Wow. Can you believe we’ve done 40 as of today?? Loving it. Today is a favorite and a definite must read for any personal development junkie. It’s Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer.

Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer

“With death so endless a proposition and life so breathtakingly brief, ask yourself, “Should I avoid doing the things I really want to do?” “Should I live my life as others want me to?” “Are things important to accumulate?” “Is putting it off the way to live?” Chances are your answers can be summed up in a few words: Live… Be You… Enjoy… Love.”

~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer from Your Erroneous Zones

Some words from Brian:

Your Erroneous Zones was Wayne Dyer’s first book and I love the stories he tells about how hard he worked to help make it a best-seller (over six millions copies sold!). It’s a no-nonsense, straight to point, how to quit letting negative thinking dominate your life kinda book. Just the kind I love. :)

Dyer’s super quotable and the book’s packed with Big Ideas. Let’s have some fun exploring some of my favorites, shall we? :)

And as always, what’s your BIGGEST Aha! moment from this Note and how are you going to implement the wisdom from today into your life? Drop a comment and let the discussions roll!And twitter users, don’t forget the #50days :)

Also, because lots of people are joining in on the Challenge a few days late and in case you miss a day or two, check out this page » We’ve listed every Note that will be discussed (on which day) along with links to the discussion posts.Can’t wait to get the discussion going on today’s Note.

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59 Comments

  • TedHowardKK says:

    Hi Team

    Having read some others of his books, I know Wayne and I have very different paradigms, and the quote “Taking charge of yourself involves more than simply trying on new thoughts for size. It requires a determination to be happy and to challenge and destroy each and every thought that creates a self-mobilizing unhappiness in you” is precisely on target.

    I love and align with his interpretations of Jesus. Another with interesting interpretations is Richard Rohr of CAC.

    And I love the Emerson quote “And truly it demands something godlike in him who cast off the common motives of humanity and ventured to trust himself for a taskmaster”.

    “Self-worth cannot be verified by others” is worthy of some serious contemplation. Borders on arrogance, and I think there is a distinction. Believing in yourself does not require denigrating anyone else – it is simply belief in self.

    I love the sense of “There Is Nothing To Worry About!” – in that we take what actions we can. The calmer we are, the more likely powerful opportunities to action are likely to present themselves to us.

    Spot on with “Guilt Is Useless”. It is a waste of time. Accept what is. Learn from past mistakes and take actions to create better outcomes in the future. The man who never made a mistake never made anything.

    “If you believe in yourself fully, no activity is beyond your potential” – yep – even this, and it does take something from the probability curves.

    And it is possible that “there is a different kind of security that is worth pursuing, and this is the internal security of trusting yourself to handle anything that may come”.

    “Why should you have to do everything well?” reminds me again of Mark Joyner's “ready, fire, aim” – take action, evaluate results, take better action – the key is to take action!!!

    I like the idea of “Musterbation” – eliminate the “shoulds”.

    Again, like the MJ quote above “How Simple… Just Do It!”

    Definitely taking a hard look at my life. That is part of what this whole challenge is about.

    Thanks Brian and Vishen – very good note – great ideas – irrespective of underlying schema.

  • TedHowardKK says:

    Hi Team

    Having read some others of his books, I know Wayne and I have very different paradigms, and the quote "Taking charge of yourself involves more than simply trying on new thoughts for size. It requires a determination to be happy and to challenge and destroy each and every thought that creates a self-mobilizing unhappiness in you" is precisely on target.

    I love and align with his interpretations of Jesus. Another with interesting interpretations if Richard Rohr of CAC.

    And I love the Emerson quote "And truly it demands something godlike in him who cast off the common motives of humanity and ventured to trust himself for a taskmaster".

    "Self-worth cannot be verified by others" is worthy of some serious contemplation. Borders on arrogance, and I think there is a distinction. Believing in yourself does not require denigrating anyone else – it is simply belief in self.

