“If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.”
–Lemony Snicket

Fear is one of the driving factors of life. It’s just natural. No one wants to fail or make a mistake, so it’s easy to learn to fear the worst and make decisions to avoid bad consequences. Sometimes this strategy can be smart, but other times it can actually make your life worse.

Saying no closes doors to opportunities that could potentially be positive. You told your friend that you wouldn’t go out with them tonight because you didn’t want to mess up your sleep schedule, but maybe you could have met someone who would have changed your career or become the love of your life. Don’t let your curiosity be dulled by routine and fear.

There have been too many times when I’ve said no and been left wishing I had said yes. It’s one of the worst feelings. Embarrassment and regret rolled into one sometimes seem much worse than eating that extra cupcake or spending time with friends on a work night.

The key is to learn to balance how often you say yes with how often you say no. Here are some reasons you should consider saying yes to more things in your life while still maintaining that critical balance.

1. Saying Yes Attracts Positive Energy

When you say yes to doing something new, you’re telling the universe that you’re open for adventure. You’re ready to risk a little to have fun, and having that open mind and heart will attract more positive energy into your life.

You end up getting more enjoyment out of life, and that happiness spills over to the people you’re around. It will multiply and spread joy to everyone you and your friend group comes across, all because you started to say yes.

2. You’ll Use Your Voice More

How often do you find yourself wanting to say something in a group of people but telling yourself no, don’t speak your mind because it doesn’t matter? If you’re introverted, this might happen to you all the time, and it’s one of the most important times to start saying yes.

Shonda Rhimes, a fellow introvert, explains how she spent a year saying yes to everything and how it taught her valuable lessons, like how to speak up more. Sometimes, your best cheerleader has to be yourself.

3. You Can Find New Inspiring People

To learn something new, remember that it’s okay to admit that you need a teacher. It’s not easy to learn how to do something new if you’re not used to doing it or don’t know how. That’s where motivational speakers can help!

The internet provides easy access to a list of motivational speakers who can encourage you to say yes and motivate you when you feel discouraged. Try focusing on making it habit by aiming to say yes for at least 30 days.

4. You’ll Stretch Your Mind

Think about what it feels like to exercise when you haven’t done so in a long time. The next day, your muscles are going to be tired, but you’ll feel good knowing that you’ve pushed your body to be healthier. The same thing has to happen with your mind.

Saying yes to new things will eventually make you feel tired, but push through it. Focus on your goal of inviting more goodness into your life, and don’t retreat to saying no to everything.

5. You Won’t Second Guess Yourself Anymore

When you start to say yes to everything, you’ll learn more about yourself. You’ll know what you like and don’t like, which means that you’ll eventually know when to say no. Sometimes saying no will be good. You don’t want to do anything that could hurt yourself or others just for the sake of saying yes.

The good news is that by saying yes, you’ll learn when to say no, which means you’ll figure out the right balance of the two for your life.

If you’ve been wondering what you can do to change your life, don’t feel like you need to sign up for a gym membership or redo your house. Try saying yes more often. You’ll take advantage of new opportunities to enjoy life and grow into your skin.

Keep your health and safety in mind, then start saying yes. There’s an endless world of good experiences out there waiting for you.


Lemony Snicket Quote: https://holidappy.com/greeting-cards/10-Life-quotes-to-remember-the-next-time-you-need-to-say-yes
1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-view-here/201703/bring-positive-energy-your-life-and-create-your-dreams
2. https://www.ted.com/talks/shonda_rhimes_my_year_of_saying_yes_to_everything
3. https://www.leadingauthorities.com/speaker-list/motivational-speakers

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