Love Yourself First

Do you ever feel like you haven’t loved or been loved enough in your life, and you desire more? Do you ever think, “When I find my true love then I’ll be complete?” Or perhaps you are already in a long-term relationship and you’d like it to be more loving?

As long as you search for love outside of yourself, you will never find it.

When it comes to love, people often think of ways to give and receive it by involving another person. But love has nothing to do with someone else at all. If you think love is what you want, you’ll be searching for it your whole life. That’s like searching for the pot-o-gold at the end of the rainbow. It’s just not there.

Love is inside of you. It is your birthright.

No matter how hard you try, you just won’t find ever lasting love anywhere else but within. You can’t earn it or perform for it. Love is not what you want. Love is what you are. This is a very important distinction.

If you think love is what you want, you’ll spend your life searching for it. But if you know love is what you are, you’ll spend your life sharing it. By sharing love you will find what the searching would have never given you. So awaken and reconnect with your love within.

As you connect with the love inside, you will be able to share it with others.  Just by being the love, you will attract more love to you and create the love-filled life you desire.

Without feeling your own powerful love it is impossible to give love to others. So, how easy is it for you to connect to the love within yourself? It all begins with loving yourself.

Here are three things I’d like you to try this week to help you get started:

1. Do something loving for yourself every day. Ask yourself each day, “What do I desire?” and give it to yourself. Do for yourself what you wish others would do for you. Take care of yourself first. Romance yourself like you want to be romanced and fill your glass with your own love.

2. Find a quiet place and close your eyes. Take three deep breaths to ground yourself within. Now, connect with the feeling of love. Visualize someone you love such as your child, your best friend or even your pet. Or think of something you love doing, like a project you are passionate about, or an activity that makes you happy. This exercise will trigger the love that is already inside of you. Hold on to this feeling for as long as you can. Be that love.

3. Now for the hardest of the three exercises – hearing and convincing yourself that you love… well – you. Go to a mirror, look into your eyes (this may feel squeamish or uncomfortable but don’t shy away) and tell yourself, “I love you”. Feel this love for yourself as you say it and mean it.

These simple but effective exercises will help you connect with the love inside of you and be in a positive position to give and receive love.

Every relationship, including the one with yourself, is one of give and take. What goes up must come down. When you authentically feel loving, the universe matches that love. People naturally want to love you in return.

Begin the flow of love by feeling and giving love to yourself.

Have you mastered the art of appreciating and loving yourself? If yes, how have you managed to do this? Or are you trying to push past barriers and feel love for yourself?