With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m getting tons of emails on how to romance your lady on what is quite possibly the best (and most popular) day for a guy to make some romantic moves.

But this one email from my friend Mike, stood out from the rest. It was about redefining romance, and how you can spark romance into your relationship with something as simple as a text message. I’ve adapted his email a little bit to share with all of you on the blog here.

When most guys hear the word “romance“, a little nauseous shiver goes up their spine. They associate “romance” with expensive weekend getaways, wining and dining, flowers, chocolate, lingerie… and everything you get from a sappy love movie.

To a lot of men, romance means squeezing yourself into a monkey suit, going out for an expensive dinner, shelling out for flowers that whither and die after a day or two and mortgages your house for new jewelry just to show your woman that you care.

I mean, that’s nice and all, but how does it contribute to growing your relationship?

What if there’s an easier, and more meaningful, kind of “romance” that makes the woman in your life light up like a roman candle… and brag about you to all her friends?

To look at you with this amazing sparkle in her eye.
To walk towards you with a certain smile on her lips.
To kiss you with a kind of wonderful hunger she probably hasn’t shown since you started dating.

All this, even though you’re wearing your favorite ratty T-shirt, haven’t taken a shower in 3 days and didn’t spend a dime.

You see, while spending money on the on the woman in your life is great (and can even be fun), it’s not going to take your relationship to the next level. In fact, no matter what she says, what she wants from you really isn’t your money.

It’s your attention and your appreciation of her.

She wants (sometimes even needs) you to want to spend time with her, to speak her language and to take the lead in your relationship romantically. So while she might be grateful for a big bouquet, what will make her swoon is you letting her know, in no uncertain terms…

  1. That she’s loved and safe and can be her most honest, intimate self with you.
  2. That you’re a strong and powerful man and that you’re worthy of her.
  3. That you can take control.

And, cooly enough, you can do all of that with tiny little text messages sent from even the oldest and most beat up cell phone. The point is that in every relationship, this old cliché holds true: it’s the little things that count.

Texting is a small, and insignificant thing when you look at the big picture, but it’s the little things that make the big picture. While most girls would rather have a deep, meaningful conversation, every girl appreciates a sweet text. Which makes texting a quick and easy way to bring out the sparkle in her eye.

So this Valentine’s Day, instead of just bringing your beautiful date on a delicious dinner, and buying her chocolates, flowers, and jewelry, why not tell her that you love her, why you love and appreciate her, via text message, for every day of the week?

It’s something as simple as “I love you” in the middle of the day that will bring a smile to her face.

If you’re stumped and you’re not sure what to text your lovely lady, Mike’s got a really cool site about texting the romance back into your life. You can check it out here. He’s also got a pretty cool report called “The Three Magic Texts“. Read it and prepare for your girl to be floored this V-Day!

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