    I love the sense of "There Is Nothing To Worry About!" – in that we take what actions we can. The calmer we are, the more likely powerful opportunities to action are likely to present themselves to us.

    Spot on with "Guilt Is Useless". It is a waste of time. Accept what is. Learn from past mistakes and take actions to create better outcomes in the future. The man who never made a mistake never made anything.

    "If you believe in yourself fully, no activity is beyond your potential" – yep – even this, and it does take something from the probability curves.

    And it is possible that "there is a different kind of security that is worth pursuing, and this is the internal security of trusting yourself to handle anything that may come".

    "Why should you have to do everything well?" reminds me again of Mark Joyner's read fire aim – take action, evaluate results, take better action – the key is to take action!!!

    I like the idea of "Musterbation" – eliminate the "shoulds".

    Again, like the MJ quote above "How Simple… Just Do It!"

    Definitely taking a hard look at my life. That is part of what this whole challenge is about.

    Thanks Brian and Vishen – very good note – great ideas – irrespective of underlying schema.

    • MarkHoover says:

      I love the Devil's Advocate that you are, Ted. It keeps me thinking. I am so glad that we do not think similarly on everything, because then one of us would be superfluous. As you say, this challenge is definitely causing me to take a very close look at my life and I have made significant adjustments already. The yield has been highly significant and it is only a portion of what is to come. I don't attempt to achieve greatness…I am leaving it to others to form their own opinions…which matter little to me. Not being arrogant, just dropping what didn't work in the first half of my life.

      Enjoy the weekend! =)

      • TedHowardKK says:

        Thanks Peter & Mark
        The 4WD trip I was supposed to be leading got rained out. After 3 months of drought, the night before our trip there was 32mm of rain – rivers impassable, track very slippery. Next year. Got a quiet day at home with the dogs and a good book – Open day at golf, but my shoulder's not up to it yet – next week.

      • TedHowardKK says:

        Hi Mark

        I've been pondering the "Devil's advocate" comment for 3 days.
        I'm not the devil's advocate. I do not advocate for either god or devil – I advocate for something else entirely – human beings becoming fully conscious of their own infinite powers, and aware of the low level rules that must be worked within, if that infinite capability is to find true expression.

        In a very real sense, I am a people's advocate.
        (And probably far too pedantic a one – and I just couldn't let it pass unmentioned.)

        • lorymoore says:

          Hi Ted,
          Having had the joy to travel and lecture in Australia and New Zealand a few years back, I have a deep passion for the beauty of your country. I must say I have thoroughly enjoyed your thoughtful comments and zest for life in your posts. I, too, emphatically believe in the “power of the people” and have worked to do my part to ensure the overlooked segments of society are adequately represented.

          Thanks for taking the time to contribute, and I look forward to hearing of your successes with your ecological venture. Have you set up non-profit status yet, or is that still an avenue you are considering?

        • lorymoore says:

          Hi Ted,
          Having had the joy to travel and lecture in Australia and New Zealand a few years back, I have a deep passion for the beauty of your country. I must say I have thoroughly enjoyed your thoughtful comments and zest for life in your posts. I, too, emphatically believe in the "power of the people" and have worked to do my part to ensure the overlooked segments of society are adequately represented.

          Thanks for taking the time to contribute, and I look forward to hearing of your successes with your ecological venture. Have you set up non-profit status yet, or is that still an avenue you are considering?

        • MarkHoover says:

          Ted, you wouldn't be you if you let it pass. I meant nothing in the divine (or other) realm when using devil's advocate. I shouldn't have capitalized it, I know. If people's advocate works, so be it. I referred to your ability to present the other side of the coin, which is a valuable asset indeed.

