When we are struggling or feeling down, it is easy to blame external sources such as our partner, work situation, or our friends behaviour.
Our true enemy is not out there, it is actually within, it is our mind!
When our mind is still, we are calm and peaceful and life seems wonderful. If we are thinking positive, life affirming, thoughts towards ourselves and those around us, generally our life will unfold in a loving flowing way.
There is great awareness now, that our thoughts create our reality. Whilst many of us try really hard to be mindful and not think negative thoughts, this process can be frustrating and exhausting, as we catch ourselves falling back into our same old patterns of thinking.
So how do we transcend these patterns for once and for all?
Admittedly this is a process involving training our mind to be peaceful just as we train our bodies to be fit. This does take some time and patience, however the rewards are well worth it.
1. Become aware of your own thoughts
Our thoughts create our resulting feelings. For example if we are thinking “It’s a wonderful day today” we are likely to feel happy. If we are thinking: “Life is difficult and everything is going wrong for me,” we may feel sad or even depressed.
In fact, we actually have reactions to our thought patterns, that is, we have thoughts about our thoughts. When we think sad thoughts, we can get angry or sad that we are thinking those thoughts! When we are happy we are usually delighted or excited that we are happy.
2. Observe from a silent place within
Most of us have habitual ways of thinking in relation to our inner world. When we become aware of this, it gives us the ability to go beyond reacting to our own inner world and ultimate freedom from the stress and worry the mind can create.
We do this by observing our inner world, our thoughts and feelings from that silent wise place within, known as the observer or the witness. Just as the sky lets the clouds pass through it in a stable, non judgemental way, so can we allow our thoughts and emotions pass through our inner world without reacting to them.
We can relate to our stability and wisdom within rather that the instability that thoughts can create. When we become aware of our mind wandering or reacting to the way we are thinking or feeling, we can consciously direct it back to our breath or a mantra.
Our breath is our life force that connects us to the universal life force.
Refocussing on our breath focusses us on something greater than ourselves, freeing us from the trap of thoughts that the mind can create (known as mental entrapment).
4. Find your perfect mantra
A mantra is a word or series of words that we repeat over and over to ourselves having the effect of calming and training the mind not to wander where we do not want it to go.
Examples of mantras include: Om, Love, Ram or Om Namah Shivaya or any words that is feels right for you.
5. Simply stay present
Ultimately we want to be able to think our thoughts, feel our emotions, and let them go. This allows us to stay present in the moment and be able to access our true source of wisdom from within.
When our mind is busy, anxious or stressed with thoughts, it makes it difficult to hear our wisdom or what our heart is telling us. Our thoughts are like static on a radio, preventing us from getting clear messages.
Our mind can wander anywhere, anytime, but we also have the power to redirect our thoughts anywhere, anytime, while we are driving or shopping for example. All we have to do is redirect our awareness from our thoughts to our breath or a mantra.
Rather than our mind leading us down a path of stress or chaos, it is possible for us to be the masters of our mind and emotional world and determine our reality.
Ones’s own thought is one’s world. What a person thinks is what he becomes.
~ Swami Muktananda
It is possible for us to be able to observe the flow of our mind, allowing us to shape what we become. This is rather than falling back on unconscious ways of thinking that have been shaped by our past or conditioning. By creating a sense of detachment from our thoughts, it allows us to experience our divine source of natural joy that flows to us from within. When we do not react to our tedious mental chatter, it subsides allowing us to feel spacious and the inner contentment within.
When we talk about witnessing our inner world, we are not talking about repression or denial of our thoughts, but rather acknowledging things and allowing them to be.
This is a process of allowing our thoughts and feelings to arise and dissolve without struggling. This way of being helps to not fight against and struggle with our outer world—instead we in our world in a wise and loving way. ~