:

    These men may be cute, but this isn’t porn! These guys don’t really turn me on at all. Maybe if they were topless or were wearing only boxers, that might be a different story. Haha!

    I was a little disappointed that it wasn’t porn(title is misleading to some), but I understand. I was also disappointed that this was more of a stereotype of what some women feel a man should do for them. I didn’t find it that funny. We(as a society) need to learn how to move past the stereotypes and appreciate the partner(whether man or woman) for who they actually are and for what they actually do do, not what you (or society) thinks they should do or be!
    I think that the more we evolve and become enlightened, the more this sort of thing fades away and is replaced by acceptance, understanding, and love.

  • WindyD says:

    It’s a shame more men are not kind and respectful in this way. And to the guy above who said, “Who will take care of the terrorists?”
    Well, there are a lot of women in the services now taking care of terrorists.
    Also, if all men in the world were kind and respectful to their mates–there would be no terrorists–a new society would be in charge on earth.

  • Monica says:

    to answer your question…I think the pics are hot AND funny :)

  • Diane queen Toronto says:

    IMHO this isn't porn or sex to me… well perhaps the first one because he's wearing light-blue jeans and bare feet… one of my favourite things. Actually it's not what he's doing, it's his deep 'look' into my eyes he gives me while he's doing it. But sometimes he's only role-playing and expects me to fawn all over him with appreciation. What the pics do for me is make me more enthusiastic for sex with him because he's doing something as an equal to help out. My x-husband was a neatnik and did things around the house but it never turned me on. I never needed material things from him or to go shopping. If he watched porn & I was with him in bed, I got the benefit of it! And hey, I might like her too! Sometimes my emotions run my effectiveness in bed, but not how I feel about these mundane chores. I've never read a romance novel (because I wanted to live one!). Are some of the above pics in them? I'll pass. They say that women can't get enough romance and men can't get enough sex. I'd like to see a blog on 'mature sex'. I'm searching on the internet. What pictures would be put up then :? Or are we ew prejudiced against that. I'd love to make love to a man where we're both blindfolded and have never seen each other before. That sounds like wishful thinking for a 62-year-old like me but I have to be realistic… I know I'm not a turn on anymore. But my feelings towards sex/lust haven't changed since I was 18ish. When I fantasize, the images of a loving foursome with some juicy music and toys do it for me! I tend to listen for the pics of my Higher Self; and unincarnated dimensional Twin Soul whom I encountered with help from friends of mine. Yup I want a Tantric man… the eye-gazing, transmutational sex, and feelings of energetic kundalini energy running up and down and between is exquisite and fun, and you don't see pics like the above running across your mind, unless these are the ones that turn you on. Personally I can't see it hee hee.

  • dorothy says:

    nope, I didn't think this is porn for women, didn't trip any hot buttons for me. The closest thiing would be amusement and I think sex is highly amusing :)

    My own thoughts about helpful and kind gestures is that it would bring caring and appreciations in its wake and would be good for all whose lives were touched.

  • Mickey says:

    This is not "porn." I think this is consideration. These are some of the things that women like myself would love for our man to do for us. Sometimes men will do this during the dating phase of the relationship, but soon after they are married, men stop doing the things that made us fall in love with them, (Why does that happen?) But in the real world men are not this considerate. Some men "yes" but not all men. I think there should be more attention given in the bedroom, however, foreplay for MOST women starts outside of the bedroom. The sweet things you say, like, ("I love how you smell," "I love the way you walk," "I love the sound of your voice," "baby, you are the best cook," or just calling her just to say "I love you". Flowers go a long way, and so does a 30 minute back rub). These things are "turn ons" for women like me. If a man would consider the satisfaction of his woman "FIRST" then he will have no problems being satisfied in return.

  • Nubian Element says:

    I found this very amusing, we all have female and male hormones and both sexes need to learn how to balance both sides. Women have become very dominant and men seem to be lost and overtly feminine. Women have had to become more independent but still yearn for good old fashioned romance and we still want our men to be men. We want to love our men for their strength and sensitivity, men are the foundation that the woman then builds on – we are nothing without each other.

