Are you having a bad day?
Feeling like everything is falling apart around you? Like nothing is the way it’s supposed to be? Like nobody understands you?
Perhaps you fought with someone. Maybe you didn’t get what you wanted to. Possibly, you don’t have any particular reason to feel like this. You’re just feeling down.
And maybe you are feeling like this after you worked on yourself for so long, tried everything: positive, meditating, reading self-help books, and following all the instructions that your life coach gave you. It was all going so well, but then, you woke up today, and nothing is the way it’s supposed to be, and you’re feeling so bad, so sad, so washed out.
Why? Because that’s normal.
We all have these kinds of moments — even the Dalai Lama. There is no way that the Dalai Lama never has a bad day. He is human, just like you and me.
We are supposed to have bad days. Just like we are supposed to feel sad and tired.
We are supposed to feel all the emotions we were given to feel. They are signs that we are normal.
So don’t worry, you need to have good and bad days in life. Beautiful and a little less beautiful. That is life.
The good news is that you can survive these kinds of days much easier. These kinds of days can actually be positive and productive.
Want to know how to take a bad day and transmit it in a great day? Here are some tips to learn how to master your bad days (and not let them get the best of you.)
1. For starters, change the way you look at them
Change perspective, and be the person you want to be.
Be a more positive thinker than you have been before. Find more gratitude. Be more open-minded. Restore your faith.
When you doubt that you will ever be happy again, that you will not get what is right for you, or anything else, you actually don’t believe. So, restore your faith and be thankful for this moment.
Why be thankful for this pain? For this lack that I’m feeling?
Perspective can remind you that there are so many worse things that could happen to you than what is happening.
Maybe you don’t have enough money to buy something. Someone has nothing to eat.
You don’t have the romantic partner that you want? There’s someone out there who will love you and be the perfect person to create a happy life with. Just have faith.
Disappointed because you can afford those beautiful shoes? Someone doesn’t have feet.
Having a bad hair day? Someone is losing all of their hair because of the chemotherapy. Be thankful.
We are always learning.
Think of the challenge you face–whatever it may be–as a lesson. Life is always giving you an opportunity to grow. You will know that you master the lesson when life puts you in the same position and you react differently.
So ask yourself, what do I have to learn?
Maybe it’s just to listen to your body. Or to tune in and connect more to yourself.
Take this day and make it an opportunity to rest if you have been working too hard; your body and your mind have to take rest. Think about that. Are you giving your self a quality time to take a rest? Are you forcing yourself too hard?
If the answer is yes–take this day off. You deserve it.
2. Ask yourself, “What is my opportunity here?”
Ask yourself, why is this good for me?
Maybe I can learn something from this fight with my spouse, our my friend or my family member. Perhaps the answer is to spend more time with them or listen better to what they are saying to me.
Use this lousy day for physical activity such as riding a bike, or swimming.
When you are doing physical activity, you free serotonin. We all know that we feel so much better and so high after the workout. This may be an opportunity to do some pushups, or simply go for a walk.
Connect to nature and realize that you are much more; you are a part of something big.
Look for the opportunity in a day that’s is not going well for you and make it your victory.
Remember that everything happens with a reason, and the outcome of it is for your best. You may not see it now, but it’s possible that one day you will think about this disaster as a blessing.
If you are a fan of writing (like I am), you probably have lots of notebooks and journals filled with your dreams and blessings. If you haven’t experienced the beauty and relief of writing in your journal, I highly recommend you to try out my next tip.
3. Journal your feelings
Write what are you feeling on jour journal pages. Pour it all out.
“Paper can suffer everything.”
That is the adage in my country, and I really think it’s true. When we write, we release emotions and feel relief. Paper doesn’t judge, so sometimes, it’s easier to write down what we have to say than to say it to a person who might misunderstand what we are trying to say or what are we going through.
When we are writing down our thoughts, worries, our dreams, we can get clarity. Clarity is so important.
When we have clarity on what we want, we can pursue it with more courage and determination. When we lack certainty, we can feel lost.
So, if you’re having a bad day because you feel lost, have no idea what to do with your life, where to go, or whatever is bothering you, sit down, take a piece of paper and start writing. In the beginning, you may have no thoughts. That’s fine, just write down.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. This article that I’ve read said that I’m supposed to write down something, so I’m writing… and feeling crazy, and stupid… and this is funny, but I’m not quitting.
Please don’t quit. Ever. Just give it a shot.
If you don’t let go of your negative feelings, that energy can do a lot of damage to your body and your soul. Please let it out and don’t hold back.
So, having a bad day?
You can milk it.
You can profit out of it.
You can learn something from it.
You can transform it to the best day of your life.
You can nail it.
Because believe it or not, this day is here with a reason.
As soon as you accept that, those days will be considered as a blessing.
I promise you–when you understand, accept and adapt this–when you get a “bad day” you will say: OK, this is how it is today. I will survive. I’ve been through worse than this and I know it is for my greatest good.
And with the practice, when a ”bad day” occurs, you will not think about it as a ”bad day.” Instead, you will think about it as a normal (but slightly different) day, and you will say: I can’t wait to see why this has happened. I can hardly wait to see what lesson I learned from this experience.
And with a little more practice, you will just say: Thank you.