    • Peter :) says:

      Hi Ted! Nice post! Your posts always make me think! Re: "If you believe in yourself fully, no activity is beyond your potential" – yep – even this, and it does take something from the probability curves." I like that …..
      Taking a hard look at one's life ….. The "Challenge" ….. Day 40! ….. New beginnings! ……
      New perspectives! ….. Have a great weekend! :-)

    • Bernard T says:

      Hello Ted
      Do you like fishing? For salmon? I would love to get together sometimes.
      Have a great week end

      • TedHowardKK says:

        Hi Bernard
        Haven't been salmon fishing for a while, would be fun!
        My travel plans are a little constrained at present (cashflow), would want to be within 300 mile of here, and I suspect we're quite a distance apart.
        I live in Kaikoura, New Zealand – what about you?
        We get a few Salmon along the beach here, though it is getting late in the season now.
        Best Salmon rivers are about 100 miles South of here – Rakaia and Rangitata.

  • Bernard T says:

    Wayne Dyer, an old friend indeed, revisiting with Wayne causes great feeling of peace, love, harmony and the like.
    Many, many years ago I first met Wayne, not in person, I wish, but through his books and articles I have become his friend although he doesn’t know me I know him well. Reading the notes today I feel the warmth from way back the first time I laid my eyes on his first book and the impact I received from it. At that time some of my reaction where not so positive, Wayne was attacking inner beliefs, and all the same his words resonate back then and methodically brought about changes allowing for a better life. Re-reading, through the notes, the book gives me the opportunity to see how far I have travelled.
    Many things are coming and it’s just if Wayne was seating here with me and point out points from the book. Hey do you remember this? And how you reacted at first? I am glad that even when rebelling you actually listen. I can hear him perfectly and I am vibrating with a great joy. Thanks Wayne. Some of the things I used to believe, perfection I use to think that to be anything but perfect was a lack of commitment, never served me very well. And I realize now that I was perfectly paralyzed. Another one, security back then I believed in the old saying, prepare for a rainy day and guess what , we’ve got plenty of those.
    Love the “think crappy” idea, got to give that a try. It actually does make sense, most idea when first originated are pretty well unfinished ideas and in that sense “crappy”. Developing from that will mold and shape the original idea into a final draft. Powerful indeed.
    Accepting things as they are and taking action from that point. Dismissing worries and thoughts of perfection, creating form a happy, joyful, peaceful vantage point. That is the secret of realization.
    You all have a great week end.

    • MarkHoover says:

      Hiya Bernard! I have had “Erroneous Zones” for, geez, at least twenty-five years, I think. It's in storage now, but thankfully the PNotes are bringing it back to the top shelf. I have watched him a lot, too, on PBS and remember his story about the butterfly that perched on him and remained there for a very long time. He used that image for the cover of one of his books. He's a great story-teller and superb at incorporating his seemingly limitless wisdom and enevolence into his narrative. As a fellow ex-perfectionist, it's good to see there's a way out of that mess.

      Enjoy your weekend. =)

    • MarkHoover says:

      Hiya Bernard! I have had "Erroneous Zones" for, geez, at least twenty-five years, I think. It's in storage now, but thankfully the PNotes are bringing it back to the top shelf. I have watched him a lot, too, on PBS and remember his story about the butterfly that perched on him and remained there for a very long time. He used that image for the cover of one of his books. He's a great story-teller and superb at incorporating his seemingly limitless wisdom and enevolence into his narrative. As a fellow ex-perfectionist, it's good to see there's a way out of that mess.

      Enjoy your weekend. =)

    • Peter :) says:

      Hi Bernard! Re: "Dismissing worries and thoughts of perfection, creating form a happy, joyful, peaceful vantage point. That is the secret of realization." Cool! I like that!
      Have a great weekend! :-)

  • MarkHoover says:

    Day 40 Your Erroneous Zones 05 February 2010
    “I am perfectly capable of handling your disappointment in me.” How better can I reply to someone trying to foist a guilt trip on me? Guilt ~ immobilized in the present because of something that has already taken place and Worry ~ immobilized in the present as a result of things that may or may not happen in the future. That about covers it. If I am in the present moment I should be taking positive action, because yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not (may never get) here. Sheer simplicity. If I can do something I must just DO IT. “What you think of me is none of my business” is what I like to tell others if they choose to opine or judge me. After all, I am more about self-worth and little, if any, about other-worth. Besides, who’s keeping count anyway? Realizing that perfection is a useless bottom dweller that preys upon low self-esteemers, I prefer to float and ride high on personal inspiration I am avoiding the abyss of paralysis called perfection. Taking steps forward. Working on my own “religion” of using the best mixture of faith, culture and wisdom that I can muster for myself.

