Do you know what the single most significant barrier that stands between you and the life of your dreams is? No, it’s not your bank account. And it’s not your boss, your job, your location or your looks. It’s your limiting beliefs.
There’s just no doubt about it anymore, what you believe about yourself, your life and your world is exactly what you’re going to experience. So if you’ve got some major limits in your confidence, your self-worth, or general belief in who you can be, what you can do and what you can have – then you’re going to create a life experience that’s, well, limiting.
But fear not! :) You can overcome limiting beliefs. How do we know? Because plenty of other folks have, and if they can do it, so can you. Here’s a few tips on how to overcome limiting beliefs in any (or all) areas of your life. Warning: this could change everything. So if you’ve got family members, friends or lovers who are attached to you being ‘small’ in the world, you may want to ignore this post.
1. The Past Doesn’t Command the Future
We tend to have this nasty ‘neuro’ habit of believing that if we’ve been limited before, we’ll always be limited; if we’ve failed before, we’ll always fail; if we’ve been overweight for much of our lives, we’ll always be overweight; if we haven’t had success in love, we’ll never have success in love … you get the picture. Why ‘neuro’ habit? Because after awhile, our brain starts literally wiring in the expectation and belief. These are called ‘synaptical connections.’ But the thing is, you can change the connections any time you want! Okay, it takes a little focus and intention, but there’s nothing physical that’s keeping you from brain-change, and from letting go of the past.
BUT – and it’s a big ‘but’ – if you believe that your past experiences have pre-determined your future, then you wont change the wiring. And if you don’t change the wiring, your past will indeed, command your future.
2. Intend to Believe a New Story
Yeah, you’ve heard it before: ‘fake it ’til ya make it,’ or ‘act as if,’ or plain old affirmations and visualzation. Actually what’s best is to do all of these things. If you want to be free of limiting beliefs, you have to intend to do so and then implement some mental habits that support the change.
3. “Change your Thoughts, Change your Life”
Dr. Wayne Dyer said it (actually, he wrote a whole book on it) and plenty of folks have confirmed it through experience: What you think is what you get. So if you want to overcome limiting beliefs, you’ve got to stop thinking about them. More than that, you’ve got to replace them with new beliefs that support your expansion and your greatness.
4. Pay Attention
The first step in transformation is becoming aware of the problem. If you’ve read this far, then you probably already know you have limiting beliefs. But do you know when, where and how often they show up? Figuring this out is key to making a change. You’ve got to pay attention. When you pay attention to where your mind is drifting when you’re ‘not thinking about anything,’ you might be surprised at what you find. And when you find those limiting beliefs spinning round and round, building upon each other, crowding out silence and peace of mind, then you know where and when to make the changes that will stick.
5. Get a Buddy
If you want to accelerate this whole process, then find yourself an accountability buddy. The two of you can share your growing awareness of the beliefs that limit you as well as the beliefs and words you’re using to replace the ‘old story’. You can also (gently) call each other out when one of you starts falling into negative, limiting comments and conversations. The Buddy System ain’t just for Boy Scouts anymore :)
We’re so fortunate to live in this time. Why? Because today we understand the power of our thoughts, feelings and intentions. We know now that the power to create our lives isn’t outside of us but inside. We don’t have to be victims anymore. With this knowledge – and some discipline and commitment – we can indeed free ourselves of limiting beliefs and live a life of unlimited potential!
What do you do to transform limiting beliefs into expansive ones? Leave us a comment and let us know.