  • Jonesy says:

    I agree – these pictures are not porn! They are cute humour! I am not into porn,male or female. I fail to see how it can enhance in anyway the exciting experience of a loving connection between a man and a woman. Loving sexual intercourse stands alone as an aphrodisiac in my life. But I do enjoy the sight of a fully alive male member ready for work. I do not understand why this magnificent organ has become the object of so much bad press – or rather – no press, no publicity. It is the best kept secret of the modern world. Responsible on equal terms for the life of every human being on this planet throughout history, also the bearer of so much joy and pleasure when responsibly and tenderly engaged. What is not to admire? Instead men are too often left to feel ashamed of the liveliness, spontenaity of arousal, and early taught this part of their body is ugly and must be hiden from sight. How sad! Maybe more respect and value would of maleness, would lessen the number of agressive and inappropriate displays, which give rise to the horror myths.

  • dorothy says:

    nope, I didn’t think this is porn for women, didn’t trip any hot buttons for me. The closest thiing would be amusement and I think sex is highly amusing :)
    My own thoughts about helpful and kind gestures is that it would bring caring and appreciations in its wake and would be good for all whose lives were touched.

  • Mickey says:

    This is not “porn.” I think this is consideration. These are some of the things that women like myself would love for our man to do for us. Sometimes men will do this during the dating phase of the relationship, but soon after they are married, men stop doing the things that made us fall in love with them, (Why does that happen?) But in the real world men are not this considerate. Some men “yes” but not all men. I think there should be more attention given in the bedroom, however, foreplay for MOST women starts outside of the bedroom. The sweet things you say, like, (“I love how you smell,” “I love the way you walk,” “I love the sound of your voice,” “baby, you are the best cook,” or just calling her just to say “I love you”. Flowers go a long way, and so does a 30 minute back rub). These things are “turn ons” for women like me. If a man would consider the satisfaction of his woman “FIRST” then he will have no problems being satisfied in return.

  • liz says:

    It's porn, if "porn' means would I have sex with a man that was considerate, industrious and put me first … maybe — if he was really hot, too — haha!

  • If you guys think women do not want a man this considerate and strong at the same time …. You are … wrong!!!!!!

    If men would turn on the, I am a partner in this relationship and we do things together energy I would definitly go after a man like that.

    I am manefesting one though:) :)

    If he anties up with these I would let him show me how to work on the car or marvel at the new tool he buys from the hard ware store or go drool over a car at the dealership. It would only be fair. But we both would be happy!!!!

    Ms. Scarlet Faith

  • divna says:

    he, he I like it , what a way to seduce a women

  • Dirk says:

    I disagree with this from a male perspctive. For 10 years I have been doing all that and more. Still my wife has decided that our marriage is to end and that her priority is on herself. She has given up custody of her children to their father so that she can have a night life again, by her own admition. She was pampered for 10 years and has given it all up so that she can go out every night and be with whomever she wants. If her kids were ever to find out that she admitted to wanting a night life over wanting them (whom she calls "her life and reason for being" to their face) they would want blood. My wife gave up on her kids and our marriage to seek out that which is forbidden.

    • Sasha Friedman says:

      Bro I feel your pain. The only thing is that there is no fixed teaching. You cannot act a certain way and it is going to work with every person.

      A big part of the deal is choosing the right person, which can be very difficult for all kinds of reasons. It sounds like your wife is either a bad partner or just someone who has really lost their way. Assuming you didn't do some atrocities or whatever, it probably has little to do with you.

  • esther says:

    IT IS ALL FUN.

  • liz says:

    It’s porn, if “porn’ means would I have sex with a man that was considerate, industrious and put me first … maybe — if he was really hot, too — haha!

  • Michael says:

    I think it's insulting because it implies that men don't do these things. There are men who do these things on a daily basis and never get credit for it. Women seem to love to joke about men being thoughtless bruts, and frankly, that's being sexist. Women can be sexists and it's considered to be cute and funny. Men cannot.