    • Peter :) says:

      Nice post Mark! Have a great weekend! :-)

    • Bernard T says:

      YEAH!! well done and well put. What others think of me is not of my business, indeed what I think of myself is the only thing that count. Love your approach.

    • Tom Carroll says:

      Mark, I'd like to second Bernard's comment … well put! “Realizing that perfection is a useless bottom-dweller that preys upon low self esteemers …” — I dig that image and hope to stay out of reach of that lumbering lunker! Happy Saturday, Mark!

    • Tom Carroll says:

      Mark, I'd like to second Bernard's comment … well put! "Realizing that perfection is a useless bottom-dweller that preys upon low self esteemers …" — I dig that image and hope to stay out of reach of that lumbering lunker! Happy Saturday, Mark!

  • Peter :) says:

    Hi! I found the following quotes in the “Your Erroneous Zones” PhilosophersNote to be interesting! Using yourself as a guide and not needing the approval of an outside force is the most religious experience you can have. Cool! Again I see the parallel with “Happiness comes from within and not from outside circumstances” Self – Actualized! Capable of handling other’s disappointment in me. I like that! Working on being capable …..

  • JeannetteS says:

    Hi Everyone!!! LOVED today's note! Wayne Dyer is the Man!! I listened during my work day and couldn't help but laugh out loud a few times (Musterbation…that is absolutely hilariously brillant!!! Def a very catchy way to stop myself when I find myself saying "I should be…") Anyway my bigges takeaway is the idea of playing Angel's Advocate. Love this positive spin on things :) And also love being capable to handle disappointment in me. I recognize that when others feels disappointment it is b/c they are unable to see the greatness in themself and well by setting the example I hope to inspire them to see and live that greatness. I think it is totally worth it for others to be disappointed (and it has happened!) if in the end it makes all of us happy and joyful :)

    Will have more to share later this weekend as I have some thoughts on this week's previous notes that I want to share. Everyday there is a new note is another day where I feel expanded and more ready to take on the world!! Thanks everyone for your enlightening comments!!!

    Off to have a fab B-day weekend! You guys rock!!!

    • MarkHoover says:

      Hope you had a wonderful weekend, Birthday Girl! Have you set any new goals on this, your hatching day?

      • JeannetteS says:

        Thanks Mark! Had an incredible b-day weekend and every day since has been getting better and better :) My goal for my 31st year of life…leave the cubicle for good and share my gifts with the world!! I am very close and so excited!!

  • Rolana says:

    Your Erroneous Zones

    It is the error in our own thinking and performing that keeps us from making a life that is self-reliant.

    Again, for me, it comes down to “paralyzed by perfection”. This stops me in my tracks and wastes a lot of my time. If the outcome looks negative, I won’t even start. I particularly like the example of Jesus’ self reliance.

    Dyer leads me to believe that I can reach a goal that looks like a major challenge if I can change my out look and take charge of myself. I must overcome these erroneous zones and develop my Self- Reliance.

  • Rolana says:

    Your Erroneous Zones

    It is the error in our own thinking and performing that keeps us from making a life that is self-reliant.

    Again, for me, it comes down to “paralyzed by perfection”. This stops me in my tracks and wastes a lot of my time. If the outcome looks negative, I won’t even start. I particularly like the example of Jesus’ self reliance.

    Dyer leads me to believe that I can reach a goal that looks like a major challenge if I can change my out look and take charge of myself. I must overcome these erroneous zones and develop my Self- Reliance.

