Every so often it’s fun to just sit and daydream about the future, but when you begin to obsess over the future, of “what isn’t here”, “when will it get here”, and “God, I wish I was there already”– this is future tripping and this is a big no no.
This is an example of resisting the present moment, the now. Resisting the now is setting you up for many windfalls down the wrong road. Pretending like it isn’t happening, ignoring your current situation, or like some people, just hating every second and complaining about it, is definitely not going to get you to where you want to be.
But what can you do if you’re in a situation you don’t like? How do you change your situation when it doesn’t feel good and you wish you were somewhere else? Well there are a few things you can do:
1) Remove yourself completely from the situation. Why bother being somewhere you do not like? Even if it’s as simple as stepping outside to get fresh air, this minor change of scenery can give you the refreshing feeling you need.
2) Change it. Perhaps you don’t like the conversation that’s going on, change it, or remove yourself as suggested above. If there is something, anything, that you can do to change the circumstances of the situation and give yourself control again – do it (instead of falling victim to the moment).
3) Completely and fully accept it. It’s happening now, it might be not what you want, but you can try to make the best of it, or just accept “this is my present moment, I fully accept it”. Fully accepting the present moment is very important. By resisting something that is already happening, you add energy to it by thinking about how much you don’t like it or by wishing it would be over already. When you continuously keep recreating this bad experience in your mind, or hashing over how much you hate what is going on, pretty soon it’s all you think about – and you’ll end up attracting it into your life.
These few tips will help make any uncomfortable situations a little bit better. Forget if you feel rude by stepping out; just politely excuse yourself. Either way, just as it is important to be thankful for the current moment, you always have a choice. Just ask yourself “what do I choose in this moment?”
The Universe throws us these circumstances as hurdles for us to jump over and get stronger. If we can’t pass the first hurdle, then certainly we will be seeing more of the same situation until we can prove that we can handle it.
Ignoring the now and only thinking of the future is like saying where you are right now just isn’t good enough. But you can never get “there” without being “here”. After all, “there” really doesn’t exist yet.
When you begin to obsess and drone over the future, you forget that the most precious, unique, moments don’t come from the future. They happen right now. Every moment is a new and brilliantly unique moment because it’s never happened before. EVER.
Do you have a technique that keeps you in the present when you feel your mind drifting to the future? Share your tips to this very common problem below!