In the age of capitalism, mass media and consumer lifestyle when everything, even emotions and trust, is nothing more than consumable goods and people are exchangeable, it seems that relationships have lost their weight.
Nowadays, people often change their partners without establishing and feeling real connections. Even if they do start “going steady” with someone, somehow being in a relationship doesn’t seem to have the same meaning and depth as it used to.
Fortunately, growing up in a happy family, I’ve had an opportunity to witness love and marriage at their noblest and purest – through my parents. With them as my role models and guides, I’ve learnt what a true and happy marriage looks like, which is why I’m living by the old-fashioned advice that filled my relationship with love, support and respect.
Parents as life teachers
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – Henry Ward Beecher
My parents have always been a perfect couple, overcoming their obstacles and celebrating their victories together. They might not even realise the importance of the role they’ve played in my romantic life. As every child, I always looked up to them and soaked in everything they did. I always noticed their hidden glances filled with love and gentleness, little gestures of appreciation and every kiss of tenderness.
For me, such a fulfilling and happy marriage represents an example of true and unconditional love that I hoped to have in my life. Their relationship shaped my personality and has helped me adopt true values. I’m grateful for having them to teach me about the “old-fashioned” ways that guided me through life and to my soulmate.
A marriage made in heaven
“As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two.” – Thomas Adams
No two people are more perfect for each other than my parents. They truly are one soul living in two bodies connected with a sacred bond. Owing two them, I’ve learnt the true meaning of a happy marriage that makes you and your spouse invincible and motivates you to keep going even when you don’t think you can.
Subconsciously, I’ve adopted the “traditional recipe” for a happy marriage from my parents. I’ve learnt the importance of nurturing open and honest communication, support and trust. With my parents having different hobbies and interests, I’ve also learnt how important it is to have some “me time” in your relationship when you can reconnect with yourself.
Above all, I learned how important it is to cherish and work on your relationship. My parents have always had time to go on dates, which they still do even though they are over 60.
They also took time to make plans for the future and always thought about their future independent living options, and have made it a point to look into retirement resorts in advance. Even when they were young, then when they had children and now when there are just two of them again – they always plan ahead for their future, wishing to live out their retirement period in a careless way. But most importantly, they’ve loved each other unconditionally, honestly and with all their hearts, even through the most difficult periods of their lives.
In good times and bad, for better or for worse
“The happiness of married life depends upon making small sacrifices with readiness and cheerfulness.” – John Selden
Life and each of its aspects are filled with moments of joy, happiness, peacefulness, as well as sadness and tears. Having faith in your heart and your loved one by your side is what can help you get through those periods of difficulty. Even the strongest marriages come across obstacles that spouses can overcome only by working together.
My parents have always known how to reach a compromise and overcome obstacles in their relationship. Having their marriage as my guide, my spouse and I have always managed to resolve our issues by openly talking to each other, accepting each other for who we are and loving each other because of and not in spite of our flaws.
I’ve never rushed into relationships, so when I found my partner I knew I’ve found my soulmate. My husband brings out the best person in me and I’m not afraid to be myself around him. Our relationship is filled with trust, intimacy, tenderness and pure love. We aren’t afraid to own up to our mistakes and forgive each other for making them.
Just like my parents, we know the importance of having open communication, respecting each other and fighting for our marriage and family no matter what. We have been blessed with true love and we intend to nurture it for the rest of our lives.
When you love and respect each other, you and your partner will support each other in realizing your dreams and building a happy life. Keep in mind that this is important not only for you, but also for your children who will follow your example and have your marriage as their lodestar.