  • Tom Carroll says:

    LEARNINGS
    Hi all! I’ve got some memories around this book. The first time I saw it was at the public library on the new release shelf sometime around the mid ‘70s. I was a rather “randy” teen at the time whose RAS was attuned to the best-selling book title “Your Erogenous Zones.” I thought I had struck the jackpot! It was kind of bummer when I realized the book I picked up was actually called “Your Erroneous Zone.” My initial disappointment quickly turned to fascination as I spent next hour or so perusing the book. What a delightful accident! Yes, I admit that I can be a real genuine goofball occasionally :0-)

    Not too strangely, I hardly remember anything from this book. I did recall Albert Ellis’s saucy term “musterbation.” Timing’s everything! By the way, the illustrious Dr. Ellis was interviewed for a documentary that turned out to be his last major public appearance. Here are some clips from the film: http://www.rebtnetwork.org/library/Albert_Ellis_d… The documentary was completed, but I don’t think it was ever distributed.

    Following are a few of my favorite quotes from the notes.

    “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”

    In Self-Reliance, Emerson says: “And truly it demands something godlike in him who cast off the common motives of humanity and ventured to trust himself for a taskmaster.”

    “Look hard at your life. Are you doing what you’d choose to be doing if you knew you had six months to live?”

    EXPERIMENT
    Today’s experiment come from Brian sharing Guy Kawasaki’s notion of “think crappy” and working to refine during successive iterations. Like Wayne Dyer and may other middle-aged folks, I really do feel the need to get on with it and and share my goodies with the world even if they’re not fully baked!

    Here’s a link to the third iteration of a little 10-minute meditation piece that features a sample of Brian’s voice reciting the mantra he received from his vapassana teacher. I mashed this up with some ocean surf samples and a theta entrainment track I created using a software package called SHARM. I did check with Brian before sharing this link. This is a very deeply meditative track that’s intended to be listened to in a closed-eye fashion, not while driving! Please download, enjoy, share! It was fun to make, I enjoy listening to it, and it’s fun to share creations!

    http://docs.google.com/leaf?id=0B43WC8NmbRU6NzUyY

    Night all! ~ Tom

  • MaxineH says:

    Better late than never. I listened to this note a few times on Friday, but have only now had the opportunity to read through it,and make some comments.

    The self-worth v other-worth was particularly timely for me, the reitteration of "I am independent of the good or bad opinion of others", echoed Marks comment to me on a previous note.

    Just do it – I've already started on an exercise project, Day 7 today, and going well, but I have been having a bit of a cash flow dilemna recently, and "JUST DO IT", was screaming at me on Friday to sort it out. So I have commenced action.

    "Look hard at your life. Are you doing what you'd choose to be doing if you knew you had six months to live?"

    I came across this question years ago, at a gym motivation seminar, as mentioned in one of my previous posts, and thinking about it has really shaped my life ever since.

    As I sat at the spa on Friday, having watched the PN TV episode, done my exercises, sat in the sauna/steam room, reading "Chicken Soup for the Womans Soul", followed by lunch and relaxing on the heated ceramic loungers, I felt so blessed, that here I am, so lucky to be able to spend my day doing what I love.

    I think the one area that I do need to do more of is spend more time with my friends and family, so I'm going to put some dates in my diary for this.

    Another good note, only 10 to go :-)

  • Maxine says:

    Better late than never. I listened to this note a few times on Friday, but have only now had the opportunity to read through it,and make some comments.

    The self-worth v other-worth was particularly timely for me, the reitteration of “I am independent of the good or bad opinion of others”, echoed Marks comment to me on a previous note.

    Just do it – I've already started on an exercise project, Day 7 today, and going well, but I have been having a bit of a cash flow dilemna recently, and “JUST DO IT”, was screaming at me on Friday to sort it out. So I have commenced action.

    “Look hard at your life. Are you doing what you'd choose to be doing if you knew you had six months to live?”