    • Jane Heath says:

      It is no more insulting the allthe remarks about "blondes", "woman drivers", "the little woman" etc etc. My husband watches so much porn I cannot bear him to look at me anymore. And as for the rest of it, he sits on the couch and waits to be served and his plate to be taken away. He hardly ever offers to get me something when he goes to the kitchen let alone offer to help with any kitchen or housework. My father and both my brothers cheated on their wives and did nothing in the house, so I am probably leaning towards the – yeah, a large percentage of men do nothing to encourage affection from their wives.

  • If you guys think women do not want a man this considerate and strong at the same time …. You are … wrong!!!!!!
    If men would turn on the, I am a partner in this relationship and we do things together energy I would definitly go after a man like that.
    I am manefesting one though:) :)
    If he anties up with these I would let him show me how to work on the car or marvel at the new tool he buys from the hard ware store or go drool over a car at the dealership. It would only be fair. But we both would be happy!!!!
    Ms. Scarlet Faith

  • mary says:

    Porn is not sweet as these pictures these pictures innocent not ugly like porn specially when your partner in it.

  • Dirk says:

    I disagree with this from a male perspctive. For 10 years I have been doing all that and more. Still my wife has decided that our marriage is to end and that her priority is on herself. She has given up custody of her children to their father so that she can have a night life again, by her own admition. She was pampered for 10 years and has given it all up so that she can go out every night and be with whomever she wants. If her kids were ever to find out that she admitted to wanting a night life over wanting them (whom she calls “her life and reason for being” to their face) they would want blood. My wife gave up on her kids and our marriage to seek out that which is forbidden.

    • Sasha Friedman says:

      Bro I feel your pain. The only thing is that there is no fixed teaching. You cannot act a certain way and it is going to work with every person.

      A big part of the deal is choosing the right person, which can be very difficult for all kinds of reasons. It sounds like your wife is either a bad partner or just someone who has really lost their way. Assuming you didn’t do some atrocities or whatever, it probably has little to do with you.

  • mary says:

    Porn is not sweet as these pictures these pictures innocent not ugly like porn specially when your partner in it.

  • Well well, for me it's more of 'love' than 'porn' – it is the 'heart'

    of a relationship. For GUYS who wants to have a fulfilling relationship,

    one of the secrets is to make your woman feel 'Special' .. than anyone else

    on the planet.. no no it's not just my idea.. this is how a woman loves to feel.

    And if you can't.. it ought to lose 'passion' and 'trust'.

    Praise her for her beauty and every little thing she does for you.

    (Fake it if you want until you mean it !)

    For WOMEN.. guys want to feel 'important' and 'valued' and being acknowledged

    for what he does for his woman. He wants her 'happy' and 'satisfied'. So be

    happy :)) (Simple and effective key to a loving relationship.)

    For WOMEN.. it's easier to get emotionally connected and the fact that she's ready

    for an intimate relationship shows that she's already emotionally connected and wants

    to feel loved and not simply pleasure. (For most women if not all). Once she is connected,

    she won't easily get out of love when there are conflicts in a relationship.

    For MEN.. it takes time to get emotionally connected (Not that he doesn't care for her).

    Men seek 'pleasure' in an intimate relationship (not that they don't want to feel loved..) What makes

    them connected ?.. I am still trying to figure out..!

    All this is not just my opinion. I done bit of a research and also coming from my

    own personal experiences. I am now trying to understand 'relationship' from a

    deeper level (The True Soul Relationship). More on that later… :))

    Two important qualities that I feel has to be present in a relationship –

    EMPATHY – to be sensitive to each others' feelings and needs and provide the same to each other !

    VULNERABILITY – to be able to totally open up and not being afraid of being 'hurt' or 'hurting the other'.

    And this won't happen without 'AWARENESS' – aware of one's own feelings, thoughts, actions and how

    they are affecting the other person.

    :)

  • donna says:

    I can not lie, I actually got a female hard on.

  • SHANE says:

    It All depends on the woman?

    Some want it, some don't!

    Its been my experience that most women seem to prefer the bad ass rebel for a "Challenge!"

    Then when they get it they try to change them into what u see in these pictures which never works,so it ends badly, so they look for the next rebel and continue the endless cycle which in turn makes them believe all men are bastards!

