If you want to find the way to happiness, there’s 1 simple skill that should always be a part of your personal growth ‘tool box’. No, it’s not a way to make a bunch of money or get great sex. Nor is it a mansion, a yacht, a gorgeous bod, cooperative spouse or well-behaved kids.

Don’t get me wrong, all of that stuff is great, but without this one skill, even a squillionaire’s happiness is truly limited.

In his deeply inspirational book Spiritual Liberation, Michael Bernard Beckwith shares a list of the skills that ‘evolved’ peeps share. The one I’m talking about here?

Forgiveness

Oh yeah, that’s right folks – the big ‘F’. Without it? Expect limitation, disappointment and an ever-turning wheel of frustration. Why? Because forgiveness sets the forgiver free.

Beckwith offers a wonderful method for forgiving even the most rascally of irksome characters in our lives. He teaches this method to others and sees it as part of a practice of forgiveness. Ready? Here goes …

Visualization for Forgiveness

  1. Find a quiet place where you wont be disturbed for awhile.
  2. Sit with your spine straight and your shoulders relaxed.
  3. ‘Relax’ the front of your body, allowing a ‘softening’ of your heart area without dropping your shoulders.
  4. Bring to your mind’s eye an image of the person you want to forgive.
  5. Now you’re going to ‘mentally broadcast’ your message. Like this:

“[Name] I forgive you and set you free. Your actions no longer have power over me. I acknowledge that you are doing the best that you can, and I honor you in your process of unfoldment. You are free and I am free. All is well between us. Peace is the order of the day.”

There – Not so Bad, Is It?

But it gets better!! What if you know you’ve done wrong and wish to be forgiven? Well, he’s got a beautiful method for that, too. Simply follow the above steps and, after calling the person to mind whom you have hurt or caused harm, mentally broadcast the following message:

“[Name] I know that within you there is an energy of forgiveness that forgives me and sets me free. My words and actions have no power over you. You are free and I am free. All is well between our spirits. Peace is the order of the day.”

Do you believe that forgiveness is the single, most important skill on the way to happiness? If not, then what do you believe that skill is? Leave a comment and let us know.

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  • Forgiveness just may be the most important skill on the way to happiness. Why? Because when you forgive, you are letting all negative energy go from yourself. This opens up the pathway for happiness and anything else that you wan in your life. Forgiving anyone and everyone will ultimately lead you to happiness ;)
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  • Avatar Steve Dahl says:

    Real Forgiveness is recognizing there was nothing to Forgive.

    I like Michael Beckwith’s exercise it is a nice stepping stone.

    Many of you have recognized that your experiences of Life are created by your beliefs and stories.

    Sometimes we get so involved in our stories, that we think they are true.

    While we are under the power of these stories we become insane; Doing things that no rational person would ever do, unless they were under the influence, under the influence of their beliefs and stories.

    While we are under this insanity of our beliefs and stories, we create all of these stories and emotions that we have been injured and slighted by another. While we are under the influence of these beliefs and stories, we know the other party harmed us and definitely did it intentionally.

    We may so insanely believe that the story is true, that we believe we must have retribution.

    If you have the nerve to see your beliefs and stories for the fairy tales that they are, you might notice some of the most fantastic story tellers around you.

    Governments, religions and the media are some of the most wonderful story tellers, capable of hooking into our personal stories of fear, greed, or any other emotion.

    Once these great story tellers pull us into their story, they can manipulate us and direct us at will.

    Unless we are capable of seeing the illusions for what they really are, we are trapped in the story and our only options are to follow the plot.

    We have gone to war over beliefs and stories.

    Over the ages, millions upon millions have rallied around a story and lead to a slaughter, over nothing more than some beliefs and some interesting stories.

    Look at every conflict, from some child upset because their sibling took their toy, to a dictator, so insecure and afraid of losing power, he can create a belief and story in his populace, capable of getting them to die for him.

    What is patriotism, but just some interesting beliefs and stories?

    There is nothing wrong with our beliefs and stories; we need them to create the wonderful experiences of life. We can’t experience any emotion without a belief and story behind it.

    I find this wonderful game of life is a lot more fun, when I consciously choose what I want to experience in life, and then consciously choose the belief that creates that experience.

    You might say “you’re just fooling yourself, you’re just pretending”. My response is, “you’re absolutely right, we are all pretending. Some of us know we are just pretending”.

    Wouldn’t it be interesting, if we remembered that the other person in our story is under the influence of their own beliefs and stories, struggling through their own delusions; Delusions that have absolutely nothing to do with us or any basis in reality?

    What if we remembered that the other person is stuck in their own personal story, following their own personal script?

    What they are thinking and doing has absolutely nothing to do with you.

    The person is just responding to their own personal beliefs and stories.

    No matter what is going on, no matter how personal it feels, we are creating what we are feeling.
    We are in control of our experiences through our personal beliefs and stories.

    Is it possible, is it really possible that you have never been harmed or slighted except in your delusional story?

    Could you recognize, everything you have ever felt, is based upon your personal story and not what another has said or done?

    Could you imagine how empowering this realization is?

    You’re in control of your life, not another.

    Could you imagine the implications around the concept of forgiveness?
    If you saw the illusions for what they really are, you’d recognized you have never been slighted or harmed.

    You’d recognize there was never anything to forgive.

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  • Avatar Setep says:

    yes i believe that, up to and including forgiving oneself

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  • Avatar Prehistoricthesaurus says:

    I agree and assert that:
    A. You have the choice to knowingly cause harm
    B. No one with any moral character believes harm is ever necessary
    C. You have the choice to work to circumvent the cause of the harm
    D. Acting with misinformation in haste is the root of conflict
    E. Once all condradictions are overcome, acts will no longer cause harm.
    F. It requires a conscious conviction to not act until all contradictions are circumvented
    G. You will eventually be presented with choices in which it will seem impossible not to cause harm
    H. If you think it is impossible, you have been misinformed.
    I. Never act in haste because you are concerned your goal may never present an opportunity again.
    J. You determine your goals, the solvency of your moral structure, and your exposure to opportunity.

  • Avatar Michaelfrade199 says:

    Forginess is a key part to move forward with peace in your heart. I experienced this myself.sharing my articleand hope it inpires someone that it is never too late,or just let go of your ego to make it easier. http://www.motivateus.com/stories/the-art-of-forgiveness.htm

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