    I came across this question years ago, at a gym motivation seminar, as mentioned in one of my previous posts, and thinking about it has really shaped my life ever since.

    As I sat at the spa on Friday, having watched the PN TV episode, done my exercises, sat in the sauna/steam room, reading “Chicken Soup for the Womans Soul”, followed by lunch and relaxing on the heated ceramic loungers, I felt so blessed, that here I am, so lucky to be able to spend my day doing what I love.

    I think the one area that I do need to do more of is spend more time with my friends and family, so I'm going to put some dates in my diary for this.

    Another good note, only 10 to go :-)

  • puresue says:

    morning…
    sending hugs to all

  • Misterzee says:

    The key nugget for me today was defining worry and comparing it to planning.
    I've tended to waste way too much time worrying about the way a project would be received or whether my finances would cover a particular cost, or…it goes on and on…What I realized was that when I'm doing "constructive worrying" that's really called, "planning." I'm not immobilizing myself. I'm taking action. The trick is to get rid of the negative emotional component of the worry and take actions in the present moment to get the result I want. As Gay Hendricks says, "Worrying is useful only if it concerns a topic we can actually do something about." I hope to continue to remember that whenever I feel the worry bug on my shoulder.

  • lorymoore says:

    Wow! What an amazing blast from the past!! Time traveled back to the early eighties when Wayne Dyer had hair (LOL) and I had the first chance to learn that "should" was serving no positive purpose in my vocabulary. Your Erroneous Zones was a seminal work for me, that empowered me to eventually have the courage to release my mother (a wonderful woman, but a stereotypical matriarch attached to "guilting" ;-) and move into a much healthier relationship. When she commented, during a time of great pain over a mistake I had made that grieved her (divorce) "How could you do this to me?!" I was able to respond, "Mom, I love you, but I didn't do this TO YOU. I just made a mistake, and I'm learning." Simple, yet profound shift in my life.

    Speaking of The Shift, that is the title of Wayne's new book, subtitled "Taking Your Life from Ambition To Meaning". Given my business passion of Partnering With Purpose, Wayne's wisdom is very timely, as he explores in the book (and included DVD) how to move towards the afternoon of life, focused on giving back and serving.As Brian says, a much more "spirit-filled" tone than Dyer's previous confrontational style, but both very influential and full of truth.

    My biggest take away for today is to consistently work to stay in action mode in my contribution to the planet, and when I stumble in my less than perfect way, to smile on my foible with "intelligent regret" and "decide to do things differently"…the new and improved, "learning Lory" style…the next time!

    • Misterzee says:

      Hi Lory-
      I wanted to respond to your note about how Dr. Dyer's book empowered you to "move into a much healthier relationship with your mother." That says volumes about the power of the written word. And it's a reminder to me what a great service Brian and his partners are doing for thousands of people. 100 masters have thousands of big and medium-sized ideas that you or I or anyone else participating could grab onto and empower ourselves with. Thank you for sharing in such a clear, honest manner.

  • Kavalloore Muraleedharan says:

    I love this note. Wonderful ways to become more active and achieve many things in life.

    Taking charge of yourself. Self-reliance. Self-worth.
    There is nothing to worry about! Absolutely nothing

    Guilt is the most useless of all erroneous behaviors. It is by far the greatest waste of emotional energy.

    If you believe in yourself fully, no activity is beyond your potential

    Only the insecure strive for security.

    You can paralyze yourself with perfectionistic do-your-best nonsense.

    Musterbate!! Wonderful practice.

    Delaying anything makes no sense.

    Thank you Brian.

  • Kavalloore Muraleedharan says:

    I love this note. Wonderful ways to become more active and achieve many things in life.

    Taking charge of yourself. Self-reliance. Self-worth.
    There is nothing to worry about! Absolutely nothing

    Guilt is the most useless of all erroneous behaviors. It is by far the greatest waste of emotional energy.

    If you believe in yourself fully, no activity is beyond your potential

    Only the insecure strive for security.