    Women dont really want what these pictures portray. : )

  • angela bradshaw says:

    This is all fun. I'm sure that there are men like this somewhere out there — I'm still looking for one! My last two marriages were with men who thought it was ok for me to do all housework and maintenance, pay for it, and work at a high-stress job — while they relaxed, didn't work too hard, and whined that I expected too much! A fair and loving partnership involves sharing everything — not just the results of my work!

  • Nicole says:

    Very funny indeed! I'd say with ALL of the complaints we women usually have regarding how we want men to behave, it is in a way great porn!

  • Well well, for me it’s more of ‘love’ than ‘porn’ – it is the ‘heart’
    of a relationship. For GUYS who wants to have a fulfilling relationship,
    one of the secrets is to make your woman feel ‘Special’ .. than anyone else
    on the planet.. no no it’s not just my idea.. this is how a woman loves to feel.
    And if you can’t.. it ought to lose ‘passion’ and ‘trust’.
    Praise her for her beauty and every little thing she does for you.
    (Fake it if you want until you mean it !)
    For WOMEN.. guys want to feel ‘important’ and ‘valued’ and being acknowledged
    for what he does for his woman. He wants her ‘happy’ and ‘satisfied’. So be
    happy :)) (Simple and effective key to a loving relationship.)

    For WOMEN.. it’s easier to get emotionally connected and the fact that she’s ready
    for an intimate relationship shows that she’s already emotionally connected and wants
    to feel loved and not simply pleasure. (For most women if not all). Once she is connected,
    she won’t easily get out of love when there are conflicts in a relationship.
    For MEN.. it takes time to get emotionally connected (Not that he doesn’t care for her).
    Men seek ‘pleasure’ in an intimate relationship (not that they don’t want to feel loved..) What makes
    them connected ?.. I am still trying to figure out..!

    All this is not just my opinion. I done bit of a research and also coming from my
    own personal experiences. I am now trying to understand ‘relationship’ from a
    deeper level (The True Soul Relationship). More on that later… :))

    Two important qualities that I feel has to be present in a relationship –
    EMPATHY – to be sensitive to each others’ feelings and needs and provide the same to each other !
    VULNERABILITY – to be able to totally open up and not being afraid of being ‘hurt’ or ‘hurting the other’.

    And this won’t happen without ‘AWARENESS’ – aware of one’s own feelings, thoughts, actions and how
    they are affecting the other person.

    :)

  • SHANE says:

    It All depends on the woman?
    Some want it, some don’t!
    Its been my experience that most women seem to prefer the bad ass rebel for a “Challenge!”
    Then when they get it they try to change them into what u see in these pictures which never works,so it ends badly, so they look for the next rebel and continue the endless cycle which in turn makes them believe all men are bastards!
    Women dont really want what these pictures portray. : )

  • angela bradshaw says:

    This is all fun. I’m sure that there are men like this somewhere out there — I’m still looking for one! My last two marriages were with men who thought it was ok for me to do all housework and maintenance, pay for it, and work at a high-stress job — while they relaxed, didn’t work too hard, and whined that I expected too much! A fair and loving partnership involves sharing everything — not just the results of my work!

  • Nicole says:

    Very funny indeed! I'd say with ALL of the complaints we women usually have regarding how we want men to behave, it is in a way great porn!

  • Alistair says:

    Usual lazy stereotypical portrayal of men that diminishes the originator far more than the subject.

  • Londonette says:

    A man that can be this thoughtful, would get more sex than he knew what to do with :) and she would also go to/watch any game he wanted, any time!!!

  • Londonette says:

    A man that can be this thoughtful, would get more sex than he knew what to do with :) and she would also go to/watch any game he wanted, any time!!!

  • Moonbeam says:

    I would not call this porn but it is funny and probably more like a womens wish list or fantasy….no harm in dreaming. These should be on a calendar on the fridge, or in the loo to give hubby clues!

