I experienced a turning point in my life some time ago when I was learning to tree-ski through powder snow. I loved the freedom of skiing down a groomed run, and wanted to experience the exhilaration of powder skiing through a forest of trees. The latter however, became quite threatening and scary.
After loading the chairlift for another try, I explained to my ski teacher how I felt as I skied down the steep tree-lined slope.
“I feel like I’m going to ski right into a tree, and I’m afraid I’m going to get hurt,” I explained.
“The secret is to keep your eyes on the spaces between the trees, not on the trees,” he replied. “Look to where you are going, not where you don’t want to go.”
Sure enough, as soon as I took my focus off the trees and looked at the spaces between the trees, it was like a magnet pulled me through with effortless ease.
I realized that it is exactly the same with life. We get discouraged and frustrated with the many obstacles in our way. We fear the worst. Yet, we must remember, what we give attention to increases.
True story: Before going into a store, almost boastfully, both my grandmother and mother used to declare that what they were looking for would not be available. Of course, we were never surprised when they were right 9 times out of 10. After observing this for 20 years, I claimed the opposite to be true. I know I will find exactly what I need in life and yes, 9 times out of 10, I do.
So, when preparing dinner for special guests, rather than fearing the worst, see the meal and the evening coming together with elegant ease. Feel the connection between you and your guests… the gratitude, the joy and the fun.
When requesting something from someone, state what you desire, not what you don’t desire. For example, when your son is driving long distance late at night, suggest, “Drive carefully” instead of “Don’t get hurt”.
As you ski down the hill of life, get clear with what you desire and imagine being THERE.
See and feel it happening. Let go of trying to control it or your circumstances and let it flow. As you begin to flow, you feel a great sense of gratitude.
When you are in gratitude, like a magnet, you attract and create more things to be grateful for.
- Notice when you focus on what you don’t want. This could be giving attention to a problem, a negative person or a fear of what could happen.
- Stop and turn it around. Instead, imagine what you do want. See and feel the desired outcome. You don’t have to know how it is going to happen. Just know it will.
- State your requests and desires to yourself – and others – in a positive format.
- Take time each day to give gratitude for what’s going right in your life. This can be when you first wake up, before a meal, or before you go to sleep at night. Give thanks for all you can.