    You can paralyze yourself with perfectionistic do-your-best nonsense.

    Musterbate!! Wonderful practice.

    Delaying anything makes no sense.

    Thank you Brian.

  • Maninoa says:

    hi there,

    the first time I read this note, Think Crappy was the best thing I took away from it. Start rough and work ti from there… just Go For It! really. that is really liberating.

    this time – ?Taking charge of yourself involves more than simply trying on new thoughts for size. It requires
    a determination to be happy and to challenge and destroy each and every thought that creates a
    self-mobilizing unhappiness in you.?
    I dig this one. I am really going for it, to take charge of myself, and I agree, it wants determination.

  • Maninoa says:

    hi there,

    the first time I read this note, Think Crappy was the best thing I took away from it. Start rough and work ti from there… just Go For It! really. that is really liberating.

    this time – “Taking charge of yourself involves more than simply trying on new thoughts for size. It requires
    a determination to be happy and to challenge and destroy each and every thought that creates a
    self-mobilizing unhappiness in you.”
    I dig this one. I am really going for it, to take charge of myself, and I agree, it wants determination.

  • Jayne says:

    Self-reliance versus self-worth was the biggy for me out of this note. As a trainer, I am constantly getting feedback from my delegates and it used to really upset me if anyone wrote negative feedback. Until I reframed it as a constructive way to learn and to grow. Now I am independent of the good or bad opinion of others (Love it!)

    I do have intelligent regrets from past behaviour and as a result, I decided to do things differently and have done so ever since! This is such a powerful concept.

    Security – "Only the insecure strive for security." I've never seen myself as an insecure person yet I used to strive for security. Until the day I realised that it was a major barrier to me achieving th success I desire so I've worked hard to be secure in myself without reliant on external sources of security.

    Upper Limiting – very conscious of this now and highly aware of when I'm approaching my upper limits.

  • AF Grant says:

    Years ago when I first heard the name Wayne Dyer in passing, I thought this book was called Your Erogenous Zones and that he was some Dr Ruth type. It was about 15 years before I realized that was not the case. I’ve caught many of his PBS shows and own a couple DVDs but I’ve yet to read one of his books – that will change very soon.
    So many fantastic ideas in this note. I particularly love the notions of destroying your negative thoughts; following a religion of your self; and the lie of “other-worth.” Plus the utter waste of time and energy that worry is – once you truly accept that truth, your live will change. It did for me. Now I watch people worry with a sort of amused compassion where I refuse to give their worry more strength and I chuckle that I used to operate that same way. “Musterbation” may win the prize for my favorite new word to come from PN.

  • Wayne Dyer is incredible, this early work changed the direction of Wayne Dyers life, as well as many of those who read it. It is filled with unique ideas and is a fun and pleasant read. Take charge of your own reality is in message we have seen from many philosophers. In reality we are the only one that matters when it comes to valuing ourselves; and our value should be infinite because we have this opportunity to live the life we were meant to have.

    Wayne talks to us about getting rid of worry, doubt, and any negative thoughts we may have about who we are or what we've done. He reminds us of another common theme, that is living in the moment. This is so important for the enjoyment of our own life experience. Living in the moment means really enjoying what is more than what has been were what will be. Many people think that things will get better rather than enjoying the power in each and every moment. Things may get better, they may be a getting better is somewhat relative within the context of compared to what? So don't live in the past are in the future could make the most of each and every moment, that's the stuff real life is made of.

  • reneebridges says:

    I'm 56 years old and ( I hesitate to use the word terminal) with HIV: I love dryer, deepok chopa, leo besskagala, but for the life of me (and i think i mean that literally) i can find no purpose in life as precious as it is…i'm isolated, barely able to understand this computer world, no transportation, no teeth to feel comfortable in public, etc,etc i know some of this will take time to change but the depression grows…..perhaps i just need diffrent medicines, seems the answers to all things…but is not my first choice. i can't seem to get into any 'habit' of meditations or even excercise, my memory is fading fast so maybe soon i won't care, such bleakness is profound. where does one start????????????????