  • Morgan says:

    Porn? No! Somewhat amusing. I've also known a few dudes who keep excellent house, so I guess it doesn't pack much of a wollop with me. And I'm a great housekeeper when I live b

  • Morgan says:

    Porn? No! Somewhat amusing. I’ve also known a few dudes who keep excellent house, so I guess it doesn’t pack much of a wollop with me. And I’m a great housekeeper when I live b

  • Martin Jaison says:

    I don't quite know how the word porn fits into it but as a guy I have learnt some raw truths about this life of ours. Guys don't mean to 'dis' you (or is it us) as it were but it's the truth. The man's role on this earth is to do everything. That is, overcome all obstacles for the benefit of your partner, wife and children. Overcoming involves everything that is portrayed in the pictures and more. The reason: LOVE. That is the ingredient that makes everything move. Remember the saying,'Love makes the world go round'. It is an ingredient which is found in its original and natural form only in women. They are just quite simply, 'Love' in themselves. The woman's role is to dish out that love in abundance and not to clean the house etc. If she wants to then that is fine. If you want to overcome all obstacles understand a woman. Again it all boils down to knowing the formula. Women you are truly a blessing and something special from our creator. Thank you.

  • Martin Jaison says:

    I don’t quite know how the word porn fits into it but as a guy I have learnt some raw truths about this life of ours. Guys don’t mean to ‘dis’ you (or is it us) as it were but it’s the truth. The man’s role on this earth is to do everything. That is, overcome all obstacles for the benefit of your partner, wife and children. Overcoming involves everything that is portrayed in the pictures and more. The reason: LOVE. That is the ingredient that makes everything move. Remember the saying,’Love makes the world go round’. It is an ingredient which is found in its original and natural form only in women. They are just quite simply, ‘Love’ in themselves. The woman’s role is to dish out that love in abundance and not to clean the house etc. If she wants to then that is fine. If you want to overcome all obstacles understand a woman. Again it all boils down to knowing the formula. Women you are truly a blessing and something special from our creator. Thank you.

  • It is so funny how ladies want us to do everything now. My fiance doesn't work but she helps take care of my daughter after school and she keeps a airly clean house. I have noticed that her expectations of me a lot but because of all the things I hear about how to treat your woman my expectations of her are low. Us men really do not know what to expect and I feel like woman are driving the expectation completely. This is funny and I see that but we are in a world now where the men are doing everything, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and all the other traditional man chores.

  • Jean says:

    No, No, No, I did tell my husband that I didn't marry a "handy man" and when he tried to do things out of his realm of expertise he was robbing another man or woman of a livlihood. I married him for his looks, the way he could play the piano and a tambourine, and for romantic (sexy) moments. I didn't want him to wear himself out and fall asleep the minute his head touched the pillow. I hired college boys to do the yard work and single moms, who could bring their kids with them, to do housework. He and I had a great time adoring each other (in every position) for 36 years. We married late, he was 57 and I was 45. He crossed over peacefully in sleep at age 93.

    • Dave says:

      Jean, I must have read your short post 10 times by now. I am a young guy (24), but I was touched by the simplicity and genuineness of your story. Thank you for writing that.

  • Jean says:

    No, No, No, I did tell my husband that I didn't marry a “handy man” and when he tried to do things out of his realm of expertise he was robbing another man or woman of a livlihood. I married him for his looks, the way he could play the piano and a tambourine, and for romantic (sexy) moments. I didn't want him to wear himself out and fall asleep the minute his head touched the pillow. I hired college boys to do the yard work and single moms, who could bring their kids with them, to do housework. He and I had a great time adoring each other (in every position) for 36 years. We married late, he was 57 and I was 45. He crossed over peacefully in sleep at age 93.

  • Jonathan says:

    To me, these should be cater to guys on how to treat their partners. All in all i think is a good guide for teaching guys to love.

    p.s. i don't think guys will not do these things, they simply needed to be reminded how sweet they can be =)

  • Jonathan says:

    To me, these should be cater to guys on how to treat their partners. All in all i think is a good guide for teaching guys to love.

    p.s. i don’t think guys will not do these things, they simply needed to be reminded how sweet they can be =)

  • Will says:

    Women think they want this stuff, but if a man did all of this, the woman would IMMEDIATELY perceive him as weak and feminine. Women want MEN.

  • Bonni says:

    Haha lighten up and enjoy. I think calling it porn is part of the joke. All the women I know think this is all a definite turn on. Thanks for posting! :)

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