    • TedHowardKK says:

      Hi Renee

      You have my deepest empathy.
      Like you, I see no purpose in life, other than the one I choose; no justice in the sort of things like what is happening to you, or what kills millions of others every day – it just is.

      Your case, and many others like you, are part of why much of what is proposed in many of these works makes no sense at all to me – just wishful thinking in a sense.

      I recently had an aggressive melanoma removed from my temple, so my own mortality has been very much on my mind.

      Unfortunate the AIDS virus is effectively immune to any of the standard techniques for making vaccines and its extreme mutation rate means it is always a step ahead of the immune system.

      It could be decades yet before we develop an effective strategy to combat it, it is probably a more difficult problem than arresting aging.

      All any of us really have is the option of making the very best of every second we have. None of us really know how many more are to come.

      Very best wishes

      Ted

  • waltww says:

    I am a big fan of Emerson so I readily believe in self-reliance and taking charge of our own life. But this Erroneous Zones went further be suggesting that I believe much more in myself to reach my own dreams. That may be the biggest ah haw I encountered from this lecture. Although I must admit I am a big believer in dealing with our dark side and negative aspects such as neuroses.These two rules would be major transitions toward the human we would become.

  • CVircillo says:

    Your Erroneous Zones
    Dr. Wayne Dyer

    Take charge of yourself – get out of your Erroneous Zones
    “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”

    A VERITABLE RELIGION OF THE SELF
    “Using yourself as a guide and not needing the approval of an outside force is the most religious
    experience you can have. It is a veritable religion of the self in which an individual determines
    his own behavior based upon his own conscience and the laws of his culture that work for him,
    rather than because someone has directed how he should behave. A careful look at Jesus Christ
    will reveal an extremely self-actualized person, an individual who preached self-reliance, and
    was not afraid to incur disapproval. Yet many of his followers have twisted his teachings into a
    catechism of fear and self-hate.”

    Self reliance

    EMERSON “God will not have his work made manifest by cowards.”

    SELF-WORTH VS. OTHER-WORTH
    “Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend
    on others for your value it is other-worth.”

    Seneca comes to mind here (see Notes on Letters from a Stoic). He says: “Away with the world’s
    opinion of you—it’s always unsettled and divided.”

    This is great Brian
    I’ve learned to see that someone’s criticism (or praise) is just a
    projection of what’s going on with them, so I’m less attached to other people’s opinions of me.

    Are you worrying or planning – is it immobilizing?
    You can spend the rest of your life, beginning right now, worrying about the future, and no amount of your worry will change
    a thing.

    Hysterical
    Dyer “If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or
    future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system.”

    If you find yourself worrying – take action. Do something about that which you are worried about or if you can't, take a step back to see the big picture.

    Present moment is the time to live not to worry.

    Guilt is useless – because you are feeling immobilized by something that has already taken place – don't waste your energy.
    Instead have intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.

    If you believe you yourself fully you realize no activity is beyond your potential.

    This is great
    A DIFFERENT KIND OF SECURITY
    “… there is a different kind of security that is worth pursuing, and this is the internal security
    of trusting yourself to handle anything that may come down the pike. This is the only lasting
    security, the only real security.

    Dyer also says: “Only the insecure strive for security.”

    Build your inner strength. Live your highest truths. Know that you have wings!

    Give up your illusions about perfection – they are paralyzing and impossible to attain.

    Ha! Think Crappy – I love it. Just get to work. It's okay most first drafts are rough.

    Just Do it
    Tackle any problem with action Now!
    The only thing holding you back is you, and the neurotic choices you’ve
    made because you don’t believe you’re as strong as you really are. How simple… just do it!”

    Really Loved this note!

    Thank you,
    Christina

  • free will says:

    help me…..im paralyzed by perfection!!!…….just do